He's Pure But Not A Christian
I've never dated anyone in my life (I'm 20), but I'm in love with a non-Christian . I'm sure this person is right for me and understands me. This person is more pure than anyone I know (no drinking, smoking, and is saving it for marriage). It's like a fairy tale. What should I do?
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---Athonia on 1/12/07
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If you choose to obey, you can expect God to bless you and you will never regret it.
If you choose to disobey, well, that is sin isn't it? What do you expect God to do for you then? You will have demonstrated to Him that you believe you know better than He does.
Throughout these blogs you will find lots of people who talk about having made the mistake (sinned the sin) you are contemplating and lived to regret it.
---Bruce5656 on 4/30/08|
You both need to be born again if you have not done so already. Fairy tales are not what life is all about. You will learn that soon enough. Prince Charming has flaws and so does Snow White. They will become all too apparent when and if you wed. Take Jesus into your relationship, and he is certainly not a fairy tale.
---Robyn on 8/7/07|
athonia,ohhhh but to be 20 again.you atate at 20 you have never dated.my advice would be take it slow, then after that slower again.
---tom2 on 8/7/07|
The Anthonia in two years time will be a different Anthonia of today.
You're still very young. Keep him as a friend but not boyfriend. Does he belong to another religion?
Take it easy - you've got a long life ahead of you. Your decision today will affect your whole life. Crawl s-l-o-w-l-y.
---Caring on 2/7/07|
"I'm sure this person is right for me and understands me."
He isn't right for you. Don't be unequally yoked together with an unbeliever. Be his friend, nothing more.
---Kay6588 on 2/6/07|
The believer sanctifies the unbeliever 1 Cor 7:13-16, but this is risky - just ask Solomon. The key is that the unbeliever must support you in your faith, if he is dismissive or tries to persuade you to avoid religious practices, then you are better off without him, lest he drag you away from your faith and your salvation.
---lorra8574 on 2/6/07|
Be not unequally yoke together. Need I say more?
---CATHERINE on 2/6/07|
Please be careful with this. I have been married for 6 years to an unbeliever, well he says he is undecided, and let me tell you that it is really hard. We do not see eye to eye on anything. Lots of hurt. Lots of tears. Think on this one. Good luck.
---tracy on 2/6/07|
Wow, you have so much to consider. First you must obey the Word if you want God's blessing. Then you must consider that if he became a Christian to keep from losing you it may not be real and wouldn't last. You must ask God for wisdom. It's more lonely to be unequally yoked than to be alone. Our first love is always hard to let go no matter what our age. Obey God.
---faye4464 on 1/14/07|
The Bible says not to be unequally yoked to unbelievers. He may be pure, but if he is not a Christian, do NOT be with him. His non-Christianity could and WILL turn you into a non-believer as well. His faith should be first on your list, then purity & character.
---Leslie on 1/14/07|
Your only 20 for crying out loud! And "never dated anyone". How about giving it some time before jumping into such an important thing as marriage with the first guy you've dated? In the mean time, by example, show this guy what it's like to be a Child of God. Maybe one day he will want what you have, then, and only then, you could think about marrying him. (mho)
---sue on 1/13/07|
Serve God,listen to His Word of Wisdom and not be unequally joined to a sinner. Though he's wonderful person there'll be conflict. God first,husband second, spouses don't understand Christians desire to serve God,go to church, be involved with Christian activities. It isn't unusuall for them to become jealous of your relationships,including God,and time you spend in church. You should explain how important God is and ask him to go to church with you,then pray for his salvation. Only marry after saved.
---Darlene_1 on 1/12/07|
I met a man once who seemed like he was also pure. Turned out he was a closet alcoholic and made my life miserable.
---Susie on 1/12/07|
I agree with Bruce, "choose to obey." The bible says be doers of the word. It isn't God's will for christians to get married to non-christians. That is like putting a knife into an electric socket. The 2 are opposites and there is a consequence for doing so.
---Rickey on 1/12/07|
It's a set up for a hook up. But the hook will be in your jaw, and it won't be Godly. You better run. The devil walks around like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour.
Remember, he can disguise himself as an angel of light.
What looks pure and holy can turn into a nightmare.
---anonymous on 1/12/07|
We have all experienced these feelings that you have. Everyone who has tied the knott has had their prince and pricess. But the honeymoon is going to end as it always does and unless you are not really born again you will find out quickly that you are both driven by a different set of values. My advice to you is to follow what the Lord says in 2 Cor.6:14 because He knows what is best and looks far beyond feelings.
---john on 1/12/07|
Keep yourself pure.(God's way) Just be careful. I understand what you feel/mean. But Jesus clearly says do not be unequally yoked. I had 3 warnings before I got married to someone I thought was saved but now it's too late. Be vigilant. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you. He will. bless you:)
---sandiee on 1/12/07|
Athonia, MOST Christians are NOT Pure, but are Apostate. The only "Pure ones" are the ones who are washed in the Blood of Lamb, the ones who [ABIDE IN] the Holy Lamb of God slain from the foundation of the world/THE WORD, The ones who walk in Truth, and not deceit(Ephesians 5:5-16). God Bless!
---Mrs._Morgan on 1/12/07|
(2.) Athonia, "Wherefore be ye not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is."(Eph.5:17). God Bless!
---Mrs._Morgan on 1/12/07|
Both Bruse & Joseph have it 100% right! Do NOT be unequally yoiked with an unbeliever - I don't care how "pure" he is! I don't care how great your courtship is...
Unsaved + saved = miserable marriage.
There is no escape for those who disobey God's Word. He says don't do it, so it really is as simple as that. Of course, if you are determined to marry him anyway, you WILL get to reap what you have sown. Heartache is bound to happen if you are willful and stubborn!
---Crystal on 1/12/07|
The person is non Christian. I dont even know why you are considering the person for a relationship.As long as the person is unwilling to surrender to God, they are not right for you.
---pkay on 1/12/07|
Antonia...It is a fairy tale! But, remember fairy tales are not real. Reality is that if you become seriously involved with this non-Christian you will be unequally yoked. You can be a witness to him, but you cannot change him. You can pray for God to change him though. God can do that.
---Susie on 1/12/07|
I take it you are "Christian" & he has professed an unbelief.
Let your light shine in his presence, it may illuminate the darkness within him that prevents his submission to call of the Father in his life. Assuming he is open to salvation, be the light that leads him to the LORD.
Do not compromise & allow yourself to be yoked together with an unbeliever.
---joseph on 1/12/07|
You have two choices:
a. Obey God's word:
2 Corinthians 6:14, "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?"
b. Disobey God's word.
---Bruce5656 on 1/12/07|