My Husband Isn't Bright
The Bible says in Ephesians 5:22..."Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Should a wife be expected to follow such a request, if the husband has NO COMMON SENSE, and the WIFES GOT IT ALL.
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---Cynthia_1 on 5/2/07
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Maybe, maybe not.
---Lynda on 1/26/08|
Thinking something and knowing something are very different accusations, sounds like you have a gripe instead of wanting to help her biblically you find other blogs to discredit her. GET OVA IT ! :(
If she beat her children she would be posting like something on this thread:
*I'm just about to go to prison for child abuse can anyone HELP* !!!!!!
---Carla5754 on 6/3/07|
i m onegood
---bekhti on 6/3/07|
Well, sister you made this choice. Now what are you going to do? Sometimes we want things we really do not need under any circumstances. When we get it, we find out that was not what we bargained for. I hope you can pull through this without too many scars. God bless.
---Robyn on 6/2/07|
In the first place the wife does not have all the common sense. Noone has it upstairs 100% either. I agree with Lorra, if one spouse is smarter than the other[same goes for men] you should down play it.God does frown upon know it alls. It is a sign of pride. We all know so little. It's pitiful, but it's so true.
---catherine on 6/2/07|
If the husband has no common sense, then it is the job of the wife to make him look as though he has. You are not his slave, but you are his help mate. You can softly give suggestions and guidance, but remember that you chose him to be the head of your household. If you read up on the Bible's descriptions of good wifery, you can be a great joy to him and you will be much happier too.
---lorra8574 on 6/1/07|
Wow! The posts on this blog are funny. After reading this, I'll watch what I say on CN more. I wouldn't like to be in Cynthia's shoes right now! :)
---Okebaram on 5/14/07|
Trust, [honesty], and love go hand and hand. God Bless!
---Mrs._Morgan on 5/10/07|
Guys scare me, I guess I have never been able to trust any, But if it works for you, I see no problem dating, I do see a problem marrying however.
---Cynthia_1 on 5/10/07
This pretty well says it all. This was posted on the blog "Starting Dating After Divorce" which Cynthia posted on. If you don't trust men, you will never have a good marriage.
---Susie on 5/10/07|
Susie, I am a loving Mother, who gives a few taps on the rear end when needed when my Mother visits, she calls them ''love taps'' and tells me they don't even feel it, Now go run along and give your accusations to someone else, The thing thats wrong in this world today, Is that we have more children ruling parents instead of parents ruling children, producing a DISRESPECTFUL SOCIETY, and rampant hate, and rebellion, and an entire generation totally out of control with ABSOLUTELY NO MORAL CODE.
---Cynthia_1 on 5/10/07|
Famous last words of Eve.
---Cheryl on 5/9/07|
Mary...Problem is when does spanking graduate to being beating? If an adult came up and "spanked" you on your bottom or "spanked" you on your cheek, would you consider it a beating and call the police? Or, would you just say, "Oh, well I deserved that spanking." We're not talking about another adult hitting an adult. This is an adult hitting children. After observing all the blogs posted by Cynthia, I don't believe she knows the difference between spanking and beating.
---Susie on 5/9/07|
Hi Susie; I understand your point about Cynthia's other blog; only thing is, I didn't necessarily read "beating" into that; perhaps I am wrong but it looked like she just believes in spanking when they need it; heck I needed more than I got lol! :D
---Mary on 5/8/07|
Cynthia_1, I know what you mean, common sense is essential, my late Grandma would sometimes tell people "get some common sense", she wasn't being mean-spirited, just trying to shed some light on the person. The Bible speaks about praying for wisdom, God's wisdom that is. (James 1:5)(Eph. 5:15). God Bless!
---Mrs._Morgan on 5/8/07|
Cynthia, you have a good sense of humor.
Take all of this in stride, you wear your feelings on your sleeve and tell them to us, we can't help ourselves. Some of this is funny, but your situation is not.
We enjoy your stories. It breaks up the monotony.
---SwimswDolphins on 5/8/07|
We all have common sense. some have more than others. I know people whom are very intellgant, but have very little common sense. We all have made mistakes sometime in our life. But if a person never learns from their mistakes, then they haven't made a mistake. Just get off of Cynthia's back. It is obvious that she was upset because she decided not to go and they went anyway.
---Rebecca_D on 5/8/07|
It's still not clear whether this is about common sense or a case of aquaphobia.
It would take one buff dude to row a rubber boat to the "center" of the ocean and back. No wonder he needed a nap.
---JohnE on 5/8/07|
Mary...Before you start feeling sorry for Cynthia, check out the blog she started regarding beating her children. She definitely needs our prayers. Her husband and children need them too.
---Susie on 5/7/07|
Mary I agree with what you said.
I just have a problem with anyone who degrades or puts down their mate.
You will also notice that she is looking for a reason to NOT follow God's Word.
Everything appears to be wrong except her.
