Adjusting To Husband's Death
Due to my husband's death and other circumstances, I am selling my country home of the past 40 years and moving to the town. Please tell me how to adjust to this change so I won't be depressed. I am a Christian, and I know God has plans for my future.
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---Nan on 2/26/07
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Nan, I am so sorry for your loss. Time and God will help to heal the sorrow you feel now. We have no guarantees that our lives will be easy, but we do have the promise that God will never leave or forsake us. Send me a note if you would like to talk. I will be praying for you. God Bless.
---Pam on 6/5/08|
Nan: You have my deepest sympathy and prayers. Pleas do not cut yourself off from others. Perhaps you can find persons in similar situations and form a support group. Do volunteer work at your church or social agency. Do you have kids? What about a pet? That will give you something to do and the pet will bring you love and joy.
---Robyn on 9/4/07|
I waited almost 20 years for a mate, while others had theirs.
I was a member of a good church. I had Christian friends, bible studies, activities, conferences, shared meals, all the things I needed for a fulfilling life.
Do not isolate yourself from others. Do not sit at home in mourning alone. Let God help you find a support system. Stay involved with life. God does have a hope and future for you. Reject depression. The last half of your life can be just as good as the first half.
---anonymous on 9/4/07|
i am sorry for your loss but you must do what you think is best for you.you must hang on to the word of god.read your bible and gain strength each and every day.what would your husband have wanted for you?read phillipians 4;8.you may not have your husband physically any more but you have memories.hold onto them and think on those things.if your husband was saved you know he is with the lord.god bless you.
---jesuschild379 on 3/14/07|
I am sorry to hear about your husband death. If you feel it will be better for you to move to town go for it. Surround yourself with good christian friends to help you through the bad times. I believe you can understand God working in you life so relied on him to see you through. May God Bless you in your life.
---ellen9599 on 3/14/07|
bless your heart, i am truly sorry. my dad passed in 2001 and i witnessed the changes my mom went through.stay connected to positive christians, be sociable but also take time for yourself.take very good care of your health.you will laugh, cry, and maybe be angry, but-grieving is a process,and healing will come.being thankful and counting my blessings helped me.sometimes it seems there is no end to the painful loss,but-i found soon after much joy and peace.rest in the lord, and heal.kimberlynn9854
---kimberlynn on 3/5/07|
Nan...You are wise to make the decision to downsize while you are able to make that decision. My mother made that decision several years ago to make her own decisions about her "stuff" and she had a lot of it. She was able to live comfortable until she was in her 80's and still worked part-time. You will be able to have more of a social life since you will be living in town. Your life will be fuller. You can volunteer where there is a need. God will bring you opportunities for this.
---Susie on 3/1/07|
My dad just died a couple weeks ago.I took care of him for the past year to keep him out of a nursing home. Its a big adjustment for me,but I keep reminding myself what I believe and who I believe in. Heaven is real and we will all be there together someday and the things in this life that are important to us now won't mean very much then. I look to the future and the reality of it. It doesn't take away the fact that I miss him but it gives me hope that I can continue this life with happiness.
---buttons on 2/27/07|
Nan, walk every day with Father God. Talk to God and tell him how you feel.
Lord, I know you are my Shepherd, I shall not want. You make me lie down in green pastures, you leadeth me beside still waters. You restoreth my Soul. Yeah though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I fear no evil, for THOU ART WITH ME. Nan, keep standing on the Word of God. Get Scriptures that comfort you and repeat them every day out loud until they become Spirit and life to your being.
---donna6598 on 2/27/07|
Nan, what comes to mind is: Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"
Remember His yoke is easy and burden is light, as you seek Him, He will direct, will give you peace and comfort. He is good, and loves you so very much...He's the lover of your soul. Bless you.
---Christina on 2/27/07|
Nan, don't bail out, bail IN. Don't run away from something, move deliberately TOWARDS something.
I've met too many widows who moved too soon to new cities, and regretted it.
---Jack on 2/26/07|