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Spanking Young Teenage Boy

I spank my young teenage son at times when he acts out. Some people are telling me that spanking a young teenage boy is inappropriate. Is it inappropriate to spank a young boy?

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JackB, all real Christians speak scripture.
---Eloy on 11/28/09

How can you use scripture to defend your position when you dont even sin, Eloy?
---JackB on 11/27/09

You're kidding, right? That's pretty twisted.
---bubba on 11/27/09

It is inappropriate because a teenager is a young MAN whom can comprehend right from wrong verbally, and a teenager is Not a young BOY whom does not know better. Remember God's Law, Do to others that what you want others to do to you: therefore if you a man do not want to be spanked by a teenage man, then do not spank a teenage man, and if you want respect from a teenage man, then you must give what you want to get back. I can speak from being abused by a parent when I was young, and if you want to foster resentment and hatred from your teenager against you, then keep abusing him and I promise that it would have been better if a millstone were hung around your neck and tossed into the sea then for you to lift a hand against your teenager.
---Eloy on 11/27/09

Noone enjoys it, but the man who doesnt chastise his child doesnt love his child.

Thats comin straight from God. Fight with Him about it.

She was very clear about WHY she said that.

"so you know when to stop"
---JackB on 11/27/09

Your child's bottom gets red?

You must enjoy hurting him!
---alan8566_of_uk on 11/26/09

I agree with bare bottom spankings for 3 reasons.

1. you don't have to swat the kids bottom as hard or as many times as you would through thick clothes, such as jeans, shorts, slacks etc.

2. you can see just how red the childs bottom is as your spanking, so you know when to stop.
---Michelle on 11/26/09

By the time a child hits adolescence, the obedience, boundries and respect should be set in place. Often times, if there is trouble (outside of the normal testing the limits of who they are and will become), it can be due to deep issues that have not been addressed within the home. I would think about what this child is going through, and what is central to the acting out. I would ask myself, if this acting out is deleterious or dangerous (which should be addressed), or just a personality difference. If it is the latter, it is wrong to punish him because he will learn not to love who he is and will grow to be ashamed of who he is. I would take a day off, and do something just the two of you, let him know how much you love and care about him.
---wal_rev on 10/25/09

Rhonda, It is right for Christian parents to spank their children. But, it must be done for younger age levels.

Gordon the topic is about teenage boy NOT about younger children

a teenage boy is entering puberty and spanking without clothes on is sexually perverted it is a gratification for the parents deviant ways

...also for LAZY ignorant parents way of administering "punishment" ...these are parents ill equipped to have a conversation with their soon to be adult children who are more than capable of understanding ...instead of taking away activities etc consequences to wrong actions they spank them like a two year old ...less the lazy parent has to deal with
---Rhonda on 10/16/09

My son is 13 and is still subject to bare bottom spankings. He is given a choice of discipline when he errs, but usually prefers a spanking since it is overwith quickly rather than dragged out such as being confined to the house for a weekend.
---Susan on 10/12/09

Rhonda, It is right for Christian parents to spank their children. But, it must be done for younger age levels. And, the spanking must be done respectfully without trying to humilate the child in a sexual way. Scriptures say "Spare the rod, and spoil the child." Obviously, a "rod" was used for punishment in Bible days, or was that a King James mis-translation? (Not talking "mis-transliterations of Proper Names, etc.) It's not wise or fair to so quickly accuse parents, who have spanked their children's bare-bottoms, of sexual abuse. For sexual abuse involves eroticism, which the said parents have no such thing intent in their hearts. Nevertheless, parents MUST be Spiritually guided in this delicate matter.
---Gordon on 10/9/09

MoreExcellentWay-- I differ with you about the relationship between spanking and treatment of elders. Spanking was common when I was a child. So was respect for adults. Every one I know of my generation took responsibility for the care of their elderly parents.
I think elder abuse is much more likely from a generation who was deprived of nothing materially growing up, but were often lacking parental attention as well as discipline.
---Donna66 on 10/8/09

It's appropriate to spank a boy before his adolescent years. I can understand how, at times, spanking seems like the only solution, and the only thing he would respond to. But, boys, in their teen years, (girls too, but, we're talking about a boy in this situation), they are approaching independence and the beginning of their sexual drive. It only humiliates them in a BAD way to be spanked like a little kid. Threaten to take away cherished privileges, give him more house work or yard work to do. And, whatever you threaten to do, carry it through, or he will not have any reason to take you seriously in this. Punishment is a necessary thing, the Scriptures say "Spare the rod, spoil the child." But, the punishment must be age appropriate.
---Gordon on 10/8/09

Tony ...
You say they "don't do it again" And yet you STILL need to spank your 19 year old?

