Teen Wants Banned Books
In most areas our teen 17 year old son is a 'good kid,' his rebellion confined to reading unChristian books, philosophy, other religions, etc., books my husband won't allow in the home. He also wants to be part of 'Banned Books' week at school with secular kids. Should we worry?
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---Dollyf on 4/8/07
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You say that these books are not allowed in your house, so your home is not where you have seen him reading them. I'd say that he is being honest with you about what he reads, he could have done all this in secret, so respect him for that even if you don't actually approve. As he is already 17 there will become less and less that you can prevent him doing as time goes on. He has to have freedom of thought and it is just possible that he does many of these things simply because you don't approve.
---m.p.a. on 6/8/08|
Go to the American Library assiociation, and see what and who in America is behind most book banning/burnings in America today. Guess what groups are the most guilty?
---MikeM on 9/12/07|
Why prevent him from reading those books? Chances are, he'll probably read books you don't approve of when he gets to college. There is nothing wrong with wanting to expand your mind by reading books on other religions and philosophy. If he's strong in his faith, he won't be persuaded by the ideas of various authors.
---Katie on 9/12/07|
As for me I believe in the dignity and sanctity of the individual human mind. Let the boy read them books! Most peer pressure is for drugs and other destructive immorality. John and Edmond are dead wrong! when i was a teen, I would switch book covers and read what I wanted, period, Sarte, Bertrand Russel, Huxley, Darwin etc etc etc. The irony is it was considered far more sinful and an issue than what the drugies and other 'problem kids' were doing. I ask Edmond and John, now why was that?
---MikeM on 4/14/07|
Thank you John for standing up for the father's responsibility to guide his children.
I would not worry so much about his reading the books. The question is Why does he want to? Is it peer pressure? Is it a desire for independance?
Is it because he sees no wrong in it? your worry should be based upon understanding and love for what is good for the child, not on an arbitrary ruling on a list of books.
---Edmond on 4/12/07|
Your husband has realized that seeking first the kingdom of God is what he wants for his family. Now what is wrong with that? Is that something to worry about? God bless him for seeing more value in Godly things that worldly. You would have a lot more to worry about if he were the opposite.
---john on 4/9/07|
Your husband is wrong to not allow your son to read literature. Let him read to learn and expand his mind. Ignorance is the problem with most Christians. Reading is knowledge, and gives us the ability to think and make decisions for ourselves.
---Madison1101 on 4/9/07|
There is nothing wrong with a person wanting to read books. It opens up ones mind. I've always heard, the more you read the more you know. If the father is going to be so close-minded about this and forbids his son to read such books, The son is going to read it anyways. I'd rather a teenager read books than him be in a gang or be on drugs. Stop nagging and start praying for him. Maybe he'll come across a book about a person telling all about Christ.
---Rebecca_D on 4/9/07|
I remember something like that as a teen. They had a list of books, made by the preacher- not to read, period! There were about 15 on the list. Knowing I had an 'attitude problem' they made a special copy for me, which I made use of when ever at the library. I read them all.
---MikeM on 4/9/07|
It's hard to say with out knowing him personally. He will be 18 in a year and can legally make his own decisions at that time. If you have trained him will, I would not worry too much. Teens at that age want to push limits with their parents. You can advise against an action but there is really little that you can actually do as a parent at this point as he is going to be making his own decisions relatively soon. Just keep him in your prayers.
---notlaw99 on 4/8/07|
Why does your husband have such a closed mind?
That's the real question.
"Touch not, taste not, handle not"--and may I add, "read not"--is NOT the Gospel of Christ.
---Jack on 4/8/07|
Dollyf:At 17 wanting to broaden his knowledge of other religions, philosophy etc I don't think constitutes rebellion.Balance can only be achieved by looking at both sides. He will ultimately decide his own direction,and at 17 he's no longer a little child! I have 5 children (lots of experience)and if you're trying to shape his life into what "you" want,I'll tell you right now it aint gonna happen!
---1st_cliff on 4/8/07|