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The church that I attend has 12 women in the congregation to every man. It is a similar ratio in most churches that I know of. Is this a coincidence or is this common everywhere? If so, why do you think this is?

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God doesn't call certain people in the Church. His call is for every woman, man, boy and girl to worship HIM. So if more children are serving God, than you'll see more children serving in the Church. Yes! This is normal because I believe that there are more women who is seeking God than men. You see it everywhere!!
---Kimberly_E_Walker on 6/4/08

A GOOD reason for so many ladies, versus men, possibly > the guys have things to take care of. The women have their kids who need to go to Sunday School, and so the women come with the kids, and perhaps bond with each other so they stay after the kids get independent. Meanwhile . . . the men did not come with the kids, did not get bonded to stay. Men might get wise to how the set "worship" format can keep them from being Spirit led during service.
---Bill_bila5659 on 6/4/08

Not all women are alike. The reason for THESE 12-to-2 ratio churches could be different, for each group. You'd need to get to know each of the women and men, I'd say.

One church could have women who like the male pastor. And a couple guys stay because they like a couple of the ladies?

Another church . . . the town's homebody girls go to church, since it's a "house", but guys in town are NOT homebodies.

Each situation could have different reasons.
---Bill_bila5659 on 6/4/08

I agree that is strange. Our congregation is nearly equal in the amount of men and women.
---Brian on 6/4/08

Your statement rings true from my experience. I do not know the reason why.
Occasionally, when the spirit of discernment is operating. I see the "glory of salvation" on a person's face. Mostly older women and occasionally older men. However I have seen the glory of salvation on a young boy's face. He was nine years old. I have never seen it on anyone younger.
---Mima on 6/4/08

I believe it is because women are more sensitive to the things of the Lord. My own opinion.
---melanie on 5/26/08

I do not know if that is so strange. Women are naturally more dependent than men are. So perhaps more women are seeking help from the living God. Men, has a more tendency to believe they are strong enough, smart enough, rich enough, powerful enough, and big enough, so, we do not need God at all.>>>>>As for myself, I am a desperate woman.
---catherine on 5/26/08

Job 34:11 For the work of a man shall he render unto him, and cause every man to to find according to his ways. It's like the old testament all over again. All through the bible men were charged with the responsisbility of keeping it on track and failed. Satan knows this and i think that he makes a special effort on the men. If you women out there would pray for us it sure wpuld be nice!
---Danosaur on 5/26/08

"I believe that most churches are geared more towards women than men nowdays.(activities and things)" Tim, correct but the reason is simply because the majority of members are women. All the churches that I know of, which are in this position, used to have men's meetings etc. but, as the men dwindled away, there was no point in continuing. The church I attend at the moment has 26 regular attendees and only 2 are male. If they want a chat with pastor they make their own private arrangements.
---RitaH on 5/26/08

2. He is available to them whenever they want him but it is pointless opening up a church, heating it etc. to have a meeting between 3 people. I know of quite a few churches where, for various reasons, only a few wish to meet on certain occasions so they will either meet in each others' homes or meet up somewhere for coffee and have fellowship that way, or even make it a day out. Christian fellowship can come in many forms.
---RitaH on 5/26/08

Catholics churches are packed with women, mainly in the UK. Partly this is due to men dying younger. But if you went to a Baptist church in the UK when I was there, it would be packed with men outnumbering the women. I think men can usually figure out hypocrisy in church organizations and systems, and do not like to be dragged into it bodily or financially. Women would not be so wary. Also false prophets - idols - like those evangelists selling tickets to 'concerts' tend to attract a lot of women.
---frances008 on 5/25/08

I believe that most churches are geared more towards women than men nowdays.(activities and things)
Also i believe that men arent given the freedom to be "manly" in church so to speak. Most men think when they are at church they're supposed to be "nice guys" and not be themeselves, which makes church uncomfortable for them. theres many reasons i think. a good book to read on this subject is "why men hate going to church".
But yeah i think this is very common.
---Tim on 5/25/08

When we moved to where we are now (3 years ago) I started church hunting. I already knew what was important to my man, when looking for a church family, and it was important to me to find those things. They were: some contemorary music (it could be a mix of old and new) and a preacher who wasn't hard to pay attention to. The church we found has more men than women. My Dh will attend even when I can't. That is a miracle in itself!
---Mary on 5/22/08

I'm not saying I have an answer but I can only guess as I have listened how women have been run down about what constitutes a good marriage quoting all the famous scriptures that build themselves up derogatorily and basically have not focused on training up the young men for marriage. So the world takes over when they're not Spiritually spaded off they go in search for something of interest. Does that make sense to anyone?
---Carla5754 on 4/27/08

