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Friends With The Backslidden

What if you have been close friends with someone that was once a christian and is now backslidden? Can you still be close friends with them even if you are married and they are single?

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Paul felt this way about John Mark, who I guess you could call a backslider. It wasn't until John Mark repented and returned to obedience of faith that Paul welcomed him back into fellowship.

I think it depends on the relationship. Often times the backslide , if that is what you want to call it, doesn't want to fellowship with those who are in fellowship with the he Lord, because you bring them under conviction. OR if you compromise your obedience and find your moral compass being compromised, then we are not to fellowship with them. Those who know the way but turned away are not the same as friends with the lost who have never repented....YET.
---kathr4453 on 5/28/18

Many people go through difficult times (by their own fault or not), and often lose most of their friends. The few who stick with them are very telling. Note Jesus's one parable that dealt with friendship - the Good Samaritan. Here was a person who was willing to be a friend, and go significantly out of his way to help even a total stranger from a different religion and culture - even through others who were closer and should have helped just walked away.

After the PTL scandal, most Christians abandoned Tammy Faye Bakker (because, you know, sin). The only people who stood by her were... drag queens - people she and her husband would have denounced and ridiculed. They were the Samaritans in this case, while Christians were the Pharisees.
---StrongAxe on 8/16/17

Only if you are a TRUE friend.

So, let me get this straight. You are willing to convert some stranger, but not an ex-close friend?

That speaks volumes about yourself not your so called ex-close friend.

James 5:19-20

"My brothers and sisters, if one of you should wander from the truth and someone should bring that person back, remember this: Whoever turns a sinner from the error of their way will save them from death and cover over a multitude of sins."
---Nicole_Lacey on 8/14/17

Amen Jerry you are right.
---Samuelbb7 on 8/13/17

Read Hebrews
---Tracy on 8/12/17

Should we be Friends With The Backslidden?

Jesus was!

---Jerry6593 on 3/25/17

It's hard to maintain a close relationship. The friend who chose to leave God must understand that when he chose to leave Gods will the blessing of godly friendships goes with that. There's no longer that common love towards God in obedience and the friendship that sharpens one another to live for Christ. When we backslide we are enticed by our own desires/lusts and give into them, so we break covenant with God & God's people. This doesn't mean if you see your old friend that you cannot speak to him about the love of God again or encourage him to get his heart right with Jesus Christ. I believe that would still be our obligation. Your friend once lived for God
, he knows what to do or who to go to for forgiveness and restoration .
---Yvonne on 3/20/17

All's I know is What God says:
IF anyone comes to you with some other Doctrine, Have no part of him And don't even bid him Godspeed, Lest you become a partaker of his sins.
---Duane_Dudley_Martin on 3/2/08

The word backslider or backsliding does not appear in the New Testament and is used in the Old Testament primarily of Israel. The Jews, though they were Gods chosen people, continually turned their backs on Him and rebelled against His Word (Jeremiah 8:9). That is why they were forced to make sacrifices for sin over and over in order to restore their relationship with the God they had offended. (2 Corinthians 5:21)... and because we are saved by Him, a true Christian cannot fall away so as not to return.
---Court7646 on 2/29/08

Christians do sin (1 John 1:8), but the Christian life is not to be identified by a life of sin. Believers are a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17).A Christian life should be a changed life. We should have serious doubts about a person who claims to be a believer yet lives a life that says otherwise. Yes, a true Christian who falls back into sin is still saved, but at the same time a person who lives a life controlled by sin is not truly a Christian.
---Court7646 on 2/29/08

Yes. If a Christian stops talking to a backslidden person, how will they make their way back to Christ? If you really care about that person, you would want to still be friends with them. What if Christ done that? No one would make it into heaven.
---Rebecca_D on 2/13/08

I don't know why married or single would make a different. The answer is NO!
---catherine on 1/7/08

Sure you can.But you can't let what he does
influence you.When that happens,its time to
separate.If he is not ready,there is nothing
that you can do.Dont't lose your own salvation trying to win his.
---Jack_8773 on 1/6/08

The Bible warns us to not be unequally yolked. This is not only in marrage. If you are a strong Holy Ghost filled saint of God then you could spend some time with this person and hopefully minister. It has nothing to do with Jesus forsaking us.
---Marc on 1/6/08

Of course remain friends with them.They are backslidden not totally lost.Your friendship and caring may lead your friend back into the fold.
---shirley on 1/6/08

Of course stay close. Do not participate in the sin that this person is in, but continue to be an example of Christ and love them. Always love no matter what.
---Bish on 1/5/08

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While it is good to be open to someone in that condition, it is also dangerous, because if you are not very careful, their backslidden ways, will become appealing to you. For your own good, I would pray for them, and keep a distance.Jesus is married to the backslidder, and he is strong enough that it won't bother him to do so.Let them know that you care and are praying for them, and that you will be there for them, when they come back to the faith.
---Gayla on 1/4/08

Well, if you are living right, you can't really be "close" while the person is shut down from being loving like God's love would have the person peaceful and forgiving and caring about others as oneself while enjoying You, LORD. But > "it could be me" > "He can have compassion on those who are ignorant and going astray, since he himself is also subject to weakness." (Hebrews 5:2)
---Bill_bila5659 on 1/4/08

"Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness,

considering yourself lest you also be tempted." (Galatians 6:1)

"lest you also be tempted" > this tells me, it could be me.
---Bill_bila5659 on 1/4/08

I think it would help to understand why people backslide. Ones can backslide because they do not understand what God desires for them. For example, ones will waste themselves with all their sacrificing and "serving", but not be enjoying Jesus and His "rest for your souls" (in Matthew 11:29), and these can burn out and get frustrated. Others judge, but do not have forgiveness and compassion ready-to-go for wrong people, and they are not enjoying the Lord.
---Bill_bila5659 on 1/4/08

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Though backslidden, still a child of God. He will never leave us. Never means never. You may the person God uses to bring the backslidden back to repentence.
---james on 1/4/08

1) We should never disown someone just because they are at a point in their life where their trials & tribulations are causing them to backslide? Understanding & compassion is what we all need during these times?

Backsliding is something we in Christ are going to see and when we do we are to be there with Gods Word when it is needed?
---Shawn.M.T on 1/4/08

2) As far as staying close friends:

Closeness for us who are in Christ is Fellowshipping in Gods Word. Married or not doesnt matter. Fellowshipping more with them may actually help your friend at this time when they are Backsliding.
---Shawn.M.T on 1/4/08

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