I Am Not A Christian
I am not a Christian, however the person I love is. Should I let him go out of respect for his beliefs?
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---C.M. on 3/2/08
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---Paul on 6/22/08|
Hi C.M. If you notice, not all of the Christians get along beautifully here. It is not easy to be married, period.
Is a Catholic = to a Charismatic?
Is a Pentecostal = to a Baptist?
Jesus is above religion. I've known interfaith couples who've had long happy marriages.
The most amazing thing that's ever happened to me was, and continues to be, loving Jesus, the Christ.
I wish you and your friend all the best.
---deb on 4/7/08|
I agree with your post, Warwick.
Having re-read what I posted before, I would like to add that in a Christian house the man is usually the boss. If you try to stop someone doing what their conscience tells them, the sin is great. Of course Church Going is nothing compared to having a real relationship with the Word of God. I doubt that this mixed marriage will work when I look at the way this question is written. It might work, but the man will have to give up Christianity.
---frances008 on 3/31/08|
The choices you make on a one way street is unchangeable so it is better to know what you are gettinginto cause the turn about road is extremely rocky with no choices as 2 in one flesh is for ever or death do you part in the eyes of God,you will meet things head on remember its a one way street.
---Emcee on 3/12/08|
I will be blunt about this...Yes, you should let him go. Cheryl..What a wonderful testamony.
---catherine on 3/12/08|
Frances008 God says all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God,therefore no one lives in line with the 10 commandments.Take God's Word for it.
In reality it's only when we feel the weight of our sin, well aware that we are lost, that we call out to Christ for forgiveness. So in effect it's our sinfulness, and our awareness of it which leads us to submit.
From my experience those who think they are good do not have this crushing need for salvation and are less likely to ask for it.
---Warwick on 3/12/08|
I met an atheist on line. He told me how he did not believe in God. I asked him if he had ever met him. He said, No, he doesn't exist. So I asked him if he would like to met Jesus He said, Sure OK, go ahead, introduce me. So I did, on line. He really did meet him and he is not an atheist anymore. God sure does know how to shake the hand of someone who has never met him.
I hope one day, you will allow someone, even a stranger to introduce you to your husband's other best friend.
---Cheryl on 3/10/08|
Some people in this world are not Christian by outward manifestation, or profession, but their lives are in line with the Ten Commandments and the New Testament. Believing in Jesus is the next necessary step. Of course faith cannot come on demand, but you might receive this gift some time in the future. I am interested in what your prospective partner thinks. Just be open, that is all, God can work miracles.
---frances008 on 3/10/08|
I am glad that you are still sensitive to God enough to ask, but Now is the acceptable time for God. Do you really KNOW if you will live to see another day? NO, none of do of course, so why wait! That way you could be near him for-ever!
As far as leaving your husband, No,friend, NO! You STILL love him, GREAT! Keep on keeping on. God holds the marriage vows almost as high as he does, the church. 1st Cor, ch 7, says that if married, or un-married we are not to try and change that, at all.
---timotheus on 3/10/08|
C.M. you obviously have some sense of who you are in Christ or this would not concern you. A Christian is not defined outwardly, but rather inwardly. The Spirit of the Father is tugging at your heart, drawing you to Himself, submit to His prompting. He is calling you. However if you choose to refuse His call to salvation, you will not have to make this decision. If the man you love has truly submitted himself to the Father, the decision will be made for you.
---josef on 3/9/08|
What I think is you both should seek time with a compassionate counciler. If you love each other there is room for discussion. You are together for a reason. Give both of you a chance to meet God's terms from the Bible.
---mikefl on 3/7/08|
Bible doesn't pertaine to you, because you said you wasn't a Christian. The laws apply to Christians, but not to sinners. So with you not being a Christian you don't have to follow God's law because you are none of his (Gods). But if you convert over to Chirst, then you must abide by every law God/Jesus has made.
---Rebecca_D on 3/3/08|
CM::You are not afraid to speak up.which shows a quality of being True to Yourself.What is a christian ANS>One who is a follower of Christ Jesus.You are a child of God we all are.Q?how do We bond with this God to make us true People?by Following as you learnt by example from your parents FIRST.so also we learn from & about Him first.as we follow we become Christians with Baby steps.Its a choice you make if you want security & peace of mind.Warning! There are look alikes seek the truth.
---Emcee on 3/3/08|
The childish sing songy phrase, " if you love something let it go, if it comes back.."
blobbety blah blah blah.
That does not apply when it comes down to marriage.
The most important decision in your life is the decision to follow Jesus Christ.
Without Jesus Christ, there is no real life - on earth.
We are a softshell taco without anything of substance inside, without Jesus Christ.
---Cindy on 3/3/08|
A strong Christian would not be dating you. He would know that a believer/unbeliever are not biblical.
When there's an element of doubt, rub it out. The Christian should be praying it out or through.
Dating evangelism does not work. It is temporary and can rub off after marriage vows are taken.
If you want to know Jesus Christ, let the man go. Seek Jesus Christ and when you find Him, if you become a Christian - then you and the man can reconsider if he really is right for you.
---Cindy on 3/3/08|
Why are you not a Christian? The doors are open. And certainly if you like this guy. There is possibilities in the future. Why not unexamined went to believe(or do not believe) beside the beliefs essential to salvation? Read John 6:37, and you will quickly see that if you ask Jesus to save you he does.-- Read our replies and answer your own question--.
---Mima on 3/3/08|
God is very specific about Christian dating in 2cor.6:14 that we should not be yoked with non Christian,for you can never move in the same direction. You cann't convert anybody that is the work of the Holy Spirit.
---modupe on 3/3/08|
I'm happy you came here CM, welcome. As the Moderator asks, have you considered allowing Christ into your heart? Quite frankly it saddens me that a Christian man wouldn't be more careful in whom he chooses to date. Being unequally yoked is VERY difficult.
---NVBarbara on 3/2/08|
Please stay and spend some time with us!!!
You love him. I would say talk about it. If he knows the Bible, he understands he is not to marry someone who does not trust and obey Jesus. The Bible gives a lot of good things about how to relate in love and make a marriage work. You've seen the track record of ones married who do not go by the Bible, plus how ones supposedly Christian get hurt and divorced. Take a look, see if you get something they have missed (o:
---Bill_bila5659 on 3/2/08|
I applaud your spiritual sensitivity regarding your situation. If your relationship continues as is, it will fail because you do not have Christ in common. Also, the burden to end the relationship is not yours. It belongs to him. If he is a Christian who reads his Bible,he knows that to be yoked to an unbeliever goes against God's will. I pray that you will accept Jesus as savior so that His will may be worked out in your life.
---pg1 on 3/2/08|
Act 16:31 And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house.
---scripture on 3/2/08|
C.M. I was born in non-Christian family in 1957, my mother received Christ when I was six years old. Our home became a war zone. My parents tolerated each other until they died. I married in 1985 and had two children. Eight years later, Christ had mercy on me and saved me. My wife divorced me and my children, believe me to be crazy. Jesus said[I came not to bring peace but a sword.........] if you are not seeking Jesus Christ for yourself, run away from this relationship. Find Christ first.
---ian8763 on 3/2/08|