I thoroughly believe that Ministers /Pastors/vicars/Decons/Bishops NEED TO BE: at ground level with the unsaved men of their society, Knowing the youth in their area by name, working so close that they can basically predict the next crime and by whom. It's what the police do wrong or right many are attracted to the pay rather than the work.(not all but the majority) I speak not to cause some to cut off from correction but to wake up !(and smell the coffee so to speak)
---Carla5754 on 4/27/08


Those that think that this is not a serious problem is kidding themselves if they think it happens in some places only. It happens because the men of to day have lost the original focus the Old methods of Street evangelising. It's become illegal in some places yet a important a way of witnessing. Paul is a great example. Why are we not praying for men as they are imprisoned for witnessing, or reported for baptising in the local town center fountain the call is that urgent. Can I get a witness?
---Carla5754 on 4/27/08

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The new testament changed the role of men from being a type and shadow Christ (provider and macho) to being like the women (kept and provided for) and many men cannot humble themselves to be as his betrothed, or one of many in his house of women.
The church being the bride makes all men women.
That is why any church with man's doctrinal headship is as women as they make man their head.
Very humbling.
---Frank on 4/17/08

Ted, I was referring to a Christian church where there are just 2 women under 80. The pastor is 56. Rebecca, yes I agree. Many of these types of churches would have closed their doors decades ago if it hadn't been for the loyalty of these women - most of whom have attended since their parents took them as babes. Still, no-one seems to have an answer as to why the males drift away from church at a much younger age though.
---RitaH on 4/17/08

Wow all you will have to come to my church. No women ever show up for meetings except for weekly service. Prayer meeting, men. Bible study, men. Community outreach, men. Feed the hungry, men. We beg, we cajole our women, every thing you can think of and still, men. Oh wait women's ministry, women, men's ministry, no one.
---dan on 4/13/08

This reasoning seems to work with me. I dont expect to see any comments on it either. (heh)
Jesus Died for me. Let me see a man nowadays open a door!
The men of my generation are few and far between Christ Loving Men. NO OBSOLETE, (I can see the indignant snarls just shooting at me rightnow) Just few and far between. If some honeypie didn't want me continuing my relationship with God, then he can go whistle. Plain and Simple.
---Nicola on 4/12/08

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Sick thinking?
FLDS church has about 120 women to every man and it is definitely a spirit of lust, polygamy.
Other preachers are not immune from a spirit of lust either. Many run off with the church secretary. Spirit of lust is a spirit, it's real. It will attach itself to women, too.
---Ted on 4/11/08

RitaH: No disrespect toward the men on here, but if it hadn't been for the women, people wouldn't have a church to go to. The women are the backbone of the church. If a person is sick or in need, who sees to it that they are okay or bring food, cleans their house? The women.
---Rebecca_D on 4/11/08

Rebecca and All, I know this has nothing to do with being lazy or wishing to play golf or anything else like that. My curiosity on this subject is regarding why there seem to be far more Christian women than Christian men. Attending church seems to appeal to women more than men, even when the pastor is female . This must make it much harder for children to hear the gospel at home.
---RitaH on 4/11/08

2. I know of some men (not all of course) who do not like their wives taking the children to church and Sunday school, nor do they like the bible being read in the home or the minister visiting the house. This makes having the man as head of the household and the wife being submissive very difficult indeed. As I walk home from my church I pass 4 more and it is almost exclusively women and (sometimes) children I see coming out.
---RitaH on 4/11/08

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3. Churches in my area have joint services a few times a year, for various reasons, meeting in the largest on of course and, even then, on a special occasion, the numbers of men there are very few indeed. I wonder if it is that many men feel very superior (not only to their wives and children but to every other non-male). They will give deference to their boss (because he pays their wages) but do not wish for any other authority to whom they must answer, so that rules out God.
---RitaH on 4/11/08

RitaH: I really didn't understand your question. You said your church has 12 women to every man, which threw me off. The only reason I can think of as to why some men aren't going to church anymore is because they are just flat out lazy. It takes an effort to go to church. And some just don't want to put forth the effort. Warm weather is approaching and some men would rather be golfing instead of being in church. Nothing wrong with doing things outdoors, but don't let that take place of the Lord's time.
---Rebecca_D on 4/10/08

Rebecca- again - if you re-read my question you will see that I do not state that there are NO MEN. I said for every ONE man there are twelve women. e.g. Thirty six women to 3 men or one hundred men to twelve hundred men. "If none of these ladies are married, (expect you Rita) then that would raise some eyebrows up". Where did I say I was the only married lady in the church ?? I said that 'MOST are widows, SOME are single,' BUT some are married and most of their husbands do not come to church.
---RitaH on 4/10/08

Rebecca "Why aren't there any men that go to your church? Why is it just women?" Have you actually read my original question? What you say in a reply is exactly what I was asking. I also make it clear that my church is not the only one like this and many other contributors here have said the same thing. I think to speak of 'spirit of lust' etc. is pretty sick thinking. I simply wanted to understand why men seem less interested in church these days. Do you have an answer to that?
---RitaH on 4/10/08

