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Kissed Another Man

I am married. I feel guilty because 4 months ago I kissed another man and I have feelings for him now BUT I also love my husband. He is questioning why I am so distracted. I stopped going to church and praying because I feel so guilty. What can I do?

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I have yet being bother by these thoughts BUT after all I decided to go back to church. I had already started praying at nights and reading some bible scriptures. I appreciate every word that was said for me and the support. Thank you for every advice. I know GoD loves me for who I am and not for what I do.
---Connie on 1/27/10


of course you are distracted it was FOUR long months ago - your incessant obsessing over it is magnifying the intensity!!! was just a kiss could have let it become more yet you didn't

Repent to God ask Him for strength to keep yourself from this man and by all means forgive yourself and get back into your marriage with all your heart and soul

this physical life is not about perfection it is about overcoming and we overcome our mistakes ...only RELIGION makes you obsess over them which is why many make mistakes and MOVE away from God cannot overcome when you remove yourself from prayer
---Rhonda on 1/18/10

Everyone does something stupid from time to time and you are not an exception. I would simply chalk it up as something dumb that you will not do again. Go back to church and get back on the starting line, you have a race to run and you are not doing it.
---Lee1538 on 1/17/10

Luke 24:45-47
---char on 1/16/10

if you are sinsere GOD will forgive you==
---lloyd on 1/6/10

When God forgives you, the guilt will leave, no question about it. You allowed the flesh to enter into your life. A biggy for all of us who's in Christ. When one is saved, God gives wisdom. Try to be wise from here on out. And the wise thing to do is, as soon as you are feeling more in control, start back praying. Pour your heart out to God, please. He is a just God, a righteous God and a holy God.
---catherine on 1/6/10

Pastor J

Can I ask again?

Pastor J .... "Political Correctness is the Scriptural Language of the Religious Cult of Liberalism.

And so being, it is the language of Satan himself. Who is the god of Liberalism"

Presumably you have scripture to support your statement?

Unless you justify your accusations, no wonder people laugh at you.
---alan8566_of_uk on 1/6/10

Jimmy Boy: You continue to crack me up with your funny, ignorant comments. First of all, you misspell words, and also misuse them.

In your insults of Jack, you try to show some intelligence with the word "bourgeoise." You of course misspell it.

Do you have any clue what that word actually means? No, of course not.

bourgeoise n. pl. bourgeoises
A woman belonging to the middle class.

I can always count on you for the comic relief on these blogs. Thanks for staying consistent.
---Trish9863 on 1/5/10

Thanks JackB!


When you sacrifice your "Fatted Calf" to the god of GLUTTONY and have Spiritual "fellowship" coversation.

Such biblical fellowship as: hhmmm...

"Hey Bob did you buy that house yet???

or... MMMM MMM MMM!!!... Emmma that's really fine Apple Pie!!!

That is what the Pseudo Carnal Beougoise so called "Christians" call Fellowship.

Not a single word about scripture is spoken in these Holy of Holies Sacremental Burnt Offerings of the Evangelical Facade Fakes.
---PASTOR_JIM on 1/5/10

PastorJim, shes not laughing at God. Shes laughing at a man who wants to be another great prophet of Christianity so badly that hes losing his touch with reality.

Knowledge isnt the greatest thing. Love is.

Im gonna go to POTLUCK now!
---JackB on 1/5/10

This woman said I feel so guilty!

And (so) that every mouth may be stopped, and all the world may become guilty before God

Rom 3:10 As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one:

You think, because you dont commit a sin, you are sinless?
Jas 2:10 For whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet offend in one point, he is guilty of all.
Is their one here who thinks they are not guilty before God?

Connie, so you know! No, not one!
Rom 3:11 There is none that understandeth, there is none that seeketh after God.

So should you turn away from god and try to hide?
Lets not do it again. Adam and Eve have done it to death.
---TheSeg on 1/4/10 continue to crack me up with your insane dribble. I am heaven bound, and nothing about treating women and men equally will send me away from heaven. My political liberal beliefs do not hinder my relationship with the Lord. Boy, are you funny these days? Do you really believe half what you write?
---Trish9863 on 1/4/10

Jim, I do not ridicule the Lord, but you.
---Trish9863 on 1/4/10

Pastor J .... "Political Correctness is the Scriptural Language of the Religious Cult of Liberalism.

And so being, it is the language of Satan himself. Who is the god of Liberalism"

Presumably you have scripture to support your statement?
---alan8566_of_uk on 1/4/10

Trish you will laugh all the way up to the Day of Judgement!

Your Godless sense of humor will be judged by the ONE who you ridcule.

Political Correctness is the Scriptural Language of the Religious Cult of Liberalism.

And so being, it is the language of Satan himself. Who is the god of Liberalism.

"If they have not been told, their sins would not be held against them. But now they have been told and they await judgement".

I told you! Be aware and repent!
---PASTOR_JIM on 1/4/10

I think that political correctness, although sometimes necessary, is usually stupid.

But not nearly as stupid as saying that it is Satanic
---alan8566_of_uk on 1/4/10

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Thank you, Pastor Jim. I needed a good laugh. I appreciate anyone that can make me laugh like you do.
---Trish9863 on 1/4/10

Your response was gender specific, and I tried to make it gender neutral.
---Trish9863 on 12/19/09

Sounds like you are engaged in Political Correctness.

Which is SATANIC!

