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Will God Bless My Affair

I had an affair for 6 months and left my wife after 9 years for the other woman. Will God bless our relationship if I repent? I still see my wife and we are still married but I want a divorce.

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Can you forgive yourself? That is the question. God forgives people who forgive themselves. Do not listen to what other people say, how they say absolutely not. I say to you, yes, he can. God blesses all relationships. He has no judgment/opinion on the matter of who you love. He understands you love both women, and you love this new women more than your wife you are currently married to.
God is not as judgmental as everyone says him to be. And I say it is a sin to make people afraid of God, our creator.
Do what you will in your life with no regrets.
---Katherine on 6/2/09

No. The fact that you ask this question shows me how far from the Bible truth you have departed.
---frances008 on 5/31/09

Put your other woman on hold. Fix your marriage or choose to divorce the wife, before trying to start another relationship. God does not bless mess. We have to do things orderly and according to God's way and will. If you divorce you will not be doomed,forever! I don't think. There are many teachers and preachers who have divorced. Not once but many times! You have much company.You will have to repent and give up this affair. God endorses and bless marriage and right relationships. Not adultery and cheap affairs.
Remember this:If you do not fix this mess. It will fix itself eventually. Seeing two women,at once, could backfire on you and cost you your life.Everybody will lose.
---Robyn on 5/30/09

Marty:-"what God hath joined together let No Man put asunder" With due respect, which part of this statement do you NOT understand. God does not change But Man must if he wants to REPENT-CHANGE-turn back to the creator, if you value salvation.
---MIX on 5/29/09

I am in the mist of writing a sermon entitled "God Bless My Mess". God loves us with unconditional love, Agape love. However, we have to deal with the consequences of our sins individually. The fact of the matter is you are planning to sin. A true child of God finds ways to avoid sin. Another issue is the fact that you are still married. Ever heard of adultery? What happened to your integrity? What do your friends and co-workers think of you? You need to get on your face, not your knees, and cry out to God for mercy. Repent and leave that "other" woman alone. Do whatever it takes to fix your relationship with both God and your wife.
Be Blessed.

Rev. Walt
---Rev._WALT on 5/29/09

Are you in the ministry?
If so, you need to step down immediately.

If you are a Christian, God will forgive your adultery, but you have permanently disqualified yourself from leading others.
As for the affair, it was never in God's will and what's birthed in sin is not a blessing.
---Cindy on 2/12/08

No, God won't bless your mess. Why should he? You see your wife as well as the other woman at the same time, that is messed up big time. If you really repented you wouldn't want a divorce from your wife, but have gotten rid of the other woman.
---Rebecca_D on 2/11/08

You have got to be kidding. Let me restate that. You don't say who the, "our" is when you write about the relationship. If you are talking about staying with your wife, and are sincere about repenting, than "yes" He will forgive you. If you are just using the term, "repenting" as a "crutch" to make yourself feel better about leaving your wife, than I stick by my origianal statement. God will not "bless" any form of adultery.
---wivv on 1/29/08


Just what DID Jesus say about "adult sonship"?

What I remember him saying was that we must be like little children, not adults:

Matthew 18:
"And said, Verily I say unto you, Except ye be converted, and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven."
---StrongAxe on 1/21/08

Sybil, we have no idea if these are your inner voices crying for attention or if any of these wild, outerlimit tales are even true.
---Chad on 1/20/08

Keep telling yourself that, Marty Strongaxe.

Corruption in a marriage or political arena.

Do you not know what Jesus Christ says about what prevents a person from adult Sonship?
Some will never enter in.
---lovable_linda on 1/19/08

Some are not able to endure the revelation of their own heart.
When the heart is deceitfully wicked, some want to believe that they are wonderfully pure.
There is that point that some reach, that they are unable to look at the wickedness of their own heart and only want to believe good about themselves.
---lovable_linda on 1/19/08

Jesus said it would be difficult for some to see the wickedness of the heart and that repentance would be the only way to have the mind of Christ.
It takes great humility to see the ugliness within.
---lovable_linda on 1/19/08

When Jesus was tempted, Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God and Him only shall you serve.