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It could be that they don't particularly care for the church and/or pastor.
If other churches in the area have men and no men in this church, there's a reason. It could be scripturally unbalanced. Is there a spirit of lust in the church - operating through the women and/or pastor?
---Ted on 4/9/08

Hi, while it's sad that there aren't more men in this church, I just have to say this: God loves the women who do go! And He can use them, to draw men OR other women. I don't think God is twiddling His thumbs going "Can't do anything with these ladies until their husbands come"!!
---Mary on 4/9/08

MMR ... Other people can have the same name as yuo, you know! And they have the right to use their own name.
Another man here is called Alan, and he can use that.
That is why I have created a blogging name that can't be confused with any other Alan
Why don't yuo do that?
---alan_of_UK on 4/9/08

If all comes to your church is just women, and even if some are widowed, their single. If there is just one male Pastoring over all those women, with no men, that to me sounds strange. Why aren't there any men that go to your church? Why is it just women?
---Rebecca_D on 4/8/08

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Michelle Monique, MMR.

If anyone needs to use my middle name now,too - feel free to do so. It's wearisome having to constantly defend your name, but I understand.
---Monique on 4/8/08

MMR Monique ... Are/were yuo MMR Michelle?
---alan_of_UK on 4/8/08

In the USA, many churches have become women clubs.

Many USA Pastors are male and seem to be threatened by other men. Churches end up with this:

WOMEN end up doing a lot of the ministry work and spiritual church jobs.

MEN end up doing the labor-intenstive jobs.

In the USA, many men don't bother going to church because they will just be assigned another job to do. GOD tell us to find rest for our souls, yet we get more work at church? Many men don't bother coming at all.
---sag on 4/8/08

Rebecca, please read my post of the 4th to see what I said about the marital state of the women. I'm curious about your comment about raised eyebrows and that things might seem a little fishy. Can you explain that please?
---RitaH on 4/8/08

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Are any of these ladies married? In my church we have more women than men that go there, but some of the ladies are married and their husbands don't go or they're working. If none of these ladies are married, (expect you Rita) then that would raise some eyebrows up. Cause it just seems a little fishy.
---Rebecca_D on 4/8/08

Hi, Rita . . . I'm in the United States. I have been in various churches, including integrating Afro inner city churches, where in one place I heard that most young men were in jail. Certan women, surely not all, might be more homebodies, and so they might feel more at home in a church building, but not really be saved, just culturally attached.

It seems we have real churches multi-cultural which have all ages and backgrounds, with mature and sound leaders.
---Bill_bila5659 on 4/7/08

It's been a growing trend over the past 20 years. When I was 16 there were no black men in the churches unless you attended a all black Church. Now we have around 20 woemn to one man in the Church I used to attend. The majority of them have backsliden and now Ministers are now preaching how dangerous it is for women to search for partners outside of Christianity and the consequences of it 20 years too late.
---Carla5754 on 4/7/08

No,it's not true of at least 2 churches I know off.One is an Assembly of God and one is a non-denominational pentecostal one.
---shirley on 4/6/08

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Rita, I'd say each church like this is a unique congregation, and you could find out the unique reason in each case (o:

Maybe each guy is a real Christian who is kind enough to maintain companionship with twelve women (o: And, a *single assistant pastor* can effect the balance (o:

A big crime problem in the area may have many men in jail or the grave. The pastor could be a female matriarch who turns off men. The women may talk about the pastor, more than the guys do (o:
---Bill_bila5659 on 4/6/08

In most Eastern churches, it's the opposite. There's something about Orthodoxy that makes a strong appeal to men.
---Jack on 4/6/08

Men have shorter life spans. There are many widows in every church.
Many men work on Sundays, hospitals, food stores, everywhere.

Other men rely upon their wives to bring faith and salvation home from church.

God says, "Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near."

We all must seek Jesus Christ and call upon Him while He is near.

---Monique on 4/6/08

1. I am in the U.K. by the way, where things might be very different from other countries. The reason NOW for this ratio (in my church) is because most of the women are widows (some are single women) but the ratio has been very similar in many churches for, at least, the last 25 years, so widowhood is not the main reason because the husbands of these widows didn't attend church anyway. There just seem to be far more Christian women (and women who like attending church) than there are men.
---RitaH on 4/6/08

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2. I am not saying that there were many unequally yoked marriages. The fact is that most of the Christian women were saved AFTER marriage but their husbands never accepted Christ. Even amongst the unsaved it is the women who like to attend church whilst their husbands prefer to fix the car or do the garden on Sundays. Do men find it more difficult to submit to God than women do, do they feel more self-sufficient and feel they don't need God or what else could be the reason?
---RitaH on 4/6/08

It is the same in the churches that I know.
---alan_of_UK on 4/6/08

We have run about 50-50 for the last 20 years.
---john on 4/5/08

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