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Fellowship With Your Family

Do you guys fellowship with unbelievers of your own family? I'm not talking about witnessing. (2 Corinthians 6:14) Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

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 ---Mr._Graham on 9/20/07
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With unbelievers, just as family. Now Spiritually, what fellowship has righteousness, the Acts Church of The Living God, with unrighteousness
, orthodox ideology theology trinity doctrines n commandments of men, & those that worship other diff gods. None.
What communion has light, The Acts Church of The Living God with darkness, orthodox ideology theology trinity doctrines n commandments of men, & those that worship other diff gods. None.
---Lawrence on 8/1/14

Thanks Elena, you are a gem. I don't know which one you prefer but whichever it is please take the accolade for being one.
---Rita_H on 6/3/14

Sis.RitaH.excellent post! Wonderfull
You did not love the Christian ones more,kids can' better to love them all the same.It holds "true" love is thicker than water...:-) ha ha
loving testimony,you are incredible & living testimony Christian love is real.thankyou,love of Jesus!
Elena 9555
---Elena9555 on 6/3/14

I have a large family. Some of my children are born-again Christians and some are not. None of my wider family (siblings, cousins etc.) are Christians.

The fellowship I have with the Christians in the family is deeper than with the others but I love all my children equally.
---Rita_H on 6/1/14

ToSis.Michelle, all respect certainly do agree with your verses,comment & wisdom,love,etc

re: family not here,they outside U.S.
friend's who no longer,can associate myself,because compromise not my way anymore.
No longer a "people pleaser"

I love them from.afar daily sometime into the wee hours,praying cry out before the Lord they have gone way off From the people I knew for years.

Greed,bad influences,Satan,clique not reality has taken their mind. I give myself to.prayer & stay at my Father's house be available for the Master's use.Thankyou,for your post!
Love of Jesus! Elena 5999
---Elena9555 on 5/25/14

Mr Graham, the verses you posted are perfect in response to this discussion, we are in an hour that satan is perverting and twisting the scriptures and he despises that we will not compromise Christs perfect Truth.As you know he leads us in all truth through his word. Christ assures us to expect to be hated for the TRUE gospel (not a watered down, feel comfy , make it say it say what i want it to say gospel} Christ said "REMEMBER WHEN THEY HATE YOU THEY HATED ME FIRST". We present the gospel in love to our families and when they reject it, then we love them from afar and continue to pray for their souls,We should not have anything in common with unbelievers.. In love deep truthful love I say what I say to all reading. Michelle
---michelle_woods on 4/9/14

Fellowship and just talking with someone aren't the same thing. If it were, then Jesus wouldn't have been found at a table eating with sinners. Fellowship denotes actually partaking of the spirit of someone. An example: family member A is maliciously gossiping about someone and causing strife. If you enter into that by partaking of that behavior, you are fellowshipping with unrighteousness and communing with darkness. Choose to be excused or choose the ministry of silence.
---Linda on 6/5/08

When I quoted the verse about Jesus "dining with sinners" it was His opportunity to witness to them. I never said he made friends with them. I can have a meal with sinners but that does not mean they are my best friends.

If a man falls in the ditch how do you help him out? The only way to help him out is to get in the ditch with him.
---denna7667 on 9/25/07

This is a very difficult subject. I don't look for unbelieving friends, I look for believing friends, because I know it is foolish to go out looking for unbeliveing friends to have fun with. I am drifting apart from my wordly friends I had before I was converted, because they have rejected the Gospel. What am I to do? Continue hanging out with them and just have fun now? No, because I know that is not God's will. When it comes to my family I have wondered if the same thing applies.
---Matthew_from_LA on 9/25/07

A new family is formed.

As Jesus is on the cross, one of his disciples, John, and his mother, Mary, are there watching him suffer. (John 19:26-27) When Jesus therefore saw his mother, and the disciple standing by, whom he loved, he saith unto his mother, Woman, behold thy son! Then saith he to the disciple, Behold thy mother! And from that hour that disciple took her unto his own home.
---Mr._Graham on 9/25/07


Mary, Jesus' mother, was in Christ. She was His earthly mother and heavenly mother (a believer). And yes, we should eat with sinners while witnessing. Those sinners of Jesus' day wanted to hear the Word! Jesus went wherever he was invited to share the Gospel -- the good news of remission of sins.
---Mr._Graham on 9/25/07

