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Husband Still Having His Affair

My husband is having an affair. I was going to leave him, but he has told me to give him a month that he would make it work. What should i do, it's still going on?

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 ---Jackie on 2/14/07
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Hello.It is not right for your husband to be having an affair in the first place.You have given him the chance he asked for to show he would`nt do it anymore,yet he is still having the affair.First,go to God and pray about what you should do.Maybe marriage counseling?If this does`nt work,break your bonds with him as he does`nt want things to change.It will be hard to do but in your best interest.God bless you.
---Rita on 9/16/07

Make the choice for him and leave. Serperate for awhile. If he is true to his word to work it out, then you need to at least try to give your marriage another chance. Within that month if things don't go good and he's still cheating, then leave him.
---Rebecca_D on 9/16/07

I am in a similar situation. The bible says it is okay to divorce for sexual immorality. But if the sinner comes to you and ask for forgiveness then you are to reconcile. God is for marriage. Study your bible to make your decision.
---Sonia_Williams on 3/6/07

Give him a month to...break off the affair? Have you sought spiritual counseling from a pastor or other spiritual covering? It is easy to tell you to leave or stay, but whichever decision you make, you have to have a peace about it. The bible does say you can leave...I did.
---Lorie on 2/15/07

If you love him enough to endure this long I suggest you at least show him it's important to you. Begin the work for divorce and show it to him. Require him to see a Christian counselor with you to find his reasons for cheating. (It might not be simple.) If he truly loves you then he'll go with you and try to heal himself.
If he doesn't even try then divorce him without guilt. God will be the only thing to heal his heart. I don't like the idea of divorce, but you do have biblical justification.
---Kyle on 2/15/07

The Bible says that devorse is okay if the other person is having an affair. Leave this guy.
---Leslie on 2/15/07

Your husband has already shown that he is not stopping this affair if it is still going on. Instead of a month, I'd give him more like a year to prove himself. Get him out of your house until he proves himself. You are not the one who is committing the sinful act. He is and he needs to be held accountable for it.
---Susie on 2/15/07

Jackie, the only way for your marriage to "work" is for it to be "healed" of the infidelity your husband has caused. How does he plan to make it work? Is he planning on seeing an exorcist to get the lust out of his system? He's lying. Tell him he needs Jesus as his Lord and Savior, and to Repent, be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of his sins, and he shall be saved. No one can just "STOP" doing something. Everyone needs God's help.
---donna6598 on 2/15/07

His one month time frame is a stalling tactic, trying to buy himself some time so he can figure out how to minimize the consequences of his actions. He is using the time to weigh his options.
---ralph7477 on 2/15/07

He's putting you on. At this point he's, "having his cake and icing too." He really does not believe you will leave him - and he may be correct. Leave him, and tell him when he's ready to take marriage counseling, you will come back - AFTER the counseling sessions have been completed and he's ready to stay faithful to you.
---wivv on 2/14/07

Give him a month?

You accepted that?

You shouldn't of had to endured it another day!
The Lord hates divorce but cases of adultery are altogether different.
This can't be a healthy relationship, and it's damaging to you, how long do you compromise and let your husband go on in his depravity at your expense?
If you gave him a month and lived up to your word then there's no reason to wait, but still no reason to divorce immediately, separation could change a lot.
---Pharisee on 2/14/07

Tell him to leave. You're not the one who is breaking your vows. It's him, so he's the one who should leave. Then leave it up to him to straighten out like he says. If not then it's up to you to do what you feel is best.
---john on 2/14/07

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