---Elder on 5/7/07|
Mary, thank you, you are like an angel of mercy among the stone throwers.
---Cynthia_1 on 5/8/07|
The light bulb comment makes me laugh! :D But I have been where Cynthia is, and it's a hard road to travel! I was married to a man who was colder than our freezer--and quite happy to leave things that way the rest of our lives! Don't pound Cynthia--pray for her and her husband.
---Mary on 5/7/07|
Ask yourself if this man had any common sense would you be married now? You are supposed to make him complete in Christ. It sounds like you don't like doing that. The problem is not in what he has but what you don't.
Sometimes we are just smart enough to be stupid.
One fault and we forget all the good in a person and call ourselves bright. You are gonna need another light bulb on this one.
---Elder on 5/7/07|
I would say this ,why did you marry him?you mention he needs to change. well as a christian women arguing is not the way.you cant change him, God can.but remember God will not change him to conform to your idea of what he should be.
---tom2 on 5/7/07|
Hi Cynthia; I know you've taken a lot of heat for your husband-bashing--and it's true you shouldn't be bashing him--BUT I can relate to you painfully well, and can understand where you're coming from. You're in my prayers, dear.
---Mary on 5/6/07|
Cynthia, try your utmost to get him to join you in seeking professional councelling.
If you both try to remedy the problem, you may succeed. Please try.
---Caring on 5/6/07|
Ralph..You're right except that she has already left him emotionally. We need to pray for these children of divorce.
---Susie on 5/6/07|
Cynthia, are you a kept woman in a mansion or castle.
Do you have life beyond the computer or are you hiding out. Do you go to church or hang out in the house waiting for saucers to fly by. You've told us of your indepth Christian knowledge. We all have have to connect the dots to our actual lives; live the reality of working out our own salvation with fear and trembling. Forget the farce and cling to the force. The Gospel of Jesus Christ.
---Jamboree on 5/6/07|
Cynthia is in he process of leaving her husband. While she is still physically with him, her thoughts have moved in the direction of getting rid of him. Her attitudes and words are those of women in divorce court. She is trying out her arguments here to see how best to make her case when the time comes.
---ralph7477 on 5/6/07|
Cynthia: Read the scripture carefully. Do you submit yourself unto the LORD in the same manner as you submit to your husband? That's the place to start. If the relationship with the Lord is right, the husband thing will work itself out.
---jerry6593 on 5/6/07|
Cynthia: You said that one side of your husband's brain needs changing. Says who? You? God created your husband's brain the way it was supposed to be. And only God can change it. Instead of trying to make your husband into something he is not, why don't you try praying to God for the man. Stop complaining about him to us and start pouring your heart out to God about your lack of love for the man you vowed to spend the rest of your life with.
---Madison1101 on 5/5/07|
Cynthia...On one blog, you try to show how intelligent you are. On this one, you show how unintelligent you are. Are you on meds? Maybe they are not working right and you need to see your doctor. I am not making fun. I am being sincere. You don't make sense on all these different blogs with different personalities showing up.
---Susie on 5/5/07|
Cynthia: It seems like you were/are mad because your husband and the children went out to have some fun, and you stayed home to clean house. Maybe if you would stop making your house so perfect, you could enjoy life and have a little fun. I too have a 7&5 year old. At times my house is messy, at times it is spotless. Most of the time it is clean, but I still set aside fun things to do with my family.
---Rebecca_D on 5/5/07|
Jana, please start typing the words out. If you are too lazy to do that, how can you expect us to read them?
---Madison1101 on 5/5/07|
Just by a fluke, of happenstance I bought a book this week about natural cures, amazingly enough there is a section of his book about aliens found and are stored in a certain top secret area 51 located in Nevada. The actual aliens and ufos are said to be stored in this location.
---Cynthia_1 on 5/3/07
---Swimsw/Dolphins on 5/4/07|
** then u will rely on Him n Him only to guide. He will supply u with all u need to know n do.**
Jana, you said one time that your 9 1/2 year old daughter can understand your childish prose here.
Well, if you write like a 9.5 year old, that means you THINK like a 9.5 year old.
Think and write like a mature adult.
---Jack on 5/4/07|
As usual, Elder has just the right words. Stop nagging the man!!!!
---Susie on 5/4/07|
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Cynthia, if you believe in God and truly follow His ways, then u will rely on Him n Him only to guide. He will supply u with all u need to know n do. You for one, should be patient, loving, gentle and humble and if u r more in the brain than your hubby, then u should use it well n go by how God tells u to. Help him. impart your knowlege to him...if you love him...
---jana on 5/4/07|
Which is worse, not having common sense or not using the common sense you have?
Sounds like you two are a perfect match to me.
---Elder on 5/4/07|
Just as I thought:
Behold the infallible one.
The Pope of Rome is not infallible, but Popess Cynthia sure is.
