Divorce For Just A Change
If a Christian divorces their spouse for unbiblical reasons just "to change" and the divorced spouse is a Christian and then wants to reconcile, can the spouse that caused the divorce remarry?
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---Jerry on 2/19/08
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Jesus prohibited divorce except for adultery, that included lying about ones virginity. The non adulterer could remarry. The adulterer was not free to marry, and anyone marrying one is entering a prohibited marriage. A divorce without cause, was no divorce, and so, another marriage was a type of bigamy. The exception is in 1Corinthians 7:15. If the unbeliever departs, the Christian can remarry because the marriage was not 'in the Lord'. Matthew 19:9, 1Corinthians 7:27-28 allow remarriage.
Deuteronomy 22:17-19, 28-29, 24:1-4, Proverbs 2:17 (forsaketh husband), Isaiah 54:4-8, Jeremiah 3:1, Malachi 2:14-16, Matthew 5:31-32, 19:3-12, Mark 10:2-12, Luke 16:18, 1Corinthians 6:15-16, 7:10-17, 27-28.
---Glenn on 8/18/09|
Moses' told men they could discharge their wives by giving them a letter of divorce because of the hardness of their hearts. Jesus said this was never so: any man that puts away his wife and she marries, is adultery. So, was the man heart or his head leading him in his decision "just to change?" Also, if a woman causes a man to sin she is considered a whore. Please for Gods sake read your bibles before you make any decisions about life. Truth hurts only the flesh, the spirit rejoices.
---Gary on 2/27/08|
What's to keep this from being a, "yo-yo" marriage? If the person divorces his wife, than decides to reconcile, what's to keep him from doing it time and time again if he knows the Christian spouce will take him back each time? It would be wise to get some professional, Christian marriage counseling. (By "professional, I mean a certified Christian marriage counselor)
---wivv on 2/26/08|
The Bible makes it abundantly clear that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16) and that reconciliation and forgiveness should be the marks of a believers life (Luke 11:4, Ephesians 4:32).
---Court7646 on 2/26/08|
No but they do and sit proud calling everyone that reads what it says about Committing Adultery, blind! which you would have to be if you read Matthew 19:9, Mark 10, Romans 7, Matth 5:25, 1 Corinth 7:39, and understand it to mean You do not committ Adultery if your Husband divorces you regardless of Fornication and both Marry again. It's worth The STUDY Don't you think!
---Carla5754 on 2/23/08|
Well, my wife divorced me because she was 'bored' being a Christian family and could get younger, 'wilder' guys. I would forgive her and want to reconcile if she turns her life back over to God...but would God lead her to marry someone else when I'm sitting here waiting and praying for her? Biblically it doesn't seem so. Let me know. Thanks.
---jerry on 2/22/08|
I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.
But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.
CHOOSE The WORD becaue it is Above OPINNION EVERY TIME!
---Carla5754 on 2/21/08|
I am the mother-in-law of the spouse who wanted a "change" in his life. How can I forgive this guy who walked out on my daughter and their three kids? It has nearly devastated us. Is it ever okay? Just because you're bored, or the house isn't clean, or someone else looks better? Again, is this okay???? No.... God values covenants, promises.
---Liz on 2/21/08|
Are you divorced, remarried and in the ministry, Jack?
---Cindy on 2/21/08|
**Marriage, divorce, remarriage, divorce, remarriage.
You're going to do whatever you want, but all of the above disqualifies one from a leadership position in the church.**
Thus says Pope Cindy, but in typical fashion gives no verse to prove her point.
If 1 Tim disqualifies remarried divorcees, it also disqualifies remarried widowers.
---Jack on 2/20/08|
Whether or not your spouse desires to reconcile is irrelevant to you wishing to remarry. But what is relevant to you as a Christian is Matthew 19:9.
Matt.19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
---Shawn.M.T on 2/19/08|
Marriage, divorce, remarriage, divorce, remarriage.
You're going to do whatever you want, but all of the above disqualifies one from a leadership position in the church.
---Cindy on 2/19/08|