Are you aware of that???
---PASTOR_JIM on 1/4/10

You do exactly what you would want your husband to do if he had kissed another woman.

-You stay in church.
-You stay AWAY from the other man, period!
If its your boss or a co-worker, its time for a job change.
-You confess what you did to your husband before he finds out about it from someone else, and he will find out. All things done in darkness come into the light
-Be willing to walk on eggshells and bend over backwards to restore your husbands trust in you
---JackB on 1/3/10

Matthew 5:27-28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
This goes for a woman to. You are already in adultery. You have an adulterous heart and if you do not stop thinking about your own selfish life and start realizing that you are at the same place David was when he sinned against God. The consequences of your sin will follow you the rest of your life and will effect you and your childrens lives even if you find a place of repentance. You are sinning against God and you know it and that means you know you are walking on the blood of Jesus and you can become a reprobate.
---exzucuh on 12/22/09

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I do have feeling for this man, he works with me. My husband is not christian and this man is that is what attracted me the most. I have 3 kids from my husband and we have been together for 10yrs. I did tell this guy i could not do nothing with him other than what happened and he has left me alone. and we try to avoid each other because we know it is a sin BUT I cant stop thinking about this man and I really want to be honest with GOD, my husband, and this man.
---connie on 12/21/09

What you did opened the door for the accuser of the brethren to operate. However, his main tool of trade is deceive you into believing that God doesn't love you anymore and doesn't want to have anything to do with you. That's the lie. Don't listen to it. Listen to the voice that says, "You are my daughter. I have not left you. Turn your eyes to me, not your action. Receive forgiveness from Me and then forgive yourself. Guilt is not a part of My Spirit's operation in you. Turn aside from the guilt and come aside with Me. Nothing has changed on My side." Be blessed!
---Linda on 12/19/09

Cluny: There is no need to get your britches in a snit. People are human. Male/female is not the point. People sin. People do stupid stuff. All I wanted to do was equalize the situation. Your response was gender specific, and I tried to make it gender neutral. It's not worth getting feathers ruffled over.
---Trish9863 on 12/19/09

You are dealing with lust and lofty imaginations. Now is the time to read the Bible, pray, praise and surround yourself with supportive Christian people. You need to renounce the kiss to God and ask Him to keep you in line. You need to avoid contact/interaction with this man. You need to take your thoughts in control to the obedience of Jesus each and every time you think emotionally/lustfully about him. God wants you to give all of yourself to your husband. Your mind blows everything out of proportion and it is a lie from the devil.
---jody on 12/19/09

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Hi, Connie . . . yes, feelings can con you. Instead of feeling guilty about this, now you have some experience to demonstrate that Satan can play your buttons to get you into feelings that are oh-so convincing . . . like a pathological lier can be very convincing. So, now we can get into learning the difference between dishonest feelings, versus how God's love is so absolutely beautifully wonderful, but does not cheat us, but is honest . . . and better-feeling than Satan's nonsense witch is confusing and much just about feeling nice. But then comes the pain, later, after that nasty selfish spirit has used us for pleasure. Then its nasty mess takes effect. But God's Spirit is pure and sweet and pleasant in us, while we are pleasing to Him.
---Bill_bila5659 on 12/18/09

\\ Let me clarify Cluny's response. No are not the first PERSON to do a stupid thing. Men do stupid things too, and fall into temptation just as much as women do. \\

Let me clarify your clarification.

She is not the first WOMAN to have done something stupid.

And had a man posted this, I would have said, "You're not the first MAN to have done something stupid."
---Cluny on 12/18/09

"What can I do?"

Go to church, and pray. Run to Jesus, not from Him.
---josef on 12/19/09

Repent back up to Jesus, asking him to forgive you for your sin of adultery and also forgive your ungodly feelings of adultery. Think of it this way, every time you have an adulterous feeling you are spitting in your husbands face and also spitting in the face of Jesus, so stop it and get right with Jesus and your husband where you belong.
---Eloy on 12/19/09

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connie...Satan has you exactly where he wants you. Get back in church and start praying again. Start with asking for forgiveness from the Lord for your sin. You MUST avoid that other man. By the way, he sinned also so don't forget that he is the kind of man who would become intimate with a married woman. Is that the kind of man you have feelings for?????
---KarenD on 12/18/09

Let me clarify Cluny's response. No are not the first PERSON to do a stupid thing. Men do stupid things too, and fall into temptation just as much as women do.

What you can do is get on your knees, confess this sin to the Lord. Claim His forgiveness. Repent and never speak to or see this other man again. Praise God that you did not do any further sin than a kiss.

---Trish9863 on 12/18/09

You are not the first woman who did a stupid thing.

The devil wants you to drag this guilt around forever and to use it as an excuse to keep you away from God.
---Cluny on 12/18/09

A few questions might help you to understand yourself ...

Why did you kiss him?
Why did he kiss you?
Who initiated the kissing?
What did that kissing mean to him?
Do you think he remembers that kiss?
Have you any reason to think he has "feelings" for you?
Is he married?
Do you think he feels guilty? If not, why not?
Do you still see him? If so can you avoid that?
How long have you been married? Do you have any children?
---alan8566_of_uk on 12/18/09

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What can you do? Repent and go and sin no more.

Isn't that what Jesus told the woman caught in adultery? Go and sin no more so that nothing worse befalls you.
---Donna on 12/18/09

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