Unequally Yoked Marriage
My husband gave his heart to the Lord just before we got married. He has since committed adultery and has asked my forgiveness. I have forgiven him but if I stay married to him, does God consider this being unequally yoked? He has repented to God but has not fully surrendered to Him.
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---Jenny on 12/10/09
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The point is you married him. Whether he was saved or not only serves to make a difference If he makes up his mind that he no longer wants to live with You. What is that saying he is saying that he no longer follows the priciple of death separating. He is no longer living according to Gods rules on marriage therfore he can leave. What does it say for you 1 Corinthians states you are to remain Single or Reconsile( if that be possible) If not you are not permitted to remarry.
Mark, Luke, Romans 7, 1 Corin.
---Carla on 2/2/10|
Like one of the other posters pointed out being unequally yoked means a believer marrying an unbeliever. As far as your right to divorce him it is totally up to you. There is scripture to support either choice. If you love him and want to stay with him, do so. If not you are not obligated to stay with him since he broke the marriage vows. The main thing is that it be your choice "not what someone else advises". Pray and ask the Lord for guidance. Give him the benefit of the doubt. If he remains faithful, that's wonderful. If not, feel free to get rid of him.
---ashle7439 on 1/22/10|
No you would not be unequally yoked if you stayed married.
---Francis on 12/22/09|
Thank you all for your spiritual views and advice. I thank God for each response,especially the ones that opened my eyes about myself. I love my husband and my family and above all my God. I will continue to grow in Him first and trust His will to come. God Bless you all
---Jenny on 12/22/09|
I know that you are hurt, but focus on Jesus, the one who will never hurt you. He Loves you and you should cast all your cares upon Him. (I Peter 5:7)
I know that some things said on here have probably hurt you more, but if you want to leave him, then leave him. It says in the Bible Matthew 5:31-32 It has been said, Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce. But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.
So since he was unfaithful, you can let him go if you want to!
---amand6348 on 12/22/09|
first you must understand what it means to have animals yoked together,and when they are pulling ,or working in the same direction,what happens,two believers can be unequally yoked,but this refers more to believers and non believers in relationship.
---tom2 on 12/13/09|
Jenny,Ihave found that many couples thought they had sought God thoughly for a mate and had'nt.Now that the marriage is,the wisest thing to do is to continue to fast and pray.Walk upright before God,for the Bible shares with us in saying,"a sanctified wife, sanctifies the husband".Be encouraged and don't give up.Seek spiritual counseling always.Ask God to cause your husbands affections to return to you and ask God to give you what to pray and how to pray.Remember you are not alone.This experience will serve as a teaching tool for other women who will undoubtedly go through the same thing. There8535
---theresa on 12/11/09|
Hi.I think what the Bible really means by being ''unequally yoked'' with unbelievers is that we should NOT do what they are doing.The Bible didnt say that we shouldnt be friends with them..and that we shouldnt love them.If you read 1Corinthians 7vs12-14,you'll find out that even if you get married to an unbeliever,you can LIVE with that person,unless the person decides to leave,then you re not to blame.If you really have forgiven your husband,then you shouldnt even think he's ''unequally yoked''.If GOD says HE has forgiven us our sins everytime we offend Him,yet He punishes us for that same sin...then,what is forgiveness?And we re all sinners.So if you commit some kind of sin,are you to be taken as someone who is ''unequally yoked''?
---Kehinde on 12/11/09|
Jenny,no one can answer this question for you except God, so if I were you, in your prayer time, ask Father God to show you the truth about your marriage. A simple, "Lord, if I stay married to my husband since he committed adultery on me, do you consider this being unequally yoked?"
God will find a way to answer you, either through His word (If you spend time in His word reading it) or He may speak to you through another person. Another human being can't answer this for God, only God can answer this for you.
It takes a long time to surrender your heart to the Lord and your husband hasn't done that yet. He is still carnal, fleshly and being led by his fleshly desires and that will get any man in trouble.
---Donna on 12/11/09|
Something else, Jenny.
You complain that in your eyes, your husband is "not fully surrendered" to God. In other words, you think you are spiritually superior to your husband. Is that what you mean by "unequally yoked"?
It seems that you are projecting your own spiritual lack onto your husband.
Were YOU fully surrendered to God, once you had forgive your husband (as God forgives you your trespasses agaisnt Him), that would have been the end of this issue.
---Cluny on 12/10/09|
\\He has repented to God but has not fully surrendered to Him.\\
And has God given you to see into his heart that you can say your husband is "not fully surrendered"? I really doubt it.
I think you are just projecting your own hurt onto this matter?
You say you've forgiven him, but it sounds more that you really have not done so.
If you had TRULY forgiven your husband, you wouldn't be looking for technicalities about "unequally yoked in God's eyes."
The phrase "unequally yoked" in the Bible is used to refer to a Christian being married to a non-Christian. NOT for divorce on grounds of adultery, which seems to be what you really want.
---Cluny on 12/10/09|
If he has repented, he is cleared. And he is not perfect, so he can not perfectly surrender to God > he needs to grow more to be better able to surrender to God . . . by obeying how God rules you in His peace in your hearts (Colossians 3:15) . . . "submitting to one another in the fear of God." (Ephesians 5:21) You are one. So, this is not a him versus you thing. You can help each other. Consider how Jesus wants you to be faithful to Him who is your Groom. He does not want you to have any affairs with worry, fear (1 John 4:17-18), unforgiveness, lust for food, etc. Does Jesus divorce you when you have affairs with "complaining and disputing" (Philippians 2:14)? > Colossians 3:1-15. God bless you, too (o:
---Bill_bila5659 on 12/10/09|