Shira: What an amazing story, though I am so sorry about the loss of your Daughter. I wonder, if your Daughter hadn't made that request at that time, if your Husband might never have come to the Lord? My Sister and my severely dysfunctional upbringing caused us to need and desire God's love for us. God rescued Sandy and I through a Christian foster home. Our inner turmoil and pain caused us to need Christ that much more. Sandy and I eventually asked Christ into our hearts and we have been with Him ever since. Unfortunately, my Sister had a debilitating illness that doctors were unable to cure. She took her life 20 ys ago. I believe I will see her again, though, when I go to be with my Lord. Thank you for sharing your story, Shira. Margaret
---Margaret_Geraci on 1/23/20|
cat, I married an unbeliever because when I got married, I had never heard of being unequally yoked. I prayed for my husband for 48 years before he was saved. to be honest, I would get so upset with him I would stop praying then I would pray again. God saved him feb 25, 2004. my dying daughter told her dad she couldn't die until he got saved. she died 9 days after God saved my husband. I watched a miracle happening right in front of me. it was hard to be joyful then loose a daughter. that was peace that passeth all understanding.
---shira4368 on 12/30/13|
All who point out the problems with marrying non-believers are incredibly unhelpful. I am in your situation and live with the consequences of my choices every day. I don't need anyone to rub that in my face. I need encouragement to do what's right now not to be condemed for something I can't undo. I barely ever ask some Christians for help because the weight of their finger pointing judgement is heavier then the love of Christ in their heart.
---Cat on 12/28/13|
You are already on the right track meaning praying,while your praying ask God for the scriptures that you need to read.Now you asked and put it on this blog so I'm going to ask you a few questions for you to answer in your mind.do you study your bible? did you seek the Lord concerning your marriage before you married?We can't make peoople be who we want them to be or believe in what we believe in only God can.Sometimes a person is drawn to us because of our character,when we take on christ like qualities they are drawn to that light within us,and they can have it to but they dont quite understand how to,or they aren't ready.God does honor marriage but sometimes we are in Gods permissive will not His perfect will....keep praying
---velma7693 on 3/1/10|
I have seen great answers here and am overwhelmed.
It is basic.. you got into it.. you avoided the Word, you have the Christian options.. pray and fast! If the Lord saves him, your children can follow. Where do you want your husband and children to reside after they pass? What to do now? You must obey your husband, who is not a Christian. NO. Do not sin by his direction as you are the Lord's. You must read the Word and accept all it says.. the KJV is the Strong's Concordance approved Word. Ask the Holy Spirit for help.. He will tell you, if you are not into the flesh!
---Virgil on 2/25/10|
1 Peter 3:1-2 (NASB) "In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior." You should live a Chistian life that he will be a positive witness to him, and be obedient to him, as long as obeying him does not comprise your Christian principles. Just make sure your Christian principles are based on the Bible and not what you think or have been told the Bible states. (The reason for stating this last remark is I've seen Christian women try to influence their husband though various mean and fail because they lack to Christian lifestyle.)
---wivv on 2/24/10|
If any brother hath a wife he's already married not about to get married!
you were unequally yoked that's why you are struggling!
Be to him a wife unmoved by any wrong doing you encounter, try to do right by him if he does wrong by you, love him care for him and remember you made that decision and all the prayer in the world wont change a thing if you do not follow what the bible says about loving your Neighbour (husband) the same as you love and nurture yourself.
You just may get closer to God spiritually and win your hubby over. BUT there is no guarantee you'll live up to it, It's terribly HARD!
---Carla on 2/16/10|
Corinthians 7:12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
1 Corinthians 7:13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
1 Corinthians 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean, but now are they holy.
1 Corinthians 7:15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such [cases]: but God hath called us to peace.
---francis on 2/16/10|
I seek no magic bullet, just the love of Christ, the wisdom of the word, and the strength to continue to try to be better at all of this every day. Scripture is my answer so I appreciate the references! I did ignore/disobey, I repent daily for all my sins. The scriptures you share will guide me in the word to live by example. I dont discuss Jesus unless he asks. The husband is influenced by Eastern Religions such as Buddhism, and he used to Meditate. He was raised around Catholicism but has distaste for it. I have been a Christian in progress since a young person. I will read the word, live by the word, and pray. Thanks so much for the input!
---Cking4gvness on 2/16/10|
Since spiritual things seem like foolishness to nonspiritual people, my concern that you may become embarrassed to pray, talk about the Lord, read your Bible etc .. fearful of your spouse's criticism. What ever you do, seek God with all of your strength, pray and do be involved with other believers. Bible says that you might win him over with a gentle and quite spirit. Remain bold in your relationship with the Lord and pray for His salvation. Bible teaches that if the unbelieving spouse leaves you then you are not bound to him. But if he chooses to stay then try to live with him in harmony. Hope you have many other interests in common bc when the lust wears off, you will have nothing to fall back on. God has already forgiven you.
---jody on 2/13/10|
Cking4gvness, you really need to better state the religion or non religion of your mate before any of these comments can apply.
It has to be a non-believer in Yahweh God before the term Unequally Yoked can apply. So if you spouse is Jewish you are not Unequally Yoked. It does not mean you will not have problems with the marriage, it just means you can't use "Unequally Yoked" to apply to it, because in the first century one party being christian and the other Jewish was very common. and the term only applied to relationships where one party was Christian and the other Pagan. We have a lot of bloggers who are weak in Linguistics and First Century CE History.
---Friendly_Blogger on 2/13/10|
Whether you entered into this marriage as an unbeliever, or as a believer not obeying the commands of God's word, you will only find that the true course for you to take is to remain married to your husband and seek to help him find his way to the saviour by your faithful witness to God's unchanging grace from now on. You will find the going will get very rough at times, but, don't give up. God will work His perfect will in this situation and bring things around to His Glory. You don't have to "seek" forgiveness as your signed name implies, because you should already know where to find it.
---tommy3007 on 2/13/10|
What you do is pray for your husbamds salvation not so you won't be unequally yoked,not because its good for you,but because you love your husband and want the best God has for him. It is the life you live before him which shows how a Christian behaves and what God does for his children. Don't hide your love of God or cover up your service to God and don't try to shove the Bible down his throat. Live the Bible before him,let him know when God answers prayer. Let your life speak for the Word of God by living in the Word. Read 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 and learn it and live it. Pray God will draw your husband to him and make the scales fall off his eyes that he may see the truth.
---Darlene_1 on 2/13/10|
The best thing for you to do is ask God what he wants you to do and tell you in a way that you will never doubt that it was him, and wait for his answer.
---Fay on 2/13/10|
The Bible says, "Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14) But there are people who claim to be Christian and who claim to believe the Bible is God's word but they marry people who are not Christians, and ignore how Christians and the Bible warn them against this. If you have so ignored God, you can still find out how Jesus is (Matthew 11:28-30) so superior to the "love" witch seduced you to marry an unbeliever. And with Jesus, you can learn how to really love not only your spouse, but all people like Jesus wants (Matthew 5:46). And obey 1 Peter 3:1-4+
---Bill_bila5659 on 2/13/10|
Were you a non-Christian when you got married?
What are you "trying" to do?
If you're looking for the magic bullet to make your spouse suddenly convert, there isn't one. All you can do is explain at the appropriate times why YOU are a Christian.
---Cluny on 2/12/10|