You guys are confusing witnessing with fellowship. If you are invited to a cookout and they will receive the Word of God, then by all means keep on witnessing. But if they reject Jesus and don't want to hear it, then Be Ye Separate.
---Mr._Graham on 9/25/07

Come on now, lets not twist scriptures around. Jesus, as people enjoy pointing out, sometimes ate with sinners. He never made friends with them. What do you have in common with unbelievers, even in family members? In conversations, Jesus has to be the center of it. Most ubelievers don't go for that, with a few exceptions the hypocritical family members, they may. These people will speak of things of God, eventhough their hearts are far from Him. Which causes my mouth to do some funny twitching.
---catherine on 9/25/07

It amazes me when so many people who claim to be like Jesus. Jesus ate with and spent time with sinners. You cant reach out to people if you are not with them.

Luke 15:2 And the Pharisees and scribes murmured, saying, This man receiveth sinners, and eateth with them.

Luke 5:32 I came not to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance.
---denna7667 on 9/25/07

Mr Graham,
You say, "Your verses confirmed my contention.". Mark 10:29-30
nowhere teaches that those mothers, and sisters, etc., are "in Christ".
I have no part of your view of "leaving unbelieving family members
behind". In case you were not aware of what Jesus did with his Mom
from the cross, I refer you to John 19:27_28.
---Nana on 9/25/07

So far you may argue that Mary was a "fellow Christian", so lets move
on. "What could a Christian possibly have in common with an
unbeliever?", you said. And I say, what did Jesus come to do? What
are we entrusted to do? "Lastly, to hate -- as stated in Matthew
10:34-37 -- means to love less." Really? Furthermore you said, "And
yes, forgive your brethren 70 X 7! Your brethren is a fellow believer in
Christ." Again I say, really?
---Nana on 9/25/07

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Matthew 5:43: "Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy
neighbour, and hate thine enemy. 44: But I say unto you, Love your
enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and
pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you, 45: That ye
may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his
sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and
on the unjust."
---Nana on 9/25/07

Matthew 5:46: "For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye?
do not even the publicans the same? 47: And if ye salute your brethren only,
what do ye more than others? do not even the publicans so? 48: Be ye
therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect." What
say ye to that?
---Nana on 9/25/07

The devil does not find us at the place we were, he finds us right where we
are! I'll tell you what I see the Bible teach on the subject of from whom "be
ye separate": I Corinthians 5:9: "I wrote unto you in an epistle not to
company with fornicators: 10: Yet not altogether with the fornicators of this
world, or with the covetous, or extortioners, or with idolaters, for then must
ye needs go out of the world."
---Nana on 9/25/07

I Corinthians 5:11: But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if
any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater,
or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner, with such an one no not to eat.
12: For what have I to do to judge them also that are without? do not ye
judge them that are within? 13: But them that are without God judgeth.
Therefore put away from among yourselves that wicked person."
---Nana on 9/25/07

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Paul is teaching us to keep a sharp eye on those "buddies" of us!
Here, I give you confirmation that it is those "within" that you "separate" from:
Matthew 10:11: "And into whatsoever city or town ye shall enter, inquire who
in it is worthy, and there abide till ye go thence. 12: And when ye come into an house, salute it. 13: And if the house be worthy, let your peace come upon it:
but if it be not worthy, let your peace return to you.
---Nana on 9/25/07

Matthew 10:14: "And whosoever shall not receive you, nor hear your words,
when ye depart out of that house or city, shake off the dust of your feet."
Whom do you think Jesus was referencing as "worthy"? Who could that be?
How about "whosoever shall do the will of God"? However, some claim to be
but are not, and Jesus was warning about them in the referenced Scripture
from Matthew.
---Nana on 9/25/07

Jesus came to seek and to save sinners. He dined with sinners. I believe that we should be walking testimonies, or rather as a born again child of God, our lives should reflect Jesus Christ. If you have unsaved family members, than I see nothing wrong with say getting together with your family to have a cookout as an example. Who knows, one of your family members may be won to Christ just by what they see in you.
---Cynthia on 9/24/07

Sometimes I think Christians are estranged from reality. If a mother gets saved she doesn't stop having her children - husband (his friends+family) over and doing family things. COMMON SENSE folks just a little common sense pleeeeaaaassseeee
---Andrea on 9/24/07

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I am not talking about witnessing to family members. I am speaking about after you have witnessed to family members and they have rejected Jesus' Gospel. The Gospel isn't a sales pitch. In love, we share with people, including family members, the Gospel. However, if they reject Jesus, it is not our Christian duty to entertain their sinful works. Be Ye Separate. Why would we entertain sin? What could a Christian possibly have in common with an unbeliever?
---Mr._Graham on 9/24/07

