You have got your work cut out for you. But there is still hope. You don't have any grounds for divorce. Just a lot of hard work. He needs prayer first of all. He needs to speak to someone in confidence and private who is experienced with these type things. Church and counseling is probably out for the marriage, right now. He has basically rejected Christ. Try to get him to open up to you. Let him know you love him and will be there for him. Pray for yourself and ask God to give you the perserverance that you are going to need to pull through this also. Depression and these type illnesses are demonic forces to reckon with. God bless you
---Robyn on 8/10/10|
Well, I am very sorry you picked him. You have no grounds for divorce. Do not worry, God will give you His grace to stick it out.
---catherine on 6/26/10|
\\Read beyond the words, brother, and recognize the processes at hand.
---Elaine on 5/15/10\\
I admit it's sometimes hard to explain what you mean in 125 word limit.
But this does NOT stop your words meaning that a wife should deceive her husband.
Furthermore, comparing a wife deceiving her husband to Christ telling people not to tell others about His miracles is showing a faulty logical process at hand on your part.
That's something I clearly recognize.
---Cluny on 5/17/10|
Are you suggesting that when Christ told people on multiple occasions NOT to talk about His miracles, He was likewise asking them to be purposefully deceitful?
Read beyond the words, brother, and recognize the processes at hand.
---Elaine on 5/15/10|
\\He should say, "What? What did you say?" Ignore the question, and don't answer him. Just look at him with curiosity. Pretend as if you said nothing, and don't tell him what you did, or why.\\
In other words. Elaine, you're telling a married woman to lie to her husband.
Deceiving by pretense (aka dissembling) is just as much lying as deliberately speaking untruth.
---Cluny on 5/12/10|
\\Your husband is suffering a Spirit of Heaviness.\\
There's no such thing.
Though it IS likely that your husband is suffering an underlying medical condition that could either cause depression, or make clinical depression worse, such as diabetes or fibromyalgia (yes, men get it, too!).
I would check out all natural, physical, and medical causes before looking for demons behind every coffee pot.
That is the mature Christian approach.
---Cluny on 5/11/10|
Your husband is suffering a Spirit of Heaviness. It's one of the Bad guys, a particularly difficult spiritually-demonic assistant of the Deceiver's workshop. The Spirit of Heaviness literally weighs one down with self-doubt, self-recrimination, and self-loathing.
SOFTLY say,(this is VERY important) under your breath, but within your husband's earshot: "Spirit of Heaviness, in Christ's name I rebuke thee." It might seem weird to you, but do it anyway. If your husband does not repond, say it again. He should say, "What? What did you say?" Ignore the question, and don't answer him. Just look at him with curiosity. Pretend as if you said nothing, and don't tell him what you did, or why. You'll be surprised at what happens.
---Elaine on 5/11/10|
Get him to see a psychologist, and maybe then a psychiatrist. Lexapro helped me a lot. Prozac only made things worse, as did paxil for my husband. Different ones work for different people. It's all about trial and error, and when it gets to a point where you can't sleep, time to try a new one or wean off of it.
---Anonymous on 5/11/10|
Anne: You are in trouble, yes, certainly
The biggest problem [I think] right now is the feeling rejected
Is there anyone, in church better, whom you can have as a friend to help you through all this?
God gave us friends so that we can help each other when things get tough - is there anyone God has given you?
Blessings always, Anne!
---peter3594 on 5/11/10|
Anne: Cluny's answer is exactly what I wanted to say. Get him to a doctor for a complete physical and then ask for a referral to a licensed psychotherapist and a psychiatric evaluation.
---Trish9863 on 5/10/10|
\\Well, you were tricked. This is why we must be so very careful with any and ALL RELATIONSHIPS. I do not have an answer for you.
---catherine on 5/10/10\\
As I said, catherine, this sounds like clinical depression.
It does not follow that she was tricked.
Just like you don't trick us at all.
---Cluny on 5/10/10|
Anne...You may feel as if you are a widow, but YOU ARE NOT! It sounds as if your husband should see his medical doctor to determine if there is a physical reason for his depression and withdrawal.
---KarenD on 5/10/10|
Anne: I will not of course support what your husband says, but Cluny's comment is true - it may also be that he is 'for some unknown reason, but sever depression is such a cause' unable to remember God
My wife has been depressed for some time, and she has been questioning God, and I have seen her do things that before she would never even have though of doing or saying
Be praying for your husband, give him support, try to work out why he is depressed - is it outside factors, or a clinical problem?
---Peter3594 on 5/10/10|
Well, you were tricked. This is why we must be so very careful with any and ALL RELATIONSHIPS. I do not have an answer for you.
---catherine on 5/10/10|
It could be that your husband is going through a spell of clinical depression. I'm not a doctor, so don't take this as a diagnosis.
But I DO know that severe clinical depression, which is a PHYSICAL disease and not a character flaw, can really warp your thinking, and make you say and even believe things you would not otherwise do.
Being a Christian does NOT shield you from any physical disease, including clinical depression.
Your husband really needs your support now. Remember, "In sickness and in health....."
---Cluny on 5/10/10|
Anne,this exact same thing happened to me in my marriage. I met my husband in a Christian church (Pentecostal) and he turned out to act like the devil, do demonic things like go out and buy a gun, etc.,
What I did, and what I suggest you do also is maintain your own walk with the Lord. Pray at all times in the Spirit. Pour your heart out to God and develop a very close, intimate relationship with God. Let God fulfill you. For your maker is your husband, the Lord of hosts is his name.
Study the word. Do a word study on Joy. Fill yourself up with the word of God and your faith in Him will grow -let your husband do his own thing. You can't change him or force him to love and walk with the Lord.
---Donna on 5/10/10|