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Adultery And Be Trusted Again

Can someone who commits adultery be forgiven and trusted again? Do people like this really get better or are they bad or messed up? Is there hope for a marriage?

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 ---Dani on 1/18/08
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Hi, not to justify adultery (not at all, believe me!), but sometimes the adulterous spouse is just sickened by the rejection of his/her partner on an almost daily basis--no matter how hard he/she tries, it's never enough. Enough rejection can wreak such havoc that you don't see straight sometimes.
---Mary on 1/28/08

Dani::To forgive is easy but to forget to the point of Forgiveness is divine.God forgives us our transgressions.To really Trust depends on the degree of love which is linked to forgiveness,Repeat offender depends on complete contrition & the real love of the offender. His strength to carry it out, there are certain risks in every thing we do This is also based on love and forgiveness.Ultimately it is the fault of the transgressee(sinner) accountability is to God its not your sin.IMHO
---Emcee on 1/28/08

Chad ... What endless stream?
I've seen nothing previously from Dani
---alan_of_UK on 1/25/08

Chad you say "Your endless stream of questions about your affairs are an indicator that you don't really want to get better and that you're not better but bitter. Are you messed up. I think so." if you are saying this to Dani you must be assuming that she is the one who has had an affair, but nowhere in the question does it state that she is referring to herself. Why do you think this is the case?
---RitaH on 1/25/08

Your endless stream of questions about your affairs are an indicator that you don't really want to get better and that you're not better but bitter.
Are you messed up. I think so.
Is there hope for your marriage. Ask God
Can you be trusted again. Personally, I couldn't trust you, if history repeats itself, you'll be right back at it.
---Chad on 1/20/08

I would say that this would depend on the person who was wronged. We should forgive those who sin against us but some people just seem unable to do so. If the person who has been wronged is not a Christian they will view this differently anyway and might think "Why should I forgive?" It could also depend on whether this happened once (and why) or if it is a recurring pattern. Some people view this sin as being worse than anything else but is it?
---RitaH on 1/19/08

(2) 1 Timothy 3:1-10 shows me that if a man wants to be trusted with "care of the church of God" (v. 5), he needs to "first" be "tested" (v. 10). So, even though he is a Christian who has been forgiven...a-n-d is worthy to be considered to become a pastor . . . still, even he needs to be "tested" before being trusted. So, yes, I'd say the one who committed adultery can be trusted, but after being fairly and reliably tested. > (3) >
---Bill_bila5659 on 1/18/08

(3) Well, Dani, if I trust an adulterer or abuser by marrying the person...
I **fooled myself** into marrying the person...when I could have communicated reliably with God and obeyed His choice about if and who I trust. So, if I fooled **myself** like this, the question could be, can I ever be trusted again to make choices about who to trust, and
am ** I ** "bad or messed up", by being able to so fool myself instead of making sure with God? And is there hope for **me**?
---Bill_bila5659 on 1/18/08

Yes, forgive > "'And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses.'" (Mark 11:25) On the cross, Jesus prayed, "Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they do." (in Luke 23:34) But those people, though He forgave them, were not ready to be trusted. > (2) >
---Bill_bila5659 on 1/18/08

Dani people are what they are from the scars of a fallen world, and it's only until they've been forgiven that they can be free.

Luke7:47b but to whom little is forgiven, the same loveth little.

When we receieve the Holy Spirit it's not just a desire to be free from sin, it's a gut wrenching impulse.
You know you've found your calling when there is a physical drive from the spirit, mine is preaching, and when I try to put the brakes on I have pain. He pushes, but I'm a known quitter.
---Pharisee on 1/18/08

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