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Marry After Six Divorces

Woman gets born again after having gone through six divorces. Can she marry a Christian man?

Moderator - The Jews would typically limit marriage for divorce to three times concluding the person shouldn't be married again.

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Maybe it's a good thing then, that this is ChristiaNet and not JewishNet.
---StrongAxe on 1/29/08

Let me ask you a question. Why not just focus on serving God? Mabe all of your previous spouses will die and then you will not have to worry about. You will be Biblically FREE.
---catherine on 1/29/08

People So, need to Study divorce / Repentance Adultery/ Fornication/ Original sin/N/T on marriage and when I say Study I mean indepth before we go bible bashing with scriptures that don't match the situation. Nowhere in the bible does it give a Christian the right to remarry multiple times and as long as your christian it anuls the rest. Thats misinterpretation of the scriptures.
---Carla5754 on 1/28/08


I was once Catholic too, I agree... I am also glad there is no purgatory and if there was such a thing a purgatory it is what we are going through right now. God is purging us through our trials.

God bless beloved.
---Marcia on 8/13/07


What you said is so true!!

Rosary beads are a form of witchcraft, it is a way of trying to manipulate the supernatural in order to get result. We can't score brownie points with God.
---Marcia on 8/13/07


I will pray that God will pour fourth his love, mercy, and Grace into your heart so that you can begin to pour it out into the lives of others.

God Bless Sweetie.
---Marcia on 8/13/07

The three faces of Marcia, she turned into T.S.
---Larry on 8/13/07

Have you been married before, Marcia?
Did you read the Moderator's comments about multiple personalities - O'darn, I meant marriages. Three is about it for the normal person. I suppose if you're a loon, it could be six or seven, the number of completion, or eight, new beginnings.....
---Gwen on 8/13/07

I am so blessed to be married to one man over 30 years. My heart breaks for the suffering you've endured albeit -yours to endure.
If you are born again - you are a new creation but you may need to heal from old patterns first. God bless.
---Andrea on 8/13/07

There you are Kathr4453:::::
You've pulled out your favorite Book of Romans.
Okey Dokey, yeah, I see you. But you never really left, did you. Tell me, why do you pose as different people with different doctrines and pass yourself off as gifted?
You lead others astray and you seem to like it, really like it. What's really the matter with you?
---Jan on 8/13/07


My #1 accountability partner is the WORD OF GOD- HOW DARE U SPEAK AGAINST IT.

ROMANS 8:31-39

What shall we then say to these things? If God [be] for us, who [can be] against us?

He that spared not his own Son, but delivered him up for us all, how shall he not with him also freely give us all things?

Who shall lay any thing to the charge of God's elect? [It is] God that justifieth.
---Marcia on 8/13/07


Who [is] he that condemneth? [It is] Christ that died, yea rather, that is risen again, who is even at the right hand of God, who also maketh intercession for us.

Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? [shall] tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?
---Marcia on 8/13/07


As it is written, For thy sake we are killed all the day long, we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter.

Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us.

For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come,

Rom 8:39 Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
---Marcia on 8/13/07


You may keep an account of wrong but I know my GOD and he doesn't as long as the person shows a repentent heart.

I also have scripture from my #1 accountability partner to back this up-

Psalm 130:3-5
If you, LORD, mark our sins, Lord, who can stand?
But with you is forgiveness and so you are revered.
I wait with longing for the LORD, my soul waits for his word.
---Marcia on 8/13/07

Marcia, your accountability partner is teaching you some offbeat, strange teachings.
---Jan on 8/12/07

Jan: I don't see anything wrong with encouraging my sister of her knew life in Christ. Whats wrong with you? She is now a born again Christian. Her life before she was save has been erased. Just like Chalk on a Chalkboard.
---Marcia on 7/11/07

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In Gods eyes those marriages and divorces don't even exsist. Now there is no condemnation. She is a new Creation in Christ Jesus.
---Marcia on 7/11/07

Marcia, Marcia, Marcia....
I hope you're not a preacher, that was really dingbatty.
---Jan on 7/11/07

Hi, I had been divorced also, and I found that people might forgive, but don't forget, maybe that is why we turn our lives over to our Father and not that of people. He forgives and forgets. As far as being divorced, I thought it was bibical, to married a Godly man, and you a Godly woman, that no man put it asunder....but when you married out of the faith, it is not approved by and blessed by the Lord. lydia5399
---Lydia on 7/10/07

Your situation seems impossible, which is why it would be a great testimony for you to marry a Christian Man. If you marry a Christian man after 6 divorces everyone would have to testify that it was an act of God. If you have the desire to be with someone and your trully saved it means that God is either going to write Chapter Seven or re-open a closed chapter. Prayerfully Chapter Seven should complete your story.
---Marcia on 7/10/07