To all those who take the pants down before spanking ...

Why do you feel it is more effective to spank on a "bare bum" than on a clothed one? Is it because it hurts more, or because you can be more accurate, or can see what damage you have caused, or because there is humiliation involved, or because it is how you were beaten & you want to keep up the tradition?
---alan8566_of_uk on 10/8/09

i have boys forn 7- 19 and i spank them when its needed, under pants and bare bum. and it does work, as they get spanked then the dont do it again.. tony
---tony on 10/7/09

Rhonda ... I support you wholeheartedly!
---alan8566_of_uk on 9/26/09

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When you become elderly, it would be best to stop showing love to your children (since violence is your idea of love). This is because they might be inspired to return your "love" instead of care for you in your old age (they will be too busy showing "love" to your grandchildren...IF they decide that marriage and parenthood is for them at all).

I decided AGAINST giving the 'gift' of childhood to a loved one (because that "gift" is an illusion).

'Elder abusers' is a name for grown children whose memories of childhood includes spanking.

Don't do WHAT YOU UNDERSTAND the book to be telling you to do, do what JESUS did (do you want to go to 'bible heaven' or 'JESUS heaven'?).
---more_excellent_way on 9/25/09

As a teacher, I can tell you that POSITIVE BEHAVIOUR MANAGEMENT STRATEGIES work best. Reward him for doing the right thing. Give him something to aim at.

You need to have heavy, clear and consistent NEGATIVE BEHVIOUR MANAGEMENT STRATEGIES to back these up. This could include spanking.

He should know why he is being spanked, what he did wrong, and how he could have avoided it.

Try to use the carrot. If it doesn't work, use the stick!
---James on 9/24/09

Hi Harry, I shouldn't ask this but do you "like" the giving or the receiving of spanking? Seriously--had to ask, thanks :)
---Mary on 8/11/09

Hello!Everyone!I like spanking~!
---Harry on 8/10/09

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i am reading many replies to this blog, about how it is wrong to spank your child, but god clearly states as the Bible tells us: "He who spareth the rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him correcteth him betimes" (Proverbs 13:24) and "Withhold not correction from a child: for if thou strike him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and deliver his soul from hell." (Proverbs 23:13-14) I personally think that because your son is a teenager he is too old for being spanked, and should not be, you should talk with him and think of other forms of punishment, like grounding. But me personally, i do not think that spanking is wrong, as long as it is appropriate and not used as a method of abuse.
---nicole on 8/4/09

It is absolutly inappropriate to spank your teeanage son. When he acts out? what do you mean?
---BB on 8/3/09

Spanking his bare bottom is not a sin, but do you teach your son right from wrong? do you spank while your angry? i would suggest prayer, it works better than a hairbrush. read MATTHEW 6:14-15!
---john316 on 7/30/09

Take away all his toys, his car, his phone, everything.

Show him what losses he sustains when he commits a sin. And if it's not a sin, then who are you to punish and judge>

If it's just my rules not backed up by scripture, then you may be the one with a problem.

And yes, staying out late at night has scripture saying it's wrong. Learn the Bible and adopt it's principles.

You could even move a cot into the garage and have him sleep there for the night.
---stephen on 7/21/09

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sort of interesting the forceful power and mind control of freakish parents who are so warped they have no idea how to treat their children like human beings ...rather than communicate with children who can TALK they continue to treat them like they are 2 years old and are unable to comprehend what they say

its repulsive how so many hide behind religion and flaunt their "christianity" as their license to abuse humiliate and torture their own children

frightening how Christ falls off their lips so often when even Christ himself AND not one scripture supports their sexually deviant behavior they perform on their own children
---Rhonda on 7/21/09

This is a Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus thing. The fact is, there is not a teenage boy alive with a strong male influence in his life (father, stepfather, uncle, etc.) who has NOT been spanked pants down by that older male. Hell never admit it, of course, because A) hes VERY embarrassed, and B) you would throw a fit! Nor will the man who spanked him ever tell you because women have bullied us all into acquiescing to their PC opinions!