It's not God's will to serve you in sin.
God will not bless your affair or any other wickedness.
---lovable_linda on 1/19/08

Hey!! Are you looking for people to sympathize with you or are you trying to justify yourself from what you know it is sin. Do you think God is like a sponge that you sin deliberately and after wards let him cleans you.
---jude on 1/19/08

Marty you asked a most telling question, "Don't I deserve to be happy?" No one grants happiness. Human - US Constitution - Life, Liberity and the Pursuit of happiness. God - I will give you joy. Happiness an emotion, joy a way of life. Seek joy, repent, you both have sinned. Seek each other's repentence with God, get some good therapy, marriage is work, so work at it.
---dan on 1/18/08

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How do you expect God to Bless your Marriage when one of the Laws of God strictly states thou shall not commit adultry
---lawre3763 on 1/17/08


God did not ever tell Solomon (or ANYONE ELSE) that polygamy was NOT acceptable. If you can find any verses where he DID, I would be happy to hear them, and acknowledge that I was wrong all along.
---StrongAxe on 1/17/08

loveable_linda said, "God did not ever tell King Solomon that polygamy was acceptable."

God did not ever tell King Solomon that monogamy was acceptable either. Marriage is marriage, but mandatory monogyny or mandatory polygyny are definately unscriptural.

To the OP: Your sin was in leaving your original wife. No, you should not be divorcing her under any circumstances. If you do, you would be ineligible to marry another woman in the future.
---righteouswarriors on 1/17/08

Marty Strongaxe. Just keep telling yourself that.
I'll stay with Scripture. God did not ever tell King Solomon that polygamy was acceptable. It was a large part of his downfall.
---lovable_linda on 1/17/08

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Yes, Solomon married many women - BECAUSE marriage was and is the way to form political alliances.

Yes, it is true that Solomon ultimately backslid - but that was due to his OWN mistakes.

I am NOT saying that adultery was justified - just that God can redeem ANY situation, even a marriage founded on adultery.

Moses's best years were in the desert - where he was because of murder.

Peter's became a shining martyr of faith - AFTER denying Jesus.
---StrongAxe on 1/17/08

lovable linda, well put. God does not redeem sin, instead he recompenses wickedness to the wicked, and he only redeems those who turn to him.
---Eloy on 1/16/08

Is it G-d's nature to bless sin? NO!Certaintly He did not bless Adam & Eve for their sin, but he showed them mercy. If you are stilling living in sin, how can G-d by his nature bless you? He can show you mercy, if you turn to Him with a repentant heart. A repentant heart is one that stops sinning and runs back to G-d. Remember, repentance is an action not an emtion.
---Jew-D on 1/15/08

Marty:: You should make up your mind & not Test God.This is not a game of checkers.If you were a mouse I'd say 'you have no soul' but you are a man.
---Emcee on 1/15/08

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Adultery justification?

Solomon had supreme wisdom, but lacked the character necessary to live up to Gods ways.

The misuse of his wealth and lack of character led to his downfall.
---lovable_linda on 1/15/08

Adultery justification?
God redeemed?

Marty Strongaxe, read the outcome once again.
---lovable_linda on 1/15/08

Adultery justification?

Notwithstanding in thy days I will not do it for David thy fathers sake: but I will rend it out of the hand of thy son. Howbeit I will not rend away all the kingdom, but will give one tribe to thy son for David my servants sake, and for Jerusalems sake which I have chosen.

And the LORD stirred up an adversary unto Solomon, Hadad the Edomite..
---lovable_linda on 1/15/08

Adultery justification?
God redeemed?

. . . And God stirred him up another adversary, Rezon the son of Eliadah, which fled from his lord Hadadezer king of Zobah . . . . And Jeroboam the son of Nebat, an Ephrathite of Zereda, Solomons servant, whose mothers name was Zeruah, a widow woman, even he lifted up his hand against the king (1 Kings 11:11-14, 23, 26).
---lovable_linda on 1/15/08

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Solomons failure led to the permanent break-up of the nation.

