Divorced Women Want Me
At any church, I have a lot of divorced women chasing me. The only problem is that I'm a never-married single man who does not believe in remarriage. I believe that divorced people should seek out other divorced people. Do I have an "attitude" and/or "spiritual" problem?
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---Gregory on 2/6/08
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Jesus prohibited divorce except for adultery, that included lying about ones virginity. The non adulterer could remarry. The adulterer was not free to marry, and anyone marrying one is entering a prohibited marriage. A divorce without cause was no divorce, a type of bigamy. The exception is in 1Corinthians 7:15. If the unbeliever departs, the Christian can remarry because the marriage was not 'in the Lord'. Please read Matthew 5:31-32, 19:3-12, Mark 10:2-12, Luke 16:18. Both Matthew 19:9 and 1Corinthians 7:27-28 allow remarriage. Living together may be an act of marriage.
Deuteronomy 22:17-19, 28-29, 24:1-4, Proverbs 2:17 (forsaketh husband), Isaiah 54:4-8, Jeremiah 3:1, Malachi 2:14-16, 1Corinthians 6:15-16, 7:10-17, 27.
---Glenn on 8/16/09|
A female servant of our lord would not remarry-unless she is a widow. A christian man can remarry ONLY if his spouse was unfaithful. It is gender specific no one can change gods word. 1 Corinthians 7:10-12To the married I give this commandnot I, but the Lord)A wife must not separate from her husband But if she does, she must REMAIN UNMARRIED or else be reconciled to her husband. Mat5:32 Anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.MARK 10:11 JESUS SAID12And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery. Romans 7:3 if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress.
---Wal_Rev on 10/25/08|
Yes unfortunately you do, your inviting remarried people to even misery by inviting them all to get together since you as a single man have been so unprivileged to have an actual unmarried woman come your way.
Is it anyone's business that divorcees are attracted to you? well that's any ones guess give God thanks for your life regardless of the way it is but don't throw hurt at other people's circumstances.
It's hurtful enough not been able to have a second chance at marriage in some cases if not all but that should not be your point of focus.
Live and let live.
---Carla3939 on 10/24/08|
You have neither an additude or a spiritual problem, the bible is clear on how serious it is for a divorced woman to remarry. The bible is full of information on this.
Except you spread lies ...it is serious for a divorced women to remarry if she divorced her husband for NO REASON
please before you spread lies seek out ALL scripture pertaining to a subject
many divorce due to unfaithful spouses ...if a mate has an unfaithful spouse and divorces they can remarry
as for choosing a particular type of women to marry ...marriage is sacred ...too many marry for the wrong reasons ..if everyone took care and set up standards for their future spouse we would have less breakups
---Rhonda on 10/23/08|
You have neither an additude or a spiritual problem, the bible is clear on how serious it is for a divorced woman to remarry. The bible is full of information on this... from the words of our savior jesus.
---Wal_Rev on 10/23/08|
Start a biblical study of how the bible was found and put together,pick different points of study whether it be end times or bible history and Google the topic you'll soon be telling us why you encourage people to the Lord rather than beating up people for their misunderstanding of divorce.
---Carla5754 on 4/27/08|
Jesus words in Matthew 5:32and 19:9. The phrase except for marital unfaithfulness is the only thing in Scripture that possibly gives Gods permission for divorce and remarriage. Jesus also has remarriage in mind in this passage. The phrase and marries another Matthew 19:9indicates that divorce and remarriage are allowed in an instance of the exception clause, whatever it is interpreted to be. It is important to note that only the innocent party is allowed to remarry.
---Court7646 on 2/27/08|
1st cliff, Actually God does run the "lonely hearts club". He's God... He runs everything.
Does that negate our responsibility? Nope.
That being said, we need always to check our own heart motives against scripture. We cannot/must not assume our opinion is right in and of itself.
Examine His Word with a heart seeking Him (and not just support for your own agendas), and truth will find you.
---daphn8897 on 2/8/08|
You have so many problems I don't even know where to begin,mister. But of course you can believe as you wish.Its your life. To be divorced is not a shame. Every divorced person did not bring this on themselves. We(christians) can divorce if our spouse(s) are found committing adultery.We can also remarry if our spouse(s)die but only another christian. Read your bible and know the Truth before embracing things that are not true.
---Robyn on 2/7/08|
Believing that divorced people should seek out other divorced people is not of the Word of God. So why do you believe this way?
All sins, except turning away from God, are to be forgiven. (Matt. 12:31
Im not saying they need forgiveness because the conditions of their divorce are unknown?