Next time you leave your brooding 16 year old home alone with his father as you go shopping and return to find the boy is now all sweetness and light, use your head - what the heck do you think CAUSED that abrupt change??
---Bob on 7/20/09


when did Christ spank?

and where in Gods Word does it say to humiliate a child and strip them naked and spank their "bare bottom" ...must be the Satanic version because I don't see where The Fathers mercy plays into this evilness

I won't hold my breath while you or any self professing sick and sexually perverted "christian" attempts to look this one up

NOTHING in Gods most Holy Word describes the vile things this topic does

how sad you all call yourselves "parents" ...truly just a disguise for your twisted pleasures you perform on your children

LAZY inept parents TEACHING is not about forceful power ...the lies of Satan hold you prisoner
---Rhonda on 7/20/09

I remember the old day too. Both parents would spank me, my brother and sister too. It was always on my bare bottom. This happened up the age of sixteen in my case. I was sometimes left in the charge of our next door neighbour, who was only some ten years older than me. She would also spank me on my bare bottom if I misbehaved. I think society is now too lenient and my punishment did me no harm, kids today have no respect for others or their belongings or property, and are mostly spoilt. a good spanking on their bare bottom would teach manners and respect.
---Malcolm on 7/16/09

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rebecca- Truly, no principal could do that and remain a principal.
---Betty on 6/24/09

If you beat your husband like you beat your children you need a strong reminder of Usurping Authority above your husband.

That cain inflicks burn marks and thats abuse you can use a soft spactular that inflicts a little sting but will break if you go over the top and is too soft to cause soft tissue injury, okay not as hard but it still drives the message home.

Either way teenagers should be spoken to not caned or hit with any object anywhere on their body you should be done with that sort of punishment by now, you've obviously failed your children and mind they don't turn on you!
---Carla3939 on 6/24/09

I didn't say bare behind. I meant pants down but undies up for the girls but the boys did receive it occasionaly on their bare tush(y)
---rebbeca on 6/23/09

rebecca- No principal could have gotten away with that.
---Betty on 6/23/09

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Rebbeca ... I am most surprised at your remembrances.

A male principal making a female take her trousers down, and then caning her bare behind? Even many years ago that would have been illegal and called indecent assault.

And What do you have to punish you for?

Are you real?
---alan8566_of_uk on 6/23/09

I remember those days when corporal punishment was administered in the schools. I never got it because I feared it, but when you were sent to the principal or the principal was called to class.........the cane took affect.he counted till 10 and your trousers had to be at your ankles. then over the desk you went with your hands flat down then swish swoosh. it was called SIX OF THE really kept us in line. I think it should be brought back. remember that kid in singapore? he probably never ever would spray graffiti again. I administer it that way to my 4 sons. they are really well behaved. my hubby has gotten it too!
---rebbeca on 6/22/09

Amen Carla! I'll even go one step further and say that if you don't have them under control by age 7 then you're in serious trouble.
---shirley on 5/29/09

I ain't slappin or caining no teenage boy are u kiddin if anything I may stand on the chair and challenge him acting an such like i'm but hitting him Nawh! It's too late by then, respect should have come down the line when you cained his toosh earlier, Joke aside teens are difficult and this is when they try pushing their luck and say hurtful things.

Don't forget their hormones are sizzling where their heads are most certainly in a spin. Satan either leaves them alone because their saturated in Prayer or satan is using them because their too immature to know better either way, >TALK< TALK and keep Reasoning, LOVE, LOVE, LOVE and keep loving them. you'll win them over trust me it's a phase!
---Carla3939 on 5/29/09

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NO,spanking teens boys or girls is not ok.They are too old.And if you still need to spank then you failed earlier.To spank a teen is to make you have children that may hate you.We were spanked in the old fashioned way.But not as teens.And wwe all grew up to be good people.And we love our parents dearly for it.You need to start young and then you won't have to spank your teen.It's just good common sence.
---robin on 5/29/09

In the old days (not just ancient times, but even 50 years ago), life was hard (living on farms, shortened life span because of abundant diseases and bad medicine, etc.). People didn't have the luxury of being gentle and CARING the way WE do today (spanking was considered normal).

We should not be like the people of 2000 years ago, nor should we do the same things of 50 years ago, we should do what is in our heart, mind, and conscience.