---Jack on 5/4/07|
Cynthia, "blow up boat in the middle of the ocean" is a big exaggeration. There are toy rafts, and then there are the Zodiacs. My guess is that it was similar to those rugged boats.
You say "I do not want to lead" but your post says that you do want to CONTROL him. You demean him, and then berate him for not reading your mind.
You both need counseling; you both have obvious issues.
---John_T on 5/4/07|
I think it is very disrespectful to demean ones spouse in a public domain. If you feel so elevated about how intelligent you are why are you not obedient to the word and applying Charity/love towards your husband. He would respond much better if saw that you oozed more love than criticism, regardless of his understanding. This is the greater Commandment. If you do not display charity you become as sounding brass or a tinkling symbol.
---Carla5754 on 5/4/07|
Yes, Hector, you're correct, and I apologize for that. The guy probably just wanted to have some fun time with his children, just thank God they were all okay. God watched over them.
---sue on 5/4/07|
Center of the ocean.....hmmmm.
That would be quite a feat.
My common sense smells an exaggeration.
If your seeking counsel, then perhaps you should seek it together.
Speaking poorly of your husband speaks poorly of you.
---JohnE on 5/4/07|
if you read this in context it means that a woman should not deny a man sexual obligations.
This is about submitition to pleasing the other one physically not obeying the other.
Obediance is God's and none others
---johnlovesginalyn on 5/4/07|
I would say that your husband is not alone in being one who lacks common sense. You could always lower his self-esteem even more than you already do by telling him how stupid he is. That would be a real Godly woman.
---Susie on 5/3/07|
This is what I just got done responding to on the ''human soul in gehenna blog''but keep in mind, that the Moderator phrased this [my husbands not bright wording] NOT ME. My husband is bright on one side of his brain, it is only the other side that needs a bit of changing.
---Cynthia_1 on 5/3/07|
We really should not call anyone a fool, even in 'jest'.
We should not insult each other. It is one of the numerous obvious truths mentioned throughout the Bible. Insults stir up ill will and the desire to retaliate. Jesus forbids this sin: "Anyone who says to his brother, 'Raca,' is answerable to the Sanhedrin. But anyone who says, 'You fool!' will be in danger of the fire of hell." (Matthew 5:22)
---Victor on 5/3/07|
Cynthia: it tells me that it must be true: "God watches over fools and children". (I'm teasing you lol)
---sue on 5/3/07|
Beleive it or not, I HATE TO LEAD. But when a husband buys a large blow up boat with oars puts his 5 and 6 year old children into the ocean, against his wifes advice, while she is home cleaning, and he falls asleep while they are rowing into the center of the ocean what does that tell you? This is only one example.
---Cynthia_1 on 5/3/07|
In the first place the wife does not have it all. Really, this is beginning to get to me a little. If a major difference came up, myself, I would go straight to Jesus. Help me Father in the name of Jesus.
---catherine on 5/2/07|
Cynthia;If hubby is not too bright and picked you for a mate...what does that say about you?? Let's face it some wives just like to lead!
---1st_cliff on 5/2/07|
Ugh...poor Mr. Cynthia 1.
---ralph7477 on 5/2/07|
Yes a wife should submit unto their husbands. I don't over-rule my husband. Nor will I ever try to. The husband should have more authority over the wife. Meaning the wives needs to obey their husband, but that doesn't give the husband the right to treat them like slaves. Cynthia: your kinda harsh on your husband aren't you? it sounds like your just mad at him now and you want other women to help you put their husbands down. I won't be a part of that. It sounds like you have trouble with authority.
---Rebecca_D on 5/2/07|
A question If you husband treated you like a husband should Ephesians 5:25-28, would you follow that request?
---willow on 5/2/07|
Yes, you should (if you want to be obedient to God)...there is not a qualifier here except that he be your husband.
---Robert on 5/2/07|
We all make mistakes. Getting counseling now or get going. My huaband's lack of common sense has only gotten worse over the years (44). I should have gotten counsel since I wasn't going to cancel.
---Anna on 5/2/07|
Cynthia 1, this is where the rubber meets the road.
Cynthia, I am laughing my head off!
Cynthia, forget the UFO's, the new moons, the blue moons, the new suns and the dragonflies.
Cynthia, you married a man with mental illness. This is why a deliverance does not work on everyone. It's not demon possession but mental illness.
---Charles on 5/2/07|
This doesn't make sense. If you have all the common sense, why did you marry somebody without any? LOL! I think you're just mad at him right now.
---sue on 5/2/07|
Cynthia, all the charismatic witchcraft in the church/world cannot transform a brain.
Jesus Christ is the only One that can repair your husband's thought patterns.
Fasting and prayer is the best place to start. You need to hear from God. You have some decisions to make and they need to be correct.
Step up to the plate, do not let distractions occupy your time, you can't afford to right now. Do you have a pastor, minister, on the island, that you can go pray with today? Today.
---Michelle on 5/2/07|