From that time on the history of both houses was one of backsliding. Both eventually went into national captivity and were removed from the land. Some of the Jews eventually returned, but not the house of Israel. These people lost their national identity and vanished from sight.
---lovable_linda on 1/15/08

Solomon turned from God toward the end of his life. God manifested Himself to Solomon on more than one occasion. God directly worked with him, and he knew it. Like his father David, Solomon was very much aware of Gods dealings and power. If there was ever a man who should have looked to God and trusted him his entire life, it was Solomon. And if there was ever a man who failed in this, it was Solomon.
---lovable_linda on 1/15/08

Solomon paid no heed to God's warnings. His wealth led to extravagance and corruption, and downfall.

King Solomon loved many strange women, daughter of Pharaoh, Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Zidonians, and Hittites, Of the nations concerning which the LORD said unto the children of Israel, .. for surely they will turn away your heart after their gods: Solomon - seven hundred wives, princesses, and three hundred concubines, his wives turned away his heart.
---lovable_linda on 1/15/08

Idolatry - when Solomon was old, his wives turned away his heart after other gods: and his heart was not perfect with the LORD his God, as was the heart of David his father (1 Kings 11:14).

Solomon became an idolater.

For Solomon went after Ashtoreth the goddess of the Zidonians, and after Milcom the abomination of the Ammonites. And Solomon did evil in the sight of the LORD, and went not fully after the LORD, as did David his father.
---lovable_linda on 1/15/08

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Then did Solomon build an high place for Chemosh, the abomination of Moab, and for Molech, the abomination of the children of Ammon. And likewise did he for all his strange wives, which burnt incense and sacrificed unto their gods. And the LORD was angry with Solomon, because his heart was turned from the LORD God of Israel, which had appeared unto him twice (1 Kings 11:59).
---lovable_linda on 1/15/08

Adultery justification?

God carried out his promise to punish Solomon for his sins.

Wherefore the LORD said unto Solomon, Forasmuch as this is done of thee, and thou hast not kept my covenant and my statutes, which I have commanded thee, I will surely rend the kingdom from thee, and will give it to thy servant.
---lovable_linda on 1/15/08

Adultery justification?

Now therefore the sword shall never depart from thine house, because thou hast despised me, and hast taken the wife of Uriah the Hittite to be thy wife. Behold, I will raise up evil against thee out of thine own house, and I will take thy wives before thine eyes, and give them unto thy neighbour, and he shall lie with thy wives in the sight of this sun. For thou didst it secretly: but I will do this thing before all Israel, and before the sun (2 Sam. 12:9
---lovable_linda on 1/15/08

The most powerful king that Israel had ever known....

That would be the King of Kings and Lord of Lords.
Alpha and Omega, Cornerstone and Foundation of all wisdom.
---lovable_linda on 1/15/08

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Yes, David committed murder, and lost his child as a result of it - truly horrible circumstances.


As a result of their adulterous union, their SECOND son was the wisest and most powerful king that Israel had ever known.

So God can redeem even the most horrible of circumstances.
---StrongAxe on 1/15/08

A-men lovable linda. strongaxe twists scriptures and promotes falsehood.
---Eloy on 1/15/08

David lost his child because of it.

Sarcasm doesn't even deserve a dishonorable mention.
---lovable_linda on 1/14/08

Hey, it worked for David and Bathsheba...