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Mary, I know you like to laugh, but this really isn't a laughing matter. After a few hours now, I still think you need some serious counseling before you date again. Dating is for marriage. Not looking and falling into another man's arms can be a result of impulsive behavior. You do have a choice right now to make right decisions. If you should jump into another marriage and then find out what's on the other side of the coin (same type of person) again, would be another huge mess.
---Brad on 7/10/07

Honey,my heart goes out to you. Marriage is not for you. Something is terribly wrong somewhere. Either the problem is with you or the men you are choosing. Leave marriage alone. Ok. At least in this life. You are a big loser when it comes to marriage. Accept it and move on to something new. Try Jesus. He's alright. He makes a wonderful husband,provider,companion,lover and he never disappoints. I hope you want disappoimt Him,either.
---Robyn on 7/10/07

Mary, here you go. Three times is about enough.

"Moderator - The Jews would typically limit marriage for divorce to three times concluding the person shouldn't be married again."
---Brad on 7/10/07

Rebecca, how do you come to the conclusion that God wants people to be happy? Does that mean that it is OK to be in an adulterous relationship if it makes me happy? Your statement is juvenile. Biblically, the only thing God wants his people to be is obedient.
---ralph7477 on 6/10/07

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Rebecca_D: Divorce is not the only answer for Christian couples. No, we do not have to stay in a bad marriage. We can separate but not divorce. God hates divorce. Its really your choice. If you choose to ignore this scripture and go ahead and divorce that is between you and your God.
---Robyn on 6/10/07

I'd love to talk to the Christian man who is about to marry this woman! I wonder what he thinks of all those divorces? I think I agree with Robyn, maybe she is just not the marrying type and WHY would she want to do it again?!
---sue on 6/10/07

Well if me and my husband fought all the time and couldn't agree on anything. couldn't stand to be in the same room with eachother, etc. Then it is time for a divorce. I know what the bible says about divorce. But God does not want us to be unhappy. My brother and sistern-n-law are having problems. Their son told them that he liked it better when they were seperated, cause at least they would get along. If the couple has tried counsling, help, and things still are bad. It is time for a divorce.
---Rebecca_D on 6/9/07

Susie: God said He hates divorce.So we should try with everything within us to obey God. It is easy to leave a marriage and do as we want but we are slaves to righteousness now. We are not to imitate the world's way of doing things. We belong to Christ and we do the things that are pleasing to Him. We have been bought and paid for with the precious blood of Jesus. Did you know that? We can't through our marriages away like dirty baby diapers. Stay and try to work it out, with God's help. If possible.
---Robyn on 6/9/07

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To remarry right now would mean to repeat the same mistake of wrong choice. Seek the Lord, become grounded in the Word.Let the Lord reveal to you why you made wrong choices and ask him to help you become the person he created you to be. He has a plan for your life and it is good. After you gain wisdom he can direct you to choosing a solid Christian man.And God can help you succeed in areas where you have previously failed.
---Tsuanne on 6/8/07

Wow! Six marriages. Why would anyone still want to marry after 6 failed marriages? Clearly you are not the marrying kind.Leave marriage alone and concentrate on pleasing the Lord....only. I hope you don't fail on that as well. My blessings to you.
---Robyn on 6/4/07

The best thing for her at this time would be to get grounded in the word and be filled by the spirit.

As she gets transformed thereby, she will have the wisdom either to go for a marriage if so is God's will.

Let her now seek more the righteousness and the kingdom of God, all the rest shall be added as she gets closer to her Redeemer and worships & serves Him faithfully.
---Ephre3798 on 5/9/07

Hi y'all :) I confess I've been divorced 3 times (they cheated on me though--one with a co-worker we both worked with ugh) and now I'd be the "Runaway Bride"! :D I'd run FAST and FAR away from marriage now! :D
---Mary on 5/8/07

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Jody....Amen! Problem is that many self-righteous Christians believe that divorce is worse than murder and is an unforgivable sin.
---Susie on 5/7/07

Part2) Her marriages were prior to her salvation and adultry was committed against her. I also need to say that he who shows no mercy, recieves no mercy. Actually she doesn't require anyones mercy as God has forgiven and forgotten all her sins at the time of Salvation. Who are we to be judging the past divorces. If she marries, it must be to a Christian man. Also, God has anointed past murders to Preach.
---jody on 5/7/07

