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Desperation To Marry

Do you believe that those ready to jump into unequally yoked marriages listen to the warning from the Christians?
In their desperation to marry, do they care what God thinks?

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 ---Charlie on 1/12/07
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I believe they care what God thinks, BUT,love is blind. I believe some people deny that their relationship is wrong, and that there would be problems as a result of the unequally yoked issue. Denial is a huge factor in a lot of sin. Satan lies to believers and gets us to take our eyes off the prize.
---Madison1101 on 11/25/08

1) I was married for almost 13 yrs and even though we were both unbelievers, we were still completely unequally yoked. I never want to live like that again, there is nothing worse than being married and feeling all alone. I have been single now for 17 yrs and will not settle for someone whom I am unequally yoked with. Even if a Christian man came along, we would still need to be equally yoked, because even within Christianity, you can be unequally yoked and that can cause all kinds of problems.
---Holly4jc on 9/7/07

2) Of course I would only marry whomever God told me to, because ONLY God knows who the best mate for you will be and ONLY God knows the plans He has for the two of you to minister together for let HIM do the choosing and you can't go wrong! That's why I don't date...God will let me know when the man He has chosen for me appears in my life, to date anyone else would be pointless and would open the door to perhaps marrying that "unequally yoked" person. :-)
---Holly4jc on 9/7/07

I am sure they do care to what God thinks. May be they have been waiting on God for so long with out realizing that he has sent them a partner long time ago but they were expecting for Mr. or Ms. perfect. Then they realize the time has gone the dream of children is just about to end. have finished half or more of their useful years waiting and waiting.So, should we blame such people? No. Unequally yoked may be but it can be worked out if there is a room in each side.
---habtu on 9/6/07

In the experiences I've had both as a Youth Director and a Missionary who has given seminars on relationships, once the "harmones" kick in, most words of advice given are falling on "death ears". If I started listing all the reasons given for marrying non-Christians by Christians it would "fill a book." In most of the cases I've dealt with, it's a matter of, "going from the frying pan into the fire."
---wivv on 1/16/07

"I believe too many people are jumping into the water before learning how to swim and then act as though they don't understand why they are sinking." -- Amen, this is why God says we must FIRST wait on Him, before taking action in regard to many things(Psalms 27:14)(Psalms 37:34). God Bless!
---Mrs._Morgan on 1/16/07

There are always excuses to be found if we look hard enough. There are more divorces within Christianity than in the secular. I've been single for over seven years and i'm growing closer to the Lord. When my girlfriends were praying for a husband, I was praying that God would make me a good wife. I believe too many people are jumping into the water before learning how to swim and then act as though they don't understand why they are sinking.
---Stace9383 on 1/15/07

The Bible does say that it is better to marry than to burn with passion and some people use that as support, not wanting to realize that he still meant for us not to be unequally yoked. I've found it to be more lonely being unequally yoked than being alone. There is a difference in being alone and being lonely. I've adapted a quote from Alice Koller, "Being solitary is being alone well; being alone luxuriously immersed in doings of your own choice, aware of the fullness of His presence."
---faye4464 on 1/14/07

People generally don't listen to warnings. People do what they want. The greater issue: Christians are being fooled into believing that marrying another person who claims to be a Christian is automatically a good thing. What is a Chrisitan? Is someone a Christian because they tell you so, or because they go to church, sing praise music, lead bible studies, teach Sunday School? The divorce rate among "christians" is evidence that claiming to be "equally yoked" means very little.
---ralph7477 on 1/14/07

I have heard many people sharing what I would consider red flag flying at the top of a flag pole material, prior to marrying. I believe many times they want someone to say it will get better, give him/her a chance, because they have invested so much into the relationship. Not realizing that as Christians we will only advise what we know to be the truth, which always includes seeking God for answers.
---lynet on 1/13/07

As a pastor of over 20 years I have never had a couple who was planning an unequal yoke put off their marriage because of Scriptural advice. They have their minds made up and go around asking advice from lots of people but don't follow it until they meet someone who tells them there is nothing wrong with it because they know so and so who did it and everything turned out just fine.
---john on 1/13/07

Keep praying for your future spouse. Also, Gods timing is always right on. I married at age 27, and was praying for my wife since about age 18. I know now, that for me, marrying early would have been too early for me (and my wife said the same about her before I knew her). Just make sure you and your date have everything worked out before committing to marriage. Discuss finances before engaged. God Bless,keep reading your Bible!!
---Carl on 1/13/07

Some do and some don't. God gives His instructions about how to live here on this earth, in [His Word], it's up to us to obey those instructions or not, but not obeying those instructions always has a bad outcome. Very few people get converted in cases like this, and it's just wise to obey God. God Bless!
---Mrs._Morgan on 1/13/07

Jack has a very good point! There are people desperate to get married and seeking to find happiness outside of themselves. They think that having a husband or wife will fill a void in their life. I believe if they will fill this void with a one-on-one relationship with the Lord first, He will help them find the right mate, IF that is His Will for them. Nevertheless, they will still be happy, with themselves.
---Pat on 1/13/07

I believe they may care and listen but that there is a point of desperation... just as you said where they get SOOOO lonely (because they are not allowing Christ to fill that void only he can fill) that they feel they just have to go ahead and marry anyway. I have been very desperate myself but have learned that when i get hungry for god and get my eyes off me... then my lonliness will subside and i can be more patient in waiting for the man god has for me.
---Laura9549 on 1/13/07

On these very blogs I have noticed quite a few people here complain about how they wish they were married but can't find anyone.

On these same blogs I have seen at least an equal number complain that they are either in unhappy marriages or marriages that are about to collapse.
---Jack on 1/13/07

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