(Sarcasm aside, while that IS true, it's certainly NOT a path I would recommend to anyone).
---StrongAxe on 1/14/08

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Marriage is a covenant between three beings you your wife and God. Biblically a covenant was never broken, only by death. If God broke his covenant with us we would all be dead now. He made a covenant with the world as a sign of a rainbow to know he would never destroy man again. If you break yours which you have what good was your covenant? How would you punish someone who has broken a covenant?
---rosalie on 1/12/08

Marty: Which happened first, your affair or hers?
---Trish9863 on 1/11/08

Marty, is it possible that you have hurt your wife? I remember a time in my marriage when I believed my husband was the one hurting me(emotionally). Granted, we both fought alot. We both hurt eachother but because of my past, I saw myself as the victim and rarely saw my part in the fights. Marty, find your way back to your wife.Find out what is hurting her. Draw close to God together. God wants you to be happy. But this other woman is not the answer. Also, you are helping this woman to sin.
---Kella3336 on 1/11/08

You have got to be making this up. You do not even know God, futhermore you are a blasphmer. Please don't tempt us few trues out here. Furthermore, you are tempting God. You are testing God. There you go!
---catherine on 1/11/08

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I think you have not truly understood the real biblical meaning of true repentance. It is not to be taken lightly. When you have truly repented, you will know whether God will bless your relationship or not. Let us know by then.
---Johnny on 1/11/08

Mike, that is a good point that you made.
---Kella3336 on 1/11/08

Moderator, My sentiments exactly.
---Eloy on 1/11/08

You ask, "Don't I deserve to be happy?"

Doesn't God deserve your obedience? Did He not have His Son suffer a horrible death for your salvation? Is your suffering anywhere near His?
---Trish9863 on 1/11/08

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I have been in your wife's position. I can not answer your question as I am not the one to judge. But adultery is a sin- and it seems you knowingly continue to live in sin. If you murder someone with the intention of repenting after the fact would you be forgiven?
---rraea8898 on 1/10/08

having asked the same question of myself 25 years ago...what part of "it is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of an angry God." don't you understand?
---junkyardboy on 1/10/08

This post is asinine. To even ask such a question shows you are lost. And to those who are offering advice to this person, how about the advice of repent and believe. Will God bless my wicked, vile, fornicating, lusting heart who left my wife whom I said I would love till death due us part? Yes, he'll bless you withe the lake of fire lest you repent.
---ShaunT on 1/10/08

What do you mean repent? Your relationship with "the other woman" is a sin. Is that what you are going to repent of so that God will bless some type of friendship? You are living in sin and your divorce will be a sin. NO!!! God would like you to know that HE IS NOT IN THE BUSINESS OF BLESSING SIN!! He can forgive you but do not ask for His blessing. lol lol lol:)
---jody on 1/10/08

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What I want to know is how do you find the time for all of these affairs?
You're on the blogs, morning, noon and night.
But I suppose it would all be part of the biz.
---Mike on 1/10/08

The OP asked, "Will God bless our relationship if I repent?...I want a divorce."

I'm with the moderator on this. You cannot seriously be repentant and still plan to divorce.

Matt 19:9: "And I say to you, whoever puts away his wife, except on the ground of whoring, and marries another, commits adultery. And whoever marries her who has been put away commits adultery."

If you divorce your wife and marry another, you would be committing adultery.
---righteouswarriors on 1/10/08

Philandering deviancy.
---Mark on 1/10/08

AMEN Moderator!!! This is a joke isn't it? If need to get saved and have a real one on one with Jesus.
---Holly4jc on 1/10/08

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My wife had an affair but now she wants me back and i have moved on. I just want happiness
---Marty on 1/10/08

No, God will not bless adulterous relationships. He blesses our obedience. Read 1 Corinthians to learn your responsibility to your wife, and get right with her and God. Then, He will bless your marriage, not your affair.

Unless your wife committed adultery, you have no valid reason to divorce her.
---Trish9863 on 1/10/08

How did your wife hurt you?
Did she betray you by having an affair outside your marriage?
Or did she say she could not cook your favourite meal?
Who has not been hurt by those they love? I suggest none.
You seem to be the betrayer, and now you ask the betrayal to be blessed!
Your greatest happiness would be if your wife forgives you.
---alan_of_UK on 1/10/08

(2) **IF** she is an abuser, why did you marry her? We can make sure with God about who we trust. "And this I pray, that your love may abound still more and more in knowledge and all discernment." (Philippians 1:9) Your ways which had you fooling yourself into getting with her, Marty, can still have you getting into more trouble. So, you need to see how you yourself are your main problem.
---Bill_bila5659 on 1/10/08