The word of God is what matters and the word of God encourages a heart set purely on him in everything we do so, if living a man free life is the worse thing she can do the best thing she could do is.... live a life totally dependent on Jesus Christ. Jesus said come unto me all who are wary and heavy laden and I (Jesus Christ) will give you rest. Did you encourage this woman accordingly?
---Carla5754 on 5/7/07

Years ago, my "preacher" brother told my sister and I how sorry he felt for people who had been divorced, particularly people who had been married and divorced more than once. His wife of 35+ years passed away and he has gone through three wives since then. Guess he feels sorry for himself now!
---Susie on 5/6/07

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Karen: I know what you mean. I have been divorced and so hasn't my husband. His uncle looked down upon us and made studdy remarks because we both went through a divorce. But he went through a divorce, but yet he still harped on us. It doesn't matter what anyone says about one's past. For it is in the past. And it is under the blood. That is all that matters. The bible says when a person judges someone for something, chances are their doing the same thing if not worse. You will reap what you sow.
---Rebecca_D on 5/4/07

Did it ever occur to any of you that this woman's husbands committed adultery on her? Does that make a difference? I know the word and what it says about divorce and remarried. But, so many of you are condemning this woman when some of you are divorced and remarried yourselves. Explain that to me?
---Karen on 5/4/07

This discussion reminds me of a woman missionary who spoke at our church years ago. She had been a "Sunday Christian" for many years, including divorce and remarriage seven times. One time was to the pastor of the church she attended. Once she realized that she did not need a man to serve the Lord and that she needed to be born again, she remained unmarried and became a missionary to the street kids in South America and continues to do so after 30 years.
---Susie on 5/4/07

Karen. The difference between one divorce and 6 is that with one you know the person could have learned something from it and would maybe not make the same mistakes. But 6 divorces shows a total lack of character and an unwillingness to learn or change. That doesn't mean that since that time she hasn't changed and would be a good wife but the new guy would have to take that chance.
I think the whole thing is a mockery to the body of Christ to support such things as this.
---john on 5/4/07

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Mary magdaline was told to GO SIN NO MORE. That is exactly what she did. Where in the written word does it say If you marry and get saved you are free to marry again. If you drag scriptures from all over the place to validate your answers then you are in effect re-writing the Gospel to suit your own sins and justifying new ones on top of the old ones. Do not preach another gospel stay in line with the subject, Adultery is the question not salvation.
---Carla5754 on 5/4/07

well if this person is not new to Christianity why does this person not know what the word says about marriage and divorce, Or do you both struggle with the written word?
---Carla5754 on 5/4/07

By the tone of your answer you already have the answer in your head and have worked it out. Let the word be your Guide and not emotion. God knows all our trials and temptations and he will guide when the the day is over. leave her situation to the guidance of the word, If she is mature she will accept what the word says.
---Carla5754 on 5/4/07

Karen; "Would you be comfortable having this woman teaching children's church, leading praise and worship, or any kind of leadership in your church?"
Absolutely!2 Cor 5:16-17 "So from now on we regard no one from a worldly point of view. Though we once regarded Christ in this way, we do so no longer. Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!"
---Christina on 5/4/07

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Karen, also, if we trust in the work of Christ in this woman, and there is fruit, why should our eyes be on her past? God remembers her sin no more.
---Christina on 5/4/07

Some here are looking at what happened BEFORE this woman was saved and holding it against her. The 6 divorces were before she was saved. We serve a BIG God who makes something beautiful from the ashes in all of our lives when we are saved. love and embrace her, don't cast stones...we would wish the same if we were in her shoes.
---Christina on 5/4/07

The thing of it is, is that we all have a past. It may be awful for some, and not so awful for others. But to alot of people it doesn't matter if it is under the blood, because they can't get past one's past. I have people look down at me, because I went through a divorce. And God called me to sing. I've had some tell me, you can't have a divorce and be called to sing. If it is under the blood, it stays under the blood. When one comes to Christ, we are new creatures. the past doesn't matter.
---Rebecca_D on 5/3/07

If she is 15 years old in the Lord, some may grow at a faster rate, but she's about 15 now.
It speaks of stability to be married 6 times.
I would say the last thing she needs to do is jump into another marriage. Seven is the number of completion, and eight means new beginnings. There comes a point when enough was really enough.
---VMicallef on 5/3/07

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This is not a baby Christian. This is a woman who has grown in the Lord tremendously over the last 15 years. She has served the Lord deligently since she turned her life over to the Lord. She has dealt with her past. She learned years ago not to share all the details of her past as most people in the church became extremely judgmental when told of her past. She has ministered greatly to women in similar circumstances.
---Karen on 5/3/07

What's the difference between one divorce prior to salvation and six divorces?
---Karen on 5/3/07

