Should I Move On With Life
About 1 1/2 years since my wife divorced me. Does God want me to stay single, raise kids, and continue to pray for my wife, hoping she'll find her way out of where she is and return to God, then me and our family(Hosea)? OR just 'move on' and 'find someone else'(Adultery?)? What's BIBLICAL?
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---jeff on 4/3/08
Helpful Blog Vote (8)
Jesus prohibited divorce except for adultery, that included lying about ones virginity. The non adulterer could remarry. The adulterer was not free to marry, and anyone marrying one is entering a prohibited marriage. A divorce without cause, was no divorce, and so, another marriage was a type of bigamy. The exception is in 1Corinthians 7:15. If the unbeliever departs, the Christian can remarry because the marriage was not 'in the Lord'. Please read Matthew 5:31-32, 19:3-12, Mark 10:2-12, Luke 16:18. Both Matthew 19:9 and 1Corinthians 7:27-28 allow remarriage.
Deuteronomy 22:17-19, 28-29, 24:1-4, Proverbs 2:17 (forsaketh husband), Isaiah 54:4-8, Jeremiah 3:1, Malachi 2:14-16, 1Corinthians 6:15-16, 7:10-17, 27.
---Glenn on 8/16/09|
My husband left me at the same time your wife left you. God doesn't want us to sit home and be miserable and alone. After all, God calls on us to raise our children to be good Christians and in order to do that we need to be good examples-- God doesn't expect us to live with an adulterous spouse and if we are honest with ourselves, we know they aren't going to come back. It's time we make room in our hearts for God's plans for us instead of trying to make God have room for our plans.
---Tracy on 4/30/08|
You can continue to pray for your childrens' mother. There is no way that anyone can know which direction she will take. What is Biblical is that since your wife committed adultery, you are free to remarry. It is also Biblical that if you do not forgive her, God will not forgive you. Stop dwelling in the past and live for today. Your children deserve that. As far as someone else for you, God can arrange that in HIS time.
---Susie on 4/4/08|
jeff, give yourself more time to heal. I can tell by your words that you are still hurting over this. God wants you to love Him with all of your heart and soul, seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and "everything else will be added unto you." Seek the Lord FIRSt, and God will counsel you with His eye upon you and lead you and guide you in the way in which He wants you to go...Amen?
---donna8365 on 4/4/08|
Jeff, you've got a lot on your plate. Pray for your wife, ask God for help in all areas of your life, raise your kids, continue to live your life as best you can. If you are meant to marry again, you won't have to search. You are in my prayers.
---deb on 4/3/08|
if both you and your wife were believers at the time of your divorce,then only adultery would allow either of you to seek a divorce.if she was a non believer, then you are allowed to let her leave and seek a divorce.if she becomes a believer ,and hasn,t remarried,then you can remarry her.
---tom2 on 4/3/08|
First, recover from the loss of separation. It takes about as long as being widowed. Be easy on yourself, everyone is different and some people take more time than others.
THEN--when you're ready for what's next, you'll know.
---Jack on 4/3/08|
Moving on will not be adultery if you were the faithful partner. Matthew 5, and 19.
But moving on if you are the cheater is not only adultery, it's lending approval to adultery (Paul said not to be condemned by what you approve) and making it a fact of life for younger generations. Not to mention the horror of making the person you fell in love with a co-conspirator to your crime.
The enemy's grandest man trap, and the Lord's promise in turn 1 cor.10:13
---pharisee on 4/3/08|
According to the Bible, you should see if reconciliation is possible. 1 Corinthians 7:10-11.
If your wife refuses to return to GOD, then you are to let her leave, you are free to remarry a believer, and you can get on with your life. 1 Corinthians 7:15.
Hope that this helps.
---Augie on 4/3/08|
jeff, (1)that is really something that you have to answer for yourself. Only you know the circumstances surrounding your divorce. Was there adultery on her part? I am not asking you to answer that. But you have to know that God did give Moses an acceptable reason for divorce. Is there a reason that you believe that you and your ex can get back together? (another think about question)
---pgfdottie on 4/3/08|
(2) There could be a Godly woman out there that God would bless as a new wife. If there is no blame on you, do you really believe that God wants you to be alone? God created woman to be mans help mate. If the divorce wasn't something you wanted, do you really think He wants you to spend the rest of your life alone?
---pgfdottie on 4/3/08|
(3) If you are worried about sinning against God, sincerely pray to God for guidance, and if a wife new wife is in you prayers, then ask God to send the "right" person. Repentance is very powerful, and if it is real, and the changes in your life are Godly, then God will bless you. I know, "He blessed me and my husband" in ways I could not tell you.
---pgfdottie on 4/3/08|