Lastly, to hate -- as stated in Matthew 10:34-37 -- means to love less.
---Mr._Graham on 9/24/07


Your verses confirmed my contention. By leaving unbelieving family members behind, we gain new brothers, sisters and mothers in Christ (Mark 10:29-30). And yes, forgive your brethren 70 X 7! Your brethren is a fellow believer in Christ. We are not to fellowship with heathens and a publicans -- only witness. This is a part of bearing your cross.
---Mr._Graham on 9/24/07

Mark 10:28: "Then Peter began to say unto him, Lo, we have left all,
and have followed thee. 29: And Jesus answered and said, Verily I
say unto you, There is no man that hath left house, or brethren, or
sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands, for my sake,
and the gospel's,
---Nana on 9/24/07

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Mark 10:30: But he shall receive an hundredfold now in this
time, houses, and brethren, and sisters, and mothers, and children, and
lands, with persecutions, and in the world to come eternal life. 31: But
many that are first shall be last, and the last first.
---Nana on 9/24/07

Look at that! For those who have come to hate their mother, sister,
father, etc, if the promise holds true they can very well have a hate
feast with the hundredfold!
---Nana on 9/24/07

We are taught to forgive Until seventy times seven (Matt 18:22). Also
Matthew 18: 16: But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one
or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word
may be established. 17: And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto
the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as
an heathen man and a publican.
---Nana on 9/24/07

Has "every word" been "established" here? All I see is the judgement
but no evidence has been provided.
---Nana on 9/24/07

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Do not suppose that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I did not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to turn a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law -- a man's enemies will be the members of his own household. Anyone who loves his father or mother more than me is not worthy of me, anyone who loves his son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. (Matthew 10:34-37)
---Mr._Graham on 9/22/07

As a general rule (flexible) I visit my family and fellowship with like-minded believers and my family is more then welcome to visit and fellowship with me.

I've seen half of my family saved and I "WILL" see the other half - me and my whole household.

Yeah God! do I get an amen and I'll be praying for yours.

put Andrea's family on your prayer list...thanks
---Andrea on 9/22/07

I'm in agreement with Whisper. We should pray for them. We can't simply fellowship with anyone as the scripture indicates. We share the Gospel through witnessing when we are in their presence, but no fellowship.
---Mr._Graham on 9/21/07

Yes, my mother doesn't go to church, she belives in God though, my grandparents go to church when they can,they live up in the Colorado mountains so the nearest town is an hour & they there when able.My inlaws are lutherns,but do not steadly go to church.
We have meals with them yes, but do we always do activities with othe members? not if it's against Gods will.
---candice on 9/20/07

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I don't think that fellowshipping (if that really is a verb!) is necessarily confined to spiritual sharing.
My dictionary list companionship and friendliness under the definition of the noun fellowship.
It's impossible to have spiritual christian fellowship with a non-Christian, but what is wrong with secular fellowship?
If we avoided that, we would quite rightly be seen as self righteous.
---alan_of_UK on 9/20/07

No they have reprobate minds, but I continue to pray for them from afar. They drag my spirit way down and grieve me if I stay around them.
---Whisper on 9/20/07

Seeing that many people are saved through seeing the way their Christian family members live their lives it would serve no purpose at all to avoid non-Christian relatives. However, the time spent with them is totally different from fellowshipping with believers.
---RitaH on 9/20/07

(2 Corinthians 6:17-18) Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing, and I will receive you, And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.
---Mr._Graham on 9/20/07

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(2 Corinthians 6:15) And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?
---Mr._Graham on 9/20/07

They're my relatives. If a family member is gossiping or sinning in some way, I try to turn the situation around. Explain to them God's way of doing things. Emphasize love and peace. I try to always maintain unity in my home and among relatives. Doesn't always work but I never give up.I like to hear what's going on,probably indulge a little gossip here and there,myself etc... but I continue pray for all of my family members,including myself. Confess and repent of my sins.
---Robyn on 9/20/07

Everybody needs a few sinner friends. How else are they able to see the Jesus in you? We need to be examples to those living in darkness. Witness to them when the opportunity arrives, but dont be pushy. Relatives are the hardest to witness to anyway.

Jesus hung out with sinners didn't He?
---denna7667 on 9/20/07

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