"My Father in the name of Jesus, forgive me of all of my sins past, present, and future, because I am one wretched Soul."
---catherine on 5/3/07
I am certain this prayer was answered affirmatively. How can I be sure? John 6:37 says,"All that the Father giveth me shall come to me; AND HIM THAT COMETH TO ME I WILLIN NO WISE CAST OUT." Will you accept the Word of God?
---Mima on 5/3/07

My Father in the name of Jesus, forgive me of all of my sins past, present, and future, because I am one wretched Soul.
---catherine on 5/3/07

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How will another marriage fix her Adulterous circumstances, God has forgiven her past yes but the consequences of that life will need to be brought under the blood of Christ one by one. This person really needs to find what is Gods will for her life and step out of self and spiritually look towards building up her inner man, remember she is a babe in Christ. Marriage I would have Guessed would have been far from her mind. If not for now she needs prayer.
---Carla5754 on 5/3/07

She reminds me of the woman at the well.

But Mark 10:12 says And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.
---Cynthia_1 on 5/3/07

If a person's past is under the blood, then they have a right to be part of the church. The past is the past. Alot of people won't let other people's past go. And if a sinner becomes born again, they bring up their past. If one is doing good for the Lord, it doesn't acknowledged. If someone slips up, rest assured it would be talked about alot, and people won't lay it down. Sad but oh so true.
---Rebecca_D on 5/2/07

Would you be comfortable having this woman teaching children's church, leading praise and worship, or any kind of leadership in your church?
---Karen on 5/2/07

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Is she having a compention against Phyillis Diller and Elizabeth Talyor? LOL.
---Rebecca_D on 5/2/07

I do believe the Moderator is on the right track. Six divorces, my, my.
---catherine on 5/2/07

If this woman went through six divorces she needs to evaluate herself becuse there is something very wrong with her.

Best is to seek some professional help and not to remarry because she'll go through her 7th divorce even if she get "born again".
---Caring on 5/2/07

Tough one, "If any one be in Christ he is a new creature, the old is gone the new is come" God forgives, and we equip and disciple. we can also fall back into old life styles if we are not growing, I'll be praying for her and you as you seek God's wisdom and get Godly counsel.
---Jim on 5/2/07

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When someone goes through a divorce or has went through one, people automaticly judge and damn them to hell. It doesn't matter how many times she has been married, what is under the blood, stays under the blood. She needs to think long and hard about another marriage. Your friend needs to seek God before marrying this man, and wait for an answer from the Lord before she gets married.
---Rebecca_D on 5/1/07

If she now understands exactly what marriage and divorce mean to God, then she should be reluctant to marry again, and only after great trepidation would she ever think about entering into another marriage.
---Eloy on 5/1/07

Thanks! I told my friend that I would discuss this situation with the Christians on this blog. I know that many of you have wisdom far greater than my own. This woman is serving the Lord totally for the last 15 years. Most people who know her do not know about her past. She is not the woman she used to be as I have known her all my life.
---Karen on 5/1/07

Let every man or woman remain as he or she was when each became a Christian. That is, do not use Christianity as an excuse to break up your own home and perhaps another, seeking a new companion. 1 Corinthians 17-24 Let not the wife depart from her husband v 10 if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband v 11. Let not the Christian wife divorce her husband if he be pleased to dwell with her v13-16. Do not go through husbands, like eating a box of choclates Cynthia v 1.
---Cynthia_1 on 5/1/07

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A civil Pagan marriage is not a marriage which is ordained by God. It is not recognized by God. In this case she is free to marry. However, as a Christian, she has a great responsibility to seek out Gods word about the sacred institution of marriage,and obtain Biblical counseling around relationship issues. We should note that there are born again Christians with similar track records who think that thier behavior is acceptable. Statistics against successful marriage at this time are 64%.
---jody on 5/1/07

Before considering marriage, she might want to seek therapy to learn what she contributed to the previous marriages' demise. There is obviously something wrong, and just because she is born again does not mean she is not going to make the same mistakes again,.
---madison1101 on 5/1/07

Getting born again doesn't immediately change your entire character. If you got to speak to her previous 6 spouses you would probably find a patern of horrible character traits. Some of these may change but I've found that it takes time. I would not suggest marriage until these flaws were corrected.
---john on 5/1/07

Mat 5:32
But I say unto you that whosoever shall put away his wife saving for the cause of fornication causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever marry her that is divorced commit adultery.

If all 6 men committed adultery then you need to look at another direction for your life. Maybe you need to obey the scripture in Corinthians 7 where it explains that one is to remain unto the Lord (single)if you committed adultery. Great beginning in the Lord. Hope this helps.
---Carla5754 on 5/1/07

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