Some parents have even been known to CRY when spanking their offspring (they decide to STOP). Every parent has the option to NOT SPANK (it's called CONSCIENCE...Jesus likes that). Look up the word "conscience" in your concordance (especially Hebrews 9:14, RSV).
---more_excellent_way on 5/28/09

Does anyone else here think Barbara is entirely inappropriate?
---Deb on 5/22/09

I don't know if SHE'S inappropriate, but her correction methods surely are!
This will be one screwed up adult after such humiliation! Children who are abused, often grow up to be abusers,

Don't expect cards and flowers on mother's day!
---NV_Barbara on 5/25/09

Robyn, my husband is only 7 years older than me.
He's a true gift from God and a blessing to me and anyone around him.
He's devoted to God and seeks His will for us daily.
I'd never find a kinder or more devoted husband.

Now that we're both getting more 'geezerful' we are very relaxed and spend a lot of time together.

No trouble, no pain Robyn, we're often as giddy as teenagers. He's my love and I'm his, I could ask for no more!

My best to you and may God bless. How long have you been married?
---NV_Barbara on 5/24/09

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No, Betsy. My parents were not perfect, but they were not barbarians. And I turned out great.
---Deb on 5/24/09

Deb.years back it was always normal to get a spanking on the tush. you could just pass by any house and find even a teenager of 16 or 18 over a parents lap and being slapped across the bare buttocks. nowdays its almost unheard of. who had better disciplined kids? I would say back then.!!!! if I would have been disciplined that way, my tush would probably be raw meat,but it would probably be better for me.regarding barbara disciplining that way , it does state spare the rod spoil the child. I think she's a courages woman and really applaud her. maybe I'll send my hubby to her for a session with the cane across his naugty bare bottom. if it works i'll take him once a week. thank & G D bless
---betsy on 5/24/09

Deb. were you ever caned across you tush?
---betsy on 5/24/09

NV Barbara--This does not have much to do with the discussion here but I had to comment on something you said. You married a 60 yr old man who had never been married before. That sounds like trouble and pain to me but God bless you. You are a very strong and brave woman. How old were you? I hope everything work out for you in the future. I married an older man when I was barely out of high school. He has his defects. We all do, but never again will I make this silly mistake. But it could be worse. He's a good guy and very faithful. Thank God for that.
---Robyn on 5/23/09

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If you want to risk death,possibly, in your sleep. Keep doing this evil thing. All of your spankings should have taken place before the teen years. I feel this will only anger the teen,humiliate him and make him want to strike back at you in a way that won't be nice. I say stop it now! Or you may be sorry one day. These are evil days we are living in. Nobody cares about what they do.Even to their parents and loved ones.
---Robyn on 5/23/09

MEW -My husband was 60 when we got married,he was never married before.

I saw exactly what you speak of when I spent some time around his mother!
She's mellowed with age some I suppose, she's 90 now!

But what a miserable woman she is, cranky and just has to be right all the time!
Her children love her, but frankly don't like her very much.

My husband spent the bulk of his adulthood away from his mother except for short visits.

He and I got to know each other well before we spoke of marriage and he was sure I didn't have the same personality as his mother!

Almost 6 happy years now and we blend very well. He's proud that I raised a bright loving son by myself who is now a productive adult and businessman.
---NV_Barbara on 5/23/09

Does anyone else here think Barbara is entirely inappropriate?
---Deb on 5/22/09

if he acts out again you will not hesitate to cane him again. now let it hang on the wall and if he steps over the line just look at him and move your eyes towards that cane . it will probably be enough

Barbara ...what will you do when he gets tired of your brutal force ...better watch out dear time his eyes may look to the cane and he might get there quicker than you

and I hope he does and gives it too you just as good
---Rhonda on 5/22/09

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Male teenagers have been known to become effeminate because they grew up disliking and being uncomfortable around women.

Males sometimes never marry because they are wary of marrying someone like their mom (I'm 55 and never married).

The mom never gets grandchildren and is bitter about it for the rest of her life (and is haunted always knowing IT'S HER OWN FAULT).

He might become an elder abuser in your old age when you need help getting around.

