Adulterous Parenting Issues
If a person with 3 children aged 4-10 had an adulterous affair and divorced her husband and then married that partner with whom she had the affair, do you feel that would be worse for the children then if she found a different partner and married him?
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---john on 5/15/07
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This would be difficult for the kids and possibly disastrous for the relationship later on. I would not be this desperate for any man, to do this to my kids. It takes a lot of sacrifice and love for ones kids to do this. If a woman(mom) is evil enough to have this type relationship and let her kids see this, is obviously not a very loving or caring mom. An affair is a very ugly thing. I would not leave my spouse under circumstances like that. Too risky. I would not feel good about a man who would let a woman tear her home up like that. The man(adulterer) is scum. I would never want to do this. Getting a man under these circumstances is the lowest level you can sink to. Very, very ugly,indeed.
---Robyn on 10/19/11|
It's more dificulty on kids! Been there..sadly,confuses the kids n sooner or later they are like little "ragdolls"..they look lik they're adapt'n WHEN infact..they're little Hearts so confused! LONELY!
---ELENA on 6/13/11|
In either case, she is in sin, and her children will reap ripple effects from her sin.
Read Joshua 7 to see how the children were executed for the sins of the father.
Even if God grants forgiveness . .
Col 3:25 But he that doeth wrong shall receive for the wrong which he hath done: and there is no respect of persons.
Example: if her finances are reduced because of her sin, less money will ripple effect to her children.
---a_servant on 6/22/07|
What make a persons sins under the blood? The fact that they are re-married. This terminology is both Subjective and misleading. If you have committed Adultery which is what is said, no amount of re-marrying will eliminate you from ADULTERY. You are to REMAIN single. 1 Corith 7 READ the debate Matt 19, 10:11 your salvation is what is under the blood not if you go straight back into yet another marriage Husband committed No Fornication and is still alive.
---Carla5754 on 5/17/07|
Evidence in scripture explains that the Law of marriage is that you are bound as long as your husband/wife is alive. Bound meaning married. Death completely annuls the marriage. But because of the hardness of the hearts of the Jews, Moses Permitted Putting the Away of ones wife. But Christ said Accept the cause be ''Fornication'' You commit Adultery If you Re-marry. Unless you re-write the scriptures her marriage is certainly not under the Blood of Jesus Christ If this the case.
---Carla5754 on 5/17/07|
Jody: If her past affair is under the blood, it stays under the blood. God won't judge her if she sought forgiveness from him. And made things right with God. And if it is under the blood, and she married a Christian man, she isn't living in sin anymore. (Remember I said IF IT IS UNDER THE BLOOD). If it isn't under the blood, yes she is still living in sin.
---Rebecca_D on 5/16/07|
It doesn't matter. She is living in sin in both cases. As long as her previous husband is alive, she may not marry at all according to scripture. There many Christians who do not observe scripture regarding remarriage and believe that they are in good shape spiritually. They are living in the sin of adultery and need our prayers.
---jody on 5/16/07|
We all make gross mistakes in our lives, but this mother will have made a giant mistake that she will live, to regret. If she does this. Sin is a terrible thing that wreaks so much pain and torment in our lives and others lives( in this case, the kids). The kids will suffer. They will have been dealt a terrible hand by their own mom. They will have been given a very bad example on relationships, morals, values, family life etc....I feel for the kids, stuck in the middle. Bless their little hearts.
---Robyn on 5/16/07|
She should marry neither. She should remain single, and work on her relationship with the Lord instead.
---Madison1101 on 5/16/07|
The mother should not marry the man with whom she had the affair. Her children will always blame him for breaking up their parents' marriage. In a perfect world, the mother would come to her sense and try to reconcile her marriage before the divorce is final. But, this is not a perfect world.
---Susie on 5/16/07|
This question is like asking "Which is worse...beating the childen with a golf club or a snow shovel?"
---ralph7477 on 5/15/07|
Of course I agree with you all that she should stay with her husband but I'd like your opinion on this one question. Would it be worse for the children for her to marry the guy she had an adulterous affair with than if she married a totally different guy? She hasn't remairried yet. She's not even divorced yet but would like to marry the guy. This is a sad situation. I have an opinion but I'd like yours. Thanks.
---john on 5/15/07|
This is such a sad question!!
---Annie on 5/15/07|
What is worse for the children is this woman not staying with their father. Since that is impossible now, she needs to stay where she is. Her instability is hurting the kids more than anything.
The Bible is clear that we should stay with the spouse we have, and not go changing spouses the way some people change cars.
---Madison1101 on 5/15/07|
This is not a clear cut and dry depiction of all of the circumstances, I would have to hear every bodys points on the matter before an answer could be given. Understand that the sexual act involves a bond it is an entrance way of forming soul ties, It is the only sin where you sin against your own body but this is a different subject altogether.
---Cynthia_1 on 5/15/07|
Of course, it would be better if the mother had never committed adultery and stayed with the childrens' father. It wouldn't matter whether she married the man with whom she committed adultery or someone else. She has taught her children that it is OK to do what you want as long as it makes you happy.
---Susie on 5/15/07|
I believe the kids are confused. Because mommy can't decide what man she wants to be with. She needs to think of her children FIRST, then put herself second. This woman needs to find an alter and make things right with God. She already cheated on her husband, and got a divorce, then remarried her affair partner. Sounds like she is a bit confused herself. If she doesn't make things right with God and get these sins under the blood, she'll be miserable and die lost.
---Rebecca_D on 5/15/07|
Math 19:3:11, 1 Cor 7
If she re-married and committed fornication/Adultery both are committing Adultery. As for the children it would be best if both did not live an adulterous life,this will greatly influence the children's perception of The Holy Word since
''The wages of sin is death'
and The greatest gift is turning around from that position and living for God single giving her household the chance to enjoy Eternal life which would make a HUGE difference.
---Carla5754 on 5/15/07|
I would say, just off the top of my head, that divorcing their father would do them more damage than remarrying afterwards.
---Jack on 5/15/07|