But I am saying, if you can not move away from your own false beliefs and forgive whatever needs forgiving in your situation then you may find yourself in their shoes? (Matt. 18:27-35
---Shawn.M.T on 2/7/08|
I'm always amazed by how many on here believe that somehow God runs a "lonely hearts club" or in the match making business! If this were so,He would be responsible for marriage failure,since He picked your mate! It's a combination of superstition and wistful thinking. YOU pick your mate,then failure is your responsability!
---1st_cliff on 2/7/08|
Tell them that while Big Dog Daddy is away, the mice cannot play, no matter how much the mice enjoy all of the attention.
---Cindy on 2/7/08|
Gregory...something tells me you are sending out signals to all women. That's not good.
---Susie on 2/7/08|
Gregory, Perhaps examine your actions to make sure you aren't sending mixed messages. I also suggest treating these ladies as you would your biological sister. Have boundaries, but be kind.
Having done those 3 things, simply "don't take the bait". The "right" woman for you, regardless her past marital status, won't chase you or throw herself at you.
Hang in there brother.
---daphn8897 on 2/7/08|
Some divorced women have their radar up to try to find any single man,if it wasn't you it would be someone else,and probably is. Evidently you don't believe in divorce either or remarriage after divorce but you want the divorced to marry the divorced. Why isn't it just as bad in your view point for them to remarry as it is for you. That is faulty reasoning. Some divorces are in line with the Bible,can put away a fornicator, and shouldn't be viewed as those who aren't,read 1Cor 7:16.
---Darlene_1 on 2/7/08|
#2 dan: As far as bragging, maybe he's a really attractive guy with an honest question. Maybe he is a really nice guy who is good with kids (very appealing to single mothers). It's just as likely as him bragging anyway. Why judge his heart?
Good question Gregory. You don't have a problem or an attitude. The only problem is, a person who knows what he wants is often intimidating to people who don't.
---j._nonymous on 2/7/08|
Judy to Gregory "A divorced person would not be equally yoked with you". The bible speaks of unequally yoked meaning believer with unbeliever - not 'never married' with 'divorced'. Gregory, if you really do not believe in remarriage you should not suggest that divorced people seek out other divorced people. Any marriage between them would also be 'remarriage'.
---RitaH on 2/7/08|
#1 dan: Are you saying that Gregory has no say in who his wife will be? I beg to differ. Maybe God does assign people specific spouses at times, but he has also given us the ability to make choices based on rationale. This doesn't sound seperatist to me. It just sounds like he knows what he wants and what he doesn't want. There is nothing wrong with that. If someone else is offended from him drawing a line concerning his own life, that's their problem.
---j._nonymous on 2/7/08|
You have a problem alright. What you should do is this. Explain to these many women that are chasing you, that you are not INTERESTED.
---catherine on 2/7/08|
Quit bragging, deal with your 'torment' in silence. Don't be judgemental, or a seperatist. Allow God to lead you. If marriage is in your future God has the perfect mate for you. May have even been divorced. Seen it a few times before.
---dan on 2/7/08|
No more than one woman can be God's choice for you. So, "a lot" chasing you shows me ones of them are not honest enough to make sure with God about if they belong with you. More than one can say you're the most special guy they've ever known. But you can tell if you're becoming a woman's head or not > "the husband is the head of the wife" (in Ephesians 5:23) > and see if you are relating the way the Bible commands > Phil. 2:14, Eph 5:21, James 1:19-20, 1 Peter 5:3, etc.
---Bill_bila5659 on 2/6/08|
Me thinks thou doth protest too much.
Singletons throwing themself at your feet.
Why do divorced people seek out anyone, really?
Two wrongs don't make a right.
But divorced people do remarry and divorce again, and again.
You don't believe in remarriage, if you've really been married before and want to remain single, that's biblical.
If there was no adultery committed by either spouse, single is good.
If someone committed adultery, single is biblical for the adulterous partner.
---Cindy on 2/6/08|
The bible says its best to stay single ,but if you choose to marry do so with someone that is equally yoked with you.A divorced person would not be equally yoked with you.
---judy on 2/6/08|
No, you don't have a spiritual problem. A never-married single woman who has "saved herself for marriage" would love to meet someone like you, providing, of course, that you too have saved yourself for marriage. Also, in life there is always the possibility that you might some day be in a position where someone else decides whether or not you are going to remain married. Be sure that the woman you chose is committed to a lifelong marriage also.
---Susie on 2/6/08|
I would call it an outlook problem if the word problem was right.
Overall I see nothing wrong with your view. Avoiding someone else's life baggage from adding extra complications to the already shaky platform of the modern male/female relationship is a good idea.
In the end the advice the Apostle Paul gave should stand paramount, be careful who you join Christ to. 1Corinthians 6:12-20
"Flee fornication" ought be expanded to include idolatry/double-mindedness in your case.
---Pharisee on 2/6/08|