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Divorced To Be Excommunicated

If a woman divorices her husband becauses she dosen't want him anymore, can she still be in fellowship and in good standing with the Church? Is she to be excommunicated?

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We would remove anyone from good standing after having some good talks with her. This is the kind of poison that should not be tolerated in the body of Christ. According to Matt.18:17 if a person will not reconcile, treat them as though they were on the outside.
---john on 9/2/08

not so! Maybe a man that knows who God is and understands his word operate the knowledge of the word concerning his wife and like wise is more likely to respect and love his wife as Christ loved the church. I have known many situations where a man definitely did not treat his wife anywhere near how he treated his mother on the contrary. Men often treat their mothers better depending on their experience.
---Carla5754 on 5/3/07

When my husband left me, he came back to our church amny times and attended a different service than I did. I was very upset that the Elders did not confront him, as he was filing for the divorce and dating other women at the time.
---Madison1101 on 5/2/07

Cheryle>>> I am reading alot of horror stories about church experiences. Glad, so glad, that God took me OUT.
---catherine on 5/1/07

Well, I had a cheating husband and when I filed for divorce I was confronted by two church members who had taken my children out of the nursery and was escorted out of the building. Was it fair or right? No. As far as divorcing because your bored. Just step down from any "public positions" until you have settled with God he will steer you straight. In Love..your sister in Christ
---Cheryl on 4/30/07

We never send anyone out of the church but we do remove them from good standing as per Scripture. Sin is not sin but some cause more trouble. You don't see instruction for removal of a person for telling a bad joke do you? But you do see it for taking your fathers wife and for people who cause discord. This is not sending them out of church, it is removing them from good standing.
---john on 4/29/07

That depends on your church. Personally I will stand with Paul All have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. In our denomination they would be removed from boards until they have shown repentance. Then they would be reestablished as members of the fellowship.
---Jared on 4/29/07

My, My, so many scriptures isn't there. Why not take all issues to God, then everyone is safe as safe can be. Remember that scripture, "ye without sin cast the first stone." God is waiting to help with your ministry.
---catherine on 4/29/07

1st Cliff, a good marriage is not just luck. But the benefit of experience from past generations is alway helpful, especially when the marriages are successful not only in duration but also quality.

My family on my mother's side has enjoyed enormous success and those who follow in their footsteps enjoy the same success.
---lorra8574 on 4/29/07

Three dates, by the third date you should know if there is something worth pursuing or not. If not break up and do NOT continue dating for companionship.

18 months - If you relationship was worth pursuing after three dates, by 18 months you will know whether you are marriage material or NOT. By this time if you have not already decided to marry with a ring purchased and a wedding date at least in the process of being determined (to occur within two years) - break up.
---lorra8574 on 4/29/07

If you find yourself hoping that your partner will change - and his or her current state is not something you want to spend the rest of your life with - break up.

You can only change yourself, and even that is only within limits.
---lorra8574 on 4/29/07

Some say that you can't control who you fall in love with. Wrong. If you only date decent people with whom you see a good future, then you will fall in love with a good person with a future.

Date a party animal, and you will marry an irresponsible drunk.

Date a possessive person and you can expect to be beaten.

There are few surprises after marriage. Everyone knows what they are getting into, they just fantisize that love, marriage and children will change things.
---lorra8574 on 4/29/07

One more important piece of advice. Meet the family. How a man treats his mother is a very good indication of how he will treat you. How does the family get along with each other, how well do they accept strangers. This will provide insight into how your potential future relationship will go. How does your potential mate react to children? Have you discussed children? These are important matters that need to be discovered before marriage.
---lorra8574 on 4/29/07

Here's what Jesus said to the woman at the well. The story is in John chapter 4." Jesus answered and said unto her, If thou knewest the gift of God, and who it is that saith to thee, Give me to drink; thou wouldest have asked of him, and he would have given thee living water." This woman had been married five times. Your acceptance by the church depends entirely on what church, your acceptance by God seems very clear.
---Mama on 4/29/07

Psalm 1:1
Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the way of the scornful.
Vs 2
Therefore the ungodly shall not stand in judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous.

1Pe 4:18
And if the righteous scarcely be saved where shall the ungodly and sinner appear?
---Carla5754 on 4/29/07

1Pe 4:19
Wherefore let him that suffer according to the will of GOD commit the keeping of their souls to him in well doing, as unto a faithful creator.

