Should I Marry My Fiance
Unfortunately I currently live with my fiance (and father of my son). I was a Christian before we met and made some mistakes and ended up here. He's not a Christian but really wants to marry me. But I long to walk with my Lord again, any advice?
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---Clarissa on 10/26/09
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Paul9594--What is a "beastial" marriage license?
---Donna66 on 11/10/09|
You do not need a license from the World to be married. According to all the examples of the Word.
But you and your mate must have the mindset of marrriage until death do you part!
Did the world marry?
Noah and His wife
Jacob/leah,Rachel,Zilpah and Bilhah
David and His wifes
Moses and His wifes
Were their children bastards, Or did God approved of these Godly unions? Yes He did!
We can do the same, you may have a party, a minister marry but you don't need to get a beastial marriage license. Let your conscious rest.
---Paul9594 on 11/10/09|
Paul one of the Greatest Apostles taking in consideration my first posting, said this:
1Cr 7:13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean, but now are they holy.
---Paul9594 on 11/10/09|
What "opportunity" would you be waiting for? Marriage is a right that can be exercised at any time.
---Donna66 on 11/9/09|
What if your fiancee has no other place to go? And you're both just waiting for the first opportunity to make your marriage legal?
---Mary on 11/9/09|
Read: 1 Cor 6:16 (unites himself... become one)
Then Mat 19:6 and Mark 10:9 (let no man separate)
From these few verses you can see that you have made a mistake but now have a resposibility as said in 1 Tim 5:8
You are family whether you have a piece of paper to show that or not.
Life will surely be tougher for you since you are now with a unbeliever, but you need to show the love of Christ to your family.
I once heard the greatest thing you can do for your child is truely love your partner. This will be the standard by which he/she will live by.
Also Luke 14:26 (hate your family)God before family.
I hope some of this helps, and I will be praying for you and your relationship to God and your family.
---Sean on 11/8/09|
The bible says not to be unequally yoked,which means we shouldn't marry unbelievers.And you are living in sin.If you do marry him,you need to make sure that he will let you and support you if you want to go to church and get closer to God again.You may one day win him over to the lord.Also,Jerry,it isn't wise to accept jesus just cause you love someone. In order to truly accept Jesus,God had to draw that person to him and touch his heart.Only then can a person accept Jesus and sincerely mean it. If you have to find another place to stay away from your fiance,and start getting closer to God and let him see Jesus in you,then if he sees you living for the lord and see Jesus in you,he may want to accept Jesus himself.
---angea on 10/29/09|
Then walk with God again. What's stopping you? This man? Drive yourself to church, along with your child. Pray. Read your Bible. Just because he doesn't believe, doesn't mean that you don't have to.
---amand6348 on 10/28/09|
Does he love you enough to accept Christ?
---jerry6593 on 10/27/09
Jerry, This is not even a valid response to this question, because a person cannot "accept Christ" just because they love someone who is a christian. The best thing would be to end the involvement as much as possible and allow the "fiance" to make the decision without pressure from a"spouse" to become a christian. It's just a fact of a poor christian life that many believers find themselves in this type of situation. Leave and get your relationship right and let your fiance see wher he will go or what he will do.
---tommy3007 on 10/27/09|
If a person truly does "long to walk with my Lord again" they walk away from the evil life they are living and live for Jesus instead of themself. They also do not get into situations where they are unequally yoked. You got yourself into this situation. You will have to be the one to get yourself out of it.
---KarenD on 10/27/09|
Aren't you pretty much married now? Do you think a government issued document is somehow going to change your standing before God? If this man is your fiance, you've already contracted to marry him. If you had married him six months ago would you now want to divorce him in light of your "longing to walk with your Lord again"?
I love how easily people just say "move out", and "raise your son in the Church."
The reality is that you've created a family and your husband (as Jesus might call him) has rights with regard to his son. He's not just "your" son. The boy also has rights and he deserves the love and support of two parents. It's time to think of others.
---ralph7477 on 10/27/09|
I suggest first things first.
Comment your life to Christ.
Christ is more important than things we may want, although a life with Him is far better than things we may think we want. He gives followers new wants.
After commenting your life to Christ, you may find that the answer finds you.
I know some people may say repent first, however, when one is stuck in the mud, they need a rope, Christ is that rope.
---Rod4Him on 10/27/09|
What??? The bible says once you are enlightened, if you knowingly betray god you walk on the gift. Hebrews 10:26 ,29 You betrayed jesus to be with this man, god warns christians to flee from fornication 1 Corinthians 6:18. You chose your own childs father over the will of god. At this point, the health, emotional and spiritual well being of this child come first and your walk with the lord. I would ask myself, is this man a good father, is he loving and patient and kind. I would marry the father of this child if he loved me, continue to walk in Christ and build the family with a solid foundation in Christ. And, I would have a long talk with your fiance about all matters of parenthood, planning and values before you marry him.
---wal_rev on 10/27/09|
-- Clarissa :
Sister, You ask as if you need permission to be with the Lord. I know you must know, that you don't need any ones permission, so if it's in your Heart & you're being Drawn to be with the Lord, then you shall "BE WITH THE LORD", by not entertaining the distractions of the world !!
It's apparent that you're at a crossroad but only you know your Heart ?? What's before us is Life or Death and if we Hear the Lord saying 'Choose Life' then we shall choose Life in Christ....and the Love of God shall provide for all our needs according to His Riches in Glory by Christ Jesus, through whom we'll be able to do all things b/c He'll strengthens and put us in remembrance of what needs to be done in our Life.
---Shawn.M.T on 10/27/09|
Does he love you enough to accept Christ?
---jerry6593 on 10/27/09|
You're not the first person to find herself (or himself) in this situation.
There's only ONE question to ask here, and only YOU can answer it to yourself:
Will being married to this man bring you closer to Christ or draw you farther away from Christ?
(Simply continuing to live with him is NOT an alternative to consider, no matter how hard it is for you.)
---Cluny on 10/26/09|
Move out and do not marry an unbeliever. Get into a Bible study with Godly women and start raising your son in the Church.
---Trish on 10/26/09|
Clarissa, I was in a wrong thing with a woman, and I was not managing to get away and stay away. But I could tell in me how I was not with God like I could be in the intimate goodness and peace. And I offered for Him to get me out, and He did. The time came when I knew that was my time to go and keep it that way. After that, there was nothing she could say to get me back or to go back to the location where others might try to play me to stay there. But now I can be stuck where I should not be, *in* me, with my attention where it does not belong. So, still, I need how God would get me to how I really should be with Him. So, I plead with Him for me and you . . . we all need to do better.
---Bill_bila5659 on 10/26/09|