So, if you must, enjoy your spanking now, but GOD WILL REPAY. He says that vengeance is His for what is done to His people. He is not slow in dispensing justice, for wrongdoers become what they never wanted to be (and don't even realize it, POETIC JUSTICE).
---more_excellent_way on 5/22/09

Good for you, Betty!
---alan8566_of_UK on 5/22/09

No, ah, I think you should send him upstairs in his room and whatever he likes take it away, like TV and computer--whatever he likes, and keep him there for a few hours and let him go. That's what I did with my daughter and she turned out all right.
---phoofy4747 on 5/22/09

Good for you, Betty!
---alan8566_of_UK on 5/22/09

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This is a very complex issue and no two children are alike.
I agree with a whoopin for defiance. In that case the message has to be sent.
---Pharisee on 5/22/09

If you bring up a child so the child would be hurt and even *damaged* by having one's pants down . . . doesn't God's love make us strong so evil can't have power over us to make us ashamed, like this? "And who is he who will harm you if you become followers of what is good?" (1 Peter 3:13) So, if a child is weak and vulnerable enough to be damaged by cruel treatment . . . doesn't the child need to be corrected into God's love with God's power to keep the child emotionally, in case persecution or predation comes in the child's life? Of course, I don't think you can spank a child into *this* kind of correction. And we need to become examples (1 Peter 5:3) of this, ourselves, instead of being so easily overcome by evil > Romans 12:21.
---Bill_bila5659 on 5/22/09

Good for you, Betty!
---alan8566_of_UK on 5/22/09

deb. I'm not talking about mistakes once. I'm talking about mistakes too many times and purposely disobediance that needs some bottom attention(i mean BARE bottom). if you can be so bashful, maybe its time for your trip over my knee and a good caning!!!!!!!!!
---barbara on 5/22/09

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barbara- (5-21-09) Spanking a teenager with his or her pants down is dreadful abuse. Never do it, never tell others to do it. Jesus Christ does not approve. He told us not to even hit our enemies, therefore, we should never hit our children, either. To intimidate your child by making him or her naked in your presence is vile. People would wonder what other motive you would have for doing it. Small children should not be treated that way either.
---Betty on 5/22/09

I believe in spanking.But there is a limit of how hard you should do it.Too hard would be abuse if it was hard enough to leave bruises or marks.My mom and dad spanked me and my sister with the hand and a fly swatter.We turned out pretty good.They didn't go too far by leaving marks or bruises.If he is 12 or 13,you might can still spank him,but if he is older than that i wouldn't spank him.And for those of you that don't believe in spanking,you should read proverbs where it talks about spare the rod and spoil the child.Time outs and stuff may work some,but not as good as spanking.
---angea on 5/22/09

Making a teenage boy drop his pants and underware isn't correction it is plain old tortue. It sounds like you aren't correcting his behavior you are out to humiliate him. Do you want to tear down his self respect and confidence? Thats what you are doing. Yes its inapproprite to spank a teenager of either gender in that way. He doesn't get correction out of that kind of punishment he probably feels abused. Look up the parent-child relationship verses in the Bible and read them to him. Honor thy father and mother that your days may be long upon the earth is a good one.
---Darlene_1 on 5/22/09

>Drop trou and then cane or spank a teenaged boy?

At that age it is probably too late.

When a child is young then you can apply 6 simple rules:

1) One swat.
2) On the butt.
3) Bare-handed.
4) Not hard--if it hurt you then it was too hard.
5) Don't be angry when you do it. No yelling, screaming, calling them names, etc..
6) The most important step of all, hugs and kisses. When a child has disobeyed & has been punished for it then that is the most important time of all for them to know that you still love them. Sending them to their room creates physical distance & , more importantly, emotional distance.
---djconklin on 5/22/09

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Drop trou and then cane or spank a teenaged boy?
How rediculous!
The idea is to change an attitude or action, not humiliate and injure this kid!
This action will leave permanant scars, and NOT just on his tush!

Get real, that is abuse not correction.
---NV_Barbara on 5/22/09

Because of legal ramifications corporal punishment has ceases to be an effective too for disciplining children of any age, it is regrettable but that is about the state of law in most jurisdictions in the USA at this time.

As a substitute for older children punitive cathartics is an effective tool, squat jumps make you sour for a long time.

