Would A Pastor Marry Us
I am currently in a good relationship and have become engaged in the last 3 weeks. I was raised in the church but he wasn't. He has said that he would start to go with me if I wanted to. How will it work for us to be married by a member of the clergy?
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---margaret on 12/29/06
Helpful Blog Vote (11)
Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. There are no marriages in heaven.
---discipleabct on 3/13/08|
Are both saved or both unbelievers or unequally yoked together? In any case, it should be your decision. However, you should be equally yoked.
---catherine on 6/27/07|
It depends on the rules in your church. Some wouldn't marry if the two people were not members of the same faith. Others would. You need to check with them now so you don't get unhappy surprises later.
---john on 6/26/07|
Being 'raised in the church' does not make one a Christian. Starting to go to church to please someone else does not make one a Christian either. I might be wrong (and I don't mean this to sound offensive) but it sounds as if you will be equally yoked as 2 unbelievers so your minister might marry you. If you are a Christian you should not even contemplate this marriage and your pastor should tell you this when you ask him about it.
---m.p.a. on 12/31/06|
Question--why don't you ask your OWN pastor, first?
Isn't that the logical thing?
---Jack on 12/29/06|
You can approach a member of the clergy, He/She should see both of you for precounseling and will make a determination at that time. Remember that some denominations are more conservative than others so you might want to try some of the more liberal denominations if you anticipate any significant issues.
---Phil_the_Elder on 12/29/06|
Engagement evangelism vs. dating evangelism. The fast track to getting that 'fish' cleaned up before you reach the altar. This cleaning usually rubs off after the wedding cake is eaten. In other words, having your teeth cleaned is a better investment. The bible says Christians are to be equally yoked with other Christians in marriage. A spray of air freshener doesn't last very long.
---Cindy on 12/29/06|
Praise the Lord! It is good that he has heard from the Spirit of God, and wanting to congregate with you and other in the name of Jesus Christ. I believe that when you go to ask a pastor to marry you, he should ask both of you first and foremost if ya are SAVED in Christ Jesus. I am sure he will ask many other questions, but it is needful for both of you to be saved in Christ (making you both of the same seed) to have a Godly Union. God Bless you both.
---ShawnM.T on 12/29/06|
Is he a born again believer in Jesus Christ? Are you? That is a more important question than attending church.
---Madison1101 on 12/29/06|
Set no date.
Let the man be saved and come to the knowledge that his eternal soul is more pressing than an earthly marriage.
If he cannot respect that then we have to question, is he really loving you by neglecting this issue and forcing marriage to receive what he WANTS instead of what you both need?
---Pharisee on 12/29/06|
I guess the first question would be, is your fiance a Christian? That would be my first question to ask. If he is, then I would have you, your fiance and me sit down for a serious discussion.
---Bishop_+James on 12/29/06|
Most reputable ministers will require premarital counseling. If you are not saved, that minister should give you the plan of salvation for both you and your fiance. That should happen on the very first counseling session. If the pastor is not certain that this marriage is of God, he/she could decline to do the ceremony.
---Susie on 12/29/06|
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