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Forced Parent Kid Relationship

MUST a Christian parent have a good relationship with their Christian children or can the parent decide not to? What scriptures back up a relationship?

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 ---Tim on 8/23/07
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Katie, I can understand your situation as the family relationships were more strained to start with.
---Tim on 8/27/07

Tim, I don't know what my father believes. He has never been a part of my life growing up. My parents divorced when I was little. I've tried building a relationship with him, but he's never reciprocated. I've just decided to let it go, I don't need the heartache anymore.
---Katie on 8/26/07

Katie, is your father a Christian? If so, why is the relationship damaged?
---Tim on 8/26/07

Rita, the approach you mentioned is the one I have taken. Both of his grandchildren were saved at a very early age and I have a great relationship with my young children. I believe it is a great loss for all involved because the grandchildren don't know who their grandfather is. Also I don't want the kids to misunderstand what the heart of a Pastor should be.
---Tim on 8/26/07

You can't force a relationship with a parent or child. I've tried with my own dad, and I have been completely unsuccessful. If you've tried everything and nothing is working, you can't force it, because then the relationship will be strained. Just pray for him and hope that his heart softens. Until then, be the best father you can be to your own children.
---Katie on 8/26/07

It would be a very unusual 'Christian' father that would be like this. Is he really a Christian or is he religious? If he is a Christian I would have thought he would be delighted that his son was also saved and would also want a relationship with your children. However you cannot force it so I'd say, make sure that your relationship with your own children is how it should be and they'll hopefully become Christians and stick by you when you are older. Your father will be loser because of this.
---RitaH on 8/26/07

Us as parents should be the postive role models of our children even if they don't behave 100%. If parents do not want to have the relationship with their children maybe they should abstain from making them, having children comes responsibility.I have 3 of them, but I also know they're Gods gift.So why ignore them no matter what circumstances?
If you don't have custody of them, & refuse to stay in touch, then terminating your rights so someone else can raise them is the best thing.
---Candice on 8/25/07

Look within and then see how God can bring about real change - if it is your father or you that needs a change of heart - then it may be what will come from this.

Rom 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to [His] purpose.

and having done all - STAND
---Andrea on 8/24/07

Hi Tim, I would have to agree with Andrea, for we do not have enough detail about this relationship to give you some insight. There has to be some reason that this is happening in your family. The best advice I could give you is to PRAY, and keep on praying, in Faith, for nothing is impossible for God.
---Cynthia on 8/24/07

I agree it is strange, however maybe someone here has some wisdom or insight based upon their experiences?
---Tim on 8/24/07

How about all the scripture that describes how a person in ministry is supposed to behave and or how we are to treat one another.

But this is a strange situation and not appropriate for this forum.
We are not counselors and apparently you both need one. (pastorial)
---Andrea on 8/24/07

I am the adult child attempting to have a relationship with my Pastor father who wants nothing to do with me or his grandchildren.
---Tim on 8/24/07

4:5 Behold, I will send you Elijah the prophet before the coming of the great and dreadful day of the LORD:

4:6 And he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the earth with a curse

Which Tim are you?

---Tim on 8/23/07

Luke 1:16 And many of the children of Israel shall he turn to the Lord their God.

17 And he shall go before him in the spirit and power of Elias, to turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the disobedient to the wisdom of the just, to make ready a people prepared for the Lord.

---Tim on 8/23/07

Deuteronomy 11:18 " lay up these words of mine in your heart and in your soul, and bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. 19 "You shall teach them to your children, speaking of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. 20 "And you shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates,

How can we talk of them to our children if we send them away ?
---Tim on 8/23/07

Let me clarify. I am talking about an adult in their thirties with parents in their sixties. The Christian pastor older father wants nothing to do with his Christian son. Pastor says prove to me in scriptures that I have to have a relationship with my son.
---Tim on 8/23/07

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Colossians 3:20-21, Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. vs 21, Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. Also read Ephesians 6:1-4.
---Cynthia on 8/23/07

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