Group punishment produces a lot of constructive pear pressure against a group member that causes the whole group to be punished.
---Phil_the_elder on 5/21/09

Barbara, you are the one who deserves a few wacks. Maybe then you'd realize how crazy your advice is. I'd like to see your reaction if physical abuse was used on you the next time you make a mistake.
---Deb on 5/21/09

By now . . . if you are still finding it necessary to discipline him, like this, this can mean your past methods have not worked > maybe you need to learn what is better > "nor as being lords over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock." (1 Peter 5:3) What example have you been feeding him? Your ways are spreading to him, even if he does not know what you do in secret, and these ways later can have him doing the same things you secretly do. If he has been bonding with TV and toys and peer playmates, now he might not be bonded with you enough to listen to you. A better example, more time together, trusting God . . . "we can do better".
---Bill_bila5659 on 5/21/09

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children need discipline at all ages. I personally think that there is nothing more effective than a few good whacks across the bare Tush! he probably wasn't disciplined enough when he was younger. do it now before its too late. look at all the criminals out there. Get youself a cane and when he deserves it, take him to the nearest table, lower his pants and briefs to his ankles. now make him bend all the way over and apply the cane full force right across the buttocks. afterwards hug him and explain to him it was for his good and if he acts out again you will not hesitate to cane him again. now let it hang on the wall and if he steps over the line just look at him and move your eyes towards that cane . it will probably be enough
---barbara on 5/21/09

It's one thing to enjoy or be enthusiastic about spanking (that's your own choice), but he's a TEENAGER [young MAN],...when are you going to stop "spanking" him, when he's 25??

He needs to learn to make his own decisions/mistakes without the motivation of not being spanked by his mom. Let him grow up and learn to be dependent on and responsible with his own decisions and intelligence/conscience. He won't always have you around to be accountable to.
---more_excellent_way on 5/21/09

In the Old Testament of the Bible, written in Proverbs, 'To spare the rod of correction, is to spoil the child.' In the New Testaments of Timothy there are instruction for parents on how we are to disicipline our children without leading them to anger. We do this by teaching our children the ultimate consequences of lying, cheating, stealing and all things that do not first glorifiy the Our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. In our house we shall serve the Lord.
---TINA on 5/21/09

Lest I be misunderstood, I mean we only had to use this slap less than half a dozen times IN TOTAL on our daughters ... not multi-slaps!
---alan8566_of_uk on 5/21/09

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Yes I think that spanking a young teenage boy is inappropriate. Of course I don't believe in spanking anyways, but this is the time he is going through puberty as well. I am not trying to sound messed up, but you are probably going to cause some confusion as well as bewilder him.

You know one country in Europe even banned spanking, because they called it a form of child sexual slavery. I am not saying you are doing that, just giving you a different perspective.
---amand6348 on 5/21/09

Betty says it well, and those principles should start early.

The sharp sting of a light slap on the thigh will show a todder that disobedience or dangerous or disruptive behaviour is likely to bring pain.

Not enough to cause any more than a moment's pain ... rely on the sudden small shock. We used this on our four daughters, and less than half a dozen times on each.

Never make them fear you.

As they get older, stopping of privilege is much more effective. I remember once we threw the sweets (candies for you Americans) out of the car window ... result ... immediate cessation of the squabbling!

They are now perfectly behaved young ladies.
---alan8566_of_UK on 5/21/09

The Bible says that foolishness is in the heart of every child. I think that by the time they get to puberty this childlike foolishness is changing to rationalism and your correction should change to compensate for this. I'd quit the spanking and sit him down and talk it out with him.
---john on 5/21/09

I couldn't agree more john. Raising and disiplining children starts in the cradle and one should deal with children in age appropriate ways.
I would have been hard pressed to 'spank' my son who was 6 ft. tall by the time he was 13 yrs old! He was well behaved and we always had talks about anything that came up.
He's a fine young buisnessman now and I'm very proud of him.
---NV_Barbara on 5/21/09

Consider yourself lucky that he hasn't turned around and belted you by now. It is very possible that you are already breaking the domestic violance laws of your area anyway. Stop the spanking, it isn't doing any good by this age.
---TIMOTHY on 5/21/09

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Yes. You are teaching him violence and filling him with resentment. Jesus Christ taught us to not even hit our enemies, He certainly meant for us not to hit our children, too. You should teach him to love the Lord and pray for him and about him. Try to figure some other way to get him to behave. Maybe he won't talk about what his problem is, but it won't hurt to try to find out. Help him understand you are for him, but not for his misbehavior.
---Betty on 5/21/09

The Bible says that foolishness is in the heart of every child. I think that by the time they get to puberty this childlike foolishness is changing to rationalism and your correction should change to compensate for this. I'd quit the spanking and sit him down and talk it out with him.
---john on 5/21/09

Spanking should not be necessary by the time a child, male or female, reaches puberty. By this age, dialoguing about behavior and teaching how to make appropriate choices, while learning to resist impulsivity, should be the key.
---Trish9863 on 5/20/09

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