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I don't know how she hurt you, Marty. But first I would say pray and get strong in God's love so it can't keep hurting you. "And who is he who will harm you if you become followers of what is good?" (1 Peter 3:13) And forgiving in prayer for her can help make you strong in God's love so you can't stay or be hurt > "'And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses.'" (Mark 11:25)
---Bill_bila5659 on 1/10/08

You've thumbed your nose at God's Word,and are still being rebellious against living by that Word. The Bible,1 Sam 15:23 says rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft. You are an outlaw,sinner who has no remorse and intends to further disobey God with divorce. Why would God forgive a sinner who plans to repent only after they do what they please and enjoy their sin? You're living in adultry,will be even if divorce & marry her,Gal 5:19-21,they that do such things shall not inherit the Kingdom of God.
---Darlene_1 on 1/10/08

Marty, Do you want to live GOD's Way? Do you want to go to Heaven or Hell? GOD's Way of living is the "Narrow Way" of Holiness and Purity. GOD will never bless this affair of yours because it is SIN. GOD only blesses OBEDIENCE and HOLINESS. Please, re-think this through, because there are many "christians" who think they're going to Heaven, but will be shocked to find they went to Hell instead for living in SIN. Salvation is the Harder Way NOW, but the TRUE REST comes in Heaven!
---Gordon on 1/10/08

Oh boy. This is a doozie. A short answer: No. longer answer: read the bible.
---Kella3336 on 1/10/08

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Angelique, my heart swells with compassion for you. No, sister you cannot marry a married man - if you needed to hear it. I believe that these are lies of the Devil. The more you phine over him the more pain you are causing yourself, and the Devil is loving every tear in your heart. What good can come of it? - none. Angelique God's will is not in this. Those are lies of the Devil not God's voice.
---Marty on 10/15/07
---Mike on 1/9/08

No It's not a joke. My wife hurt me as a result I left her for happiness. Dont I deserve to be happy.
---Marty on 1/9/08

No, This is not a joke. My wife hurt me and as a result Ie moved on to be happy. Dont I deserve happiness if we repent for how we started the relationship?
---Marty on 1/9/08

My guess is no. God takes vows seriously. When a man and woman get married they become one flesh. If you were to reconcile the relationship with your wife, God would bless that relationship. Repenting is not simply saying I was wrong, but it's saying I was wrong and am no longer going to live that way. Reconciliation to your wife would, in my opinion, show true repentence.
---kady on 1/9/08

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Unless you're reading something other than the Bible, you should already know that extramarital relationships is a violation of God's spiritual law as well as the old written code, and God absolutely does NOT bless sinful actions. You must end the relationship, try to mend with your wife, and then repentance may be available to you, but remember that God looks on the heart. Sounds to me like you're looking for someone to take your side and justify your actions, and not really wanting to do what's right.
---Lewis on 1/9/08

This is a trick question--right??
---carol on 1/9/08

I would with your wife, repent of the relationship (including her assistance to help you your helpmate), work out however your wife is ready to stay with you if she does desire to. How could you not want a woman like that?---I mean if she's really Christian and willing to see you, and desires to forgive you and restore you. Galatians 6:1
---Bill_bila5659 on 1/9/08

---mima on 1/9/08

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Marty living life without knowing scriptures amounts to making God an after thought.

You asked if you repent will he bless your new relationship. Repentance involves reconciling your difference with your wife and leaving your mistress.

If you truly want to repent (turn from your sins) this is your only option.
---Pharisee on 1/9/08

Moderator....Good answer. This is getting totally insane with the ridiculous questions some of these people are asking. This sounds more like a question the wife is asking just in case her husband reads on this website.
---Susie on 1/9/08

no the scriptures are clear, jesus says divorce is only done with adultery, it would have to be her to want the divorce..not you
---dawn on 1/9/08

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