I Believe Divorce Is Wrong
I am an apostolic woman who believes that divorce is wrong and that remarriage if your spouse is alive is adultery. My husband of 10 years has no morals, is hateful, and a deadbeat Dad. We have 3 kids and they have no faith in him. What do I do?
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---denise on 2/20/07
Helpful Blog Vote (13)
No, Susie, there is nothing wrong with remaining single and celibate. However, Christ tells us it is better to marry than to burn.
---kandee on 6/5/09|
If you do this: 1Corinthians 11:3-10, 13, 15-16, 14:34-35, Ephesians 5:22-24, 33, Colossians 3:18, 1Timothy 2:11-14, Titus 2:5, 1Peter 3:1-2, 5-6, and he does this: 1Corinthians 7:33, Ephesians 5:25-29, 31, 33, Colossians 3:19, 1Timothy 5:8, 1Peter 3:7, this resolves the situation. If you violate Genesis 3:16 (Genesis 4:7), and / or he violates 1John 4:12 then you have problems. If he / she doesn't consider the others best interest, he / she might easily be abusive.
p.s. 1) Don't uncover your husbands nakedness, but Galatians 6:1. 2) Submit to your husband. 3) Pray. 4) Be kind, Ephesians 4:32. 5) All, get saved and trust in Jesus Christ.
---Glenn on 5/26/09|
Do what God would do. You husband has committed spiritual adultry and the marriage is dead. You will not feel good about this though until you have tried everything and it all has failed. Seek help from God by prayer.
---james on 6/8/08|
You should pray for him. God can touch his heart and change his life. I believe that divorce is wrong. The only way you could get a divorce is if he is cheating on you. But show him Gods love and do not call him names in front of your kids. But the most important thing is pray for him and God can change his life.
---diane on 6/5/08|
You are to study your Bible about the divorce issue and you may be surprised.
What do your kids have to do with your relationship to your husband? The Bible teaches them to honor him no matter how they "feel" about what he is doing.
---Elder on 5/31/08|
You can start praying, if you are a true born-again believer. It may take some time. If it takes many years to help create messes, please have patience with the one absolute true God.
---catherine on 8/28/07|
denise - PRAY! Ask Father God what to do. That's what I did when my husband was hitting me and bashing me around. I've been through a divorce and will share how God orchestrated mine. I believe the same way you do. I believe "God hates divorce" and if I remarry, I'd be committing adultery. I'd be happy to share what Father God did for me. You can write to me here at donna6598.
---donna6598 on 8/28/07|
What do you mean by 'no morals' Denise? Is he an adulterer? Either way I have to agree with Pharisee. Show this man love and love your children and show them that he has some good deep inside. NEVER put him down in front of the children! When you say 'deadbeat Dad' it sounds as if you are not living together and he ignores you and the children. Are you living together or has he left you and the children?
---NVBarbara on 2/25/07|
If put away does not mean divorce do you believe that a Man can put away his wife if so WHERE? and just go marry someone else. It would be better for you to go study and show yourself approved before you preach an accursed Gospel one not written in the Holy Bible. Try Matth 5, Matth 19, Mark 10, Romans 7, Corith 7 and look up Divorce and post again this time with the Word of God! or say this is your opinion.
---Carla5754 on 2/25/07|
We can't post web sites so I won't. But go to search, type in divorce hope maybe you can find help. I did that. Came across the truth about scripture. It helped me tremendously. I found out that in the bible in Malachi the translation should of been put away not divorce, God hates the putting away of women not the divorce. If they were just put away without being divorced the women couldn't take care of herself. it was a death sentence. Freedom is in Christ. He doesn't want us to be in bondage.
---Gail on 2/23/07|
Susie - NOPE! I agree with you 100%
---donna6598 on 2/21/07|
First of all you evaluate your Husband of 10yrs as having no morals and hateful. what happened to the man you married did he change? or was he always this way? Ok, why call him names? By the sounds of things you prolly call him dead beat in front of the children? Divorce? I would suggest you remember why you we first saved and what morals you had concerning the (lost) and re- evaluate how you help one that is in need of God, this lost soul is actually your husband. A good start would be LOVE!
---Carla5754 on 2/21/07|
don't bail out, what has that got to do with faith?
The only thing they'll learn from this is taking the easy way out, they can't choose who their Father is and they have to learn to love unlovable people.
Grace's advice is worldly and harmful
---Pharisee on 2/21/07|
Why is it that when anyone posts on these blogs about a marital problem, they always bring up the remarriage part? Why can't they just think about a separation instead of a divorce? Why are they always already talking about another marriage? Is there anything wrong with staying single and living a celibate life?
---Susie on 2/21/07|
If you are saying your husband is a lost cause then get your children out of that unhealthy environment. No one says that if you leave you have to divorce him and even if you divorce you don't have to remarry. The emotional scars that living in an environment full of hate and disrespect will harm your children and possibly turn them away from God, especially if you say you are staying because of God.
---grace3869 on 2/21/07|
Sue, you are funny, when you told that woman to live with the hateful Man. It's late.
---catherine on 2/21/07|
Well, I guess because of your belefs you really cant do too much. Just live with this hateful man and pray a lot. Pray for the kids. They will most likely grow up really affected adversly by all this hate in the house.
---sue on 2/20/07|
You can pray for your husband and your children. Model for your children the respect and love you have for your husband in spite of his failings. Read "The Power of a Praying Wife" by Stormie O'Martian, and learn how to pray for your husband and your marriage.
---Madison1101 on 2/20/07|
Submit to him when you can, to show your faith to your children.
Believe the Lord's promise that your children's salvation is sure through you. (1 Cor7:14)
Keep Jesus in your heart and in your home, sacrifice yourself for his name. Do your best to respect your husband's position even if he's not respectable.
Show those children how to overcome evil with good. Don't lose your faith.
---Pharisee on 2/20/07|
Remain a virtuous woman unto your husband and keep your children sanctified & holy unto the Lord. Always believe and walk in the full truth of Gods word; NO MATTER WHAT your circumstances may be! For God has called us to peace!
---ShawnM.T on 2/20/07|
1 Cor.7:13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
1 Cor.7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
1 Cor.7:15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath CALL US TO PEACE.
---ShawnM.T on 2/20/07|
You have already answered your own question. If you don't believe in divorce, you have no choice but to stay with your husband. You can pray 24/7 that the Lord will change your husband.
---Susie on 2/20/07|