The idea is not to throw out one in need food or salvation that's different. Not one who willingly sins and make a home among the church members, hide such a person, correct him/her to do right. If you were called to preach you should know what the bible teaches!
---Carla5754 on 4/29/07

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Sara ;Another Cliff surfaced a while back and I just distanced myself as 1st cliff True story tho. Prov.18.22 "He who FINDS a wife finds a good thing" (so long as they both remain faithful)
---1st_cliff on 4/29/07

Rebecca, a woman leaving her husband is open and public. It doesn't take nosey people to snoop it out. Your attitude is typical. I've seen enough to realize that women generally stick together, and are given a lot more slack than men who do the same things. The real question is why are such women so brazen and shameless to the point that they feel they can still attend church and expect people to pretend nothing is amiss? Or more to the point, why is she even there to begin with?
---ralph7477 on 4/29/07

If you rebuke a wise man he'll love you rebuke a man who's without wisdom and he'll dislike you. Anyone with a hope in Christ will want to back in the fold of God look at what is said and make a decision to correct it. If someone really mean God they'll turn from their evil ways and repent. Otherwise they will make their mind up to continue in sin. why allow someone to continue regardless and sit amongst the ''brethren''. Will God have communion with unrepentant ''christians''?
---Carla5754 on 4/29/07

Ralph: well of course is is between her family as well. I meant it isn't between her and nosey people. So if a person shuns or ignores them, where is the love? So if she comes to church, everyone should avoid her, turn her away, and shun her out onto the streets? Okay, you do that.
---Rebecca_D on 4/28/07

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Why are you the 1st Cliff, I don't see a 2nd Cliff? Regardless, that was a sad but funny post Cliff. A looney tune fruitcake, and old Mr. Hyde came out of hiding.
---Sara on 4/28/07

Page One>>Prayer must evermore go along with church discipline. Pass no sentence, which you cannot in faith ask God to confirm. Prayer must go along with all our endeavours for the conversion of sinners. God will set His flat to the appeals and applications you make to Him.
---catherine on 4/28/07

Page Two>>>God does especially own and accept us, when we are praying for those that have offended Him and us. >>>The Lord turned the captivity of Job, not when he prayed for himself, but when he prayed for his friends who had trespassed against him.
---catherine on 4/28/07

If a man/woman are having sexual relationships with anyone other than their first spouse and that marriage was not resolved through the partner of that individual committing fornication or Adultery the word of God says as believers we are to have nothing to do with that believer, until they repent. When would God have any part in a individual committing sin with the Temple of the Holy Ghost and have communion with them?
---Carla5754 on 4/28/07

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In the Catholic Church and others, there are many divorced members. They are still encouranged to participate and there are ministries to help them if they need it. If one remarries after divorce, they are no longer permitted to receive communion, but they are not automatically pushed out of the church.

The exception is with marriages that are annulled. Some marriages were never valid to begin with and should not have taken place.
---lorra8574 on 4/28/07

Rebecca, if a woman divorces her husband just because she doesn't like him anymore it is between more than her and God. It also involves her husband, possibly children, and anyone who may have witnessed her pledge her life to the man for better or worse. God tells us to shun no one? Please read Romans 16:17-18 and other passages concerning church discipline.
---ralph7477 on 4/28/07

Cliff, I didn't luck into anything. My "christian" wife decided that the grass had to be greener somewhere else and carried on an affair as she made her plans to get out of the marriage. She involved my children, friends, family and the church in her nefarious scheme. She would carry on her affair during the week and then get up and lead praise and worship music on Sunday. No stones being thrown, just affirming that such a person has no business having a prominent place in the church.
---ralph7477 on 4/28/07

"ood for you if you lucked in to a good marriage"

1st Cliff....Please tell me that you really don't believe in luck!!!!
---Susie on 4/27/07

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Ralph/John; Good for you if you lucked in to a good marriage. My sister-in-law who married "only in the Lord" found out that her husband is a loony tune fruitcake" stuck in a miserable marriage. her sister ,also married "mister right" only to discover he was Jeckel and Hyde. Mr. Hyde surfaced once to often and she dumped that clown! Throw the first stone!
---1st_cliff on 4/27/07

What this woman does is between her and God alone. As with anyone else. The church should not shune her, or throw her out because of this. We would not be showing the love from God. I don't care what someone has done in their past, the past is the past. who are we to judge others and kick them down when their already down? God told us to lift one another up, and shune no one. If this woman gets this under the blood, then people should just let-it-go.
---Rebecca_D on 4/26/07

While growing up as a Mormon, there was a woman who had committed adultery and divorced her husband. She was not allowed to take communion, but was allowed to attend church.
---Susie on 4/25/07

This type of woman really can't really be held in good standing, although there are plenty of people who will still fellowship with her. She has demonstrated that she is untrustworthy and self-centered. How can she play an active part in the church apart from just showing up and sitting there? This sin is more than just a slip up. Getting rid of a husband that she considers of no further use takes planning and is a process.
---ralph7477 on 4/25/07

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If my church "ex-communicated" sinners ... then the place would be empty. I think it is sad that some churches will call out one sin as being somehow worse than the others. A sin is a sin. We are ALL sinners. That is why we are in church -- to receive forgiveness and worship the Lord.
---Debbie on 4/25/07

John: At what point does a person receive forgiveness for divorce? What if the other spouse will not reconcile after the divorce is done? When does grace come into play? Does your church take such a hard line with other sins, like fornication, or drunkenness?
---Madison1101 on 4/25/07

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