Will This Pain Ever End
How to forgive and let go? My ex dumped me during Christmas in an email, my adopted mom verbally abuses me and Im a shy, lonely, struggling college student. Too many burdens and too many tears shed. I desperately need someone to pray for me. Will this pain ever end?
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---Barbara on 4/13/07
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I'm sure that one day you will be a confident, friendly young woman who is enjoying her life. How am I so sure? Because you are praying, and are remembered in the prayers of others. Count me in your prayer circle.
---deb on 4/14/08|
Barbara:: Its been over a year hope your sufferings have been mitigated, if not totally wiped out.RSVP if you visit the site.
---Emcee on 4/14/08|
Hi Barbara; I'm soooo sorry :( Count me among those praying for you; I'm sure many others will be too; I'm praying for you for sure, my dear.
---Mary on 4/14/08|
Yes my sister. God has been through anything that we go through. He knows how things that you are going through feels. Read your word. Find a friend that you can talk to about thinbgs and trust that God will see you through. Try to look to the future and don't dwell on the past too much.
---gynn8435 on 4/16/07|
Barbara::I hear your cry I shall pray for you. you alone know your need & so does our Risen Saviour God bless, help Guide & love you just you follow Him.peace be with you dear girl.
---Emcee on 4/16/07|
Friends, we are in the great falling away that Paul spoke of in II Thessalonians 2. Wicked men (people) are getting worse and worse. Don't expect things to get better because they won't.
Draw close to Jesus and put all your trust in Him. He is the only one who can deliver us from all this evil.
---Chipper on 4/16/07|
Will the pain ever end for the parents who have had their children shot today at Virginia Tech. Be glad you're alive.
---Sharon on 4/16/07|
No, the pain never ends but by the Grace of God you WILL get through it and it will get less. God bless.
---sue on 4/16/07|
SeekerofHim, Donna - Barbara has been crying and bawling her head off for months. She needs a backbone now so she can stand on her own two feet, rather than throw herself into a tailspin of depression. It's time for a decision to follow Jesus Christ and not look back - or to allow unsaved boyfriends to manipulate hearts.
---Robin on 4/16/07|
Barbara, I will be praying for you, but there are things you can do for yourself. 1)Pray and Cry out to God every day to HELP you. Only God can reach deep down inside of you to heal you. Tell Him how badly you hurt and how you need Him to heal you, ask Him to heal you. "When you find that God is all you have, you'll find that God is all you need." HE will become the lover of your soul and your best friend.
---SeekerofHim on 4/16/07|
To let go, just stop thinking about them. While looking back has some evaluation value, you don't dwell on it. You have to realize you can't do anything about it, it's their problem- not yours. This is done by forcing youself to think on the present and future. To forgive - this can only be done through Christ, who forgave you. (When you think of what He did for you, it makes you realize if He can forgive you, you can forgive them.) Pray for them, in a positive way.
---wivv on 4/15/07|
Take the servent Job. He was severly tried. God says that he rebukes and disciplines those he loves. He sends affliction to purify and strengthen your faith. It teaches you to keep his precepts, promotes sanctification. He will never give you more than you can bear. Be content and pray to Him in ALL your situations, being thankful in ALL your situations. Be patient and God will deliver you with more. And in the end, Job was blessed with a tenfold of everything.
---Steveng on 4/15/07|
As for me, I was homeless for a year. The few friends who knew I was homeless couldn't understand how I could be so content and cheerfull in my situation even though I tell them that God gave me the strength to live through it. And He allowed me just two students to tutor English at fifty dollars a week for food and for personal things. You would have never thought me homeless if you passed me by on the street because I kept myself well groomed. I now work as a technical writer for an avionics company.
---Steveng on 4/15/07|
If your boyfriend "dumped" you be email then you are better off without him! Don't worry God has a plan for you. Keep praying though.
I bet someone shouted at your ad. mother sometime in her life. Clearly there is some hurt / emptiness in her if she does that. You can help God by trying to heal her - not through long-winded psychoanalysis ... but just common, everyday love.
Things will get better. Trust in God.
---Ed on 4/15/07|
2 Corinthians 1:3 & 4 says that God will comfort us, and we will be able to comfort others the way we were comforted by God. God may be preparing you to minister to someone who suffers similarly in the future. Ask God what He is trying to teach you through this.
---Madison1101 on 4/15/07|
To give you a short answer, Barbara, yes, the pain will end.
I gather from your posting that you're in your late teens, early 20's. Launching out into young adulthood is a period more stressful than adolescence. I've yet to meet someone who really enjoyed his 20's. I know there's not enough money in the world to make me relive them.
Trust me--it DOES get better.
---Jack on 4/15/07|
The pains of life strengthens us for life. The Father loves you & he knows your pain. He has a plan for you, a plan to prosper you spiritually and to give you a desirable future. Meanwhile the superfluities of your life must be remove & can be painful. Pray beloved & always keep in mind that prayer is not overcoming the Father's reluctance, but rather taking hold of His willingness. Cast your distracting concerns upon Him. He does care for you my dear sister. You are loved and your pain will turn to joy.
---josef on 4/15/07|
Chuck Gerard sings a song that says the Kingdom of God is a backwards kingdom. According to the world's standards it is backwards. We get by giving. Start looking for people that you can be blessing to and you will be amazed at how quickly your entire outlook will completely turn around. One random act of kindness a day and you will soon forget about what's-his-name or who did what. The pain and heartache will melt away and you will feel great about yourself.
---DoryLory on 4/14/07|
Forgiveness comes from understanding. People that hurt you are being guided by Satan to do so and are closed to what the Holy Spirit would put in their hearts and are in need of your prayers. Pray with all your heart that God will free them from their captivity and fill their hearts with the blessing of His love. Understand that they are not the enemy but he who guides them. Disable the enemy and you will disable their desire to cause you harm.
---Kay on 4/14/07|
The way I see it, you have two choices. 1. You can dwell on everything that has happened or is happening, and be miserable. Or 2. You can stop dwelling on the bad things, stop having pity for yourself and move on with your life. It is your choice to be happy or to be miserable. The only one can change your situation is you, we can pray for you. But you need to pray for yourself. It is your choice to be happy or to be miserable.
---Rebecca_D on 4/14/07|
Barbara,I know what you are going through is
dis-heartening and sad, but your pain will end and your prayers will be answered, ONLY
when you FORGIVE them. Tell the Lord its hard and Im depending on you for the courage & strength to help me. Brian 6933
---BRIAN._STAFFORD on 4/14/07|
I am sure that the pain will end. In the mean time, you have friends and very large family in Christ. Never mind your adopted mom, you have an adopted Father who loves you know matter what and thinks that you are a wonderful creation. Add my prayers to your growing spiritual bouquet, and I hope that you find a new purpose in Christ.
---lorra8574 on 4/13/07|
you will be hated by all because of my name. But the one who endures to the end will be saved.
---dsda on 4/13/07|
Barbara, the pain will end in time. Some things take longer than others. Just keep giving your cares to Jesus and lean on Him for your comfort and peace. Listen to Praise and Worship songs, pray. I will pray for you tonight before I sleep. Write if you want. betty8468
---betty8468 on 4/13/07|
I remember feeling as you do. My husband left me and my son came home from college hooked on heroin. All my other kids moved halfway across the country. It is an ache that you think will never end.
Read the Psalms and cry out to God, literally. Tell Him of your heartache. Ask Him to bear your burden for you. He will.
Get involved in a Women's Bible Study and fellowship with other Christian women.
---Madison1101 on 4/13/07|