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Can Adulterous Man Change

My husband committed adultery and has repented but now I feel hurt and don't trust him. Can a man who did this truly change and never commit adultery again?

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 ---Tasha on 5/27/10
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Yes, an adulterous man or woman can change but the length of the path of change depends on the individual involved. If in the heart, the person concerned appreciates the bad consequences adultery can bring into his or her life, and appreciates God's word and repent asking God to grant him or her always wisdom, zeal and grace to avoid adultery {or any other sin}, surely that person will change.
---Adetunji on 5/28/10

Sure. But the question is really will you ever be able to trust him again?
---amand6348 on 5/28/10

yes we all can change.
Adultery is just one of many sins, and we call can flee from sin.
Be careful not to tie this to any religion.
---francis on 5/28/10

Tasha: You ask a very difficult question. I think that, in the way Jesus said it 'commited adultery in your heart' many med do this sometimes.

When it gets to the actual action, it implies that your husband broke through the mormal [mental and spiritual] barriers that normally prevent people from acting on their desires

That he CAN repent, and turn away, I think he can.

The question is to what extent you husband WILL turn away

That, unfortunately, I cannot answer

I am very sorry for the damage this has caused you

---peter3594 on 5/28/10

All men are adulterous by nature. So, yes, they can change.
---ger.toshav on 5/27/10

Over the years, I have met many men and women who were involved in adulterous affairs. Often times, they were my boss or coworkers. It is very possible that the man in this question just got caught this time. Once I confronted a coworker who was having a heated affair when she was talking about how wonderful her husband and children were. I asked her straight out what her family would think if they knew about her affair. She was so shocked when she realized that everybody in the office knew about the relationship and thought about what it would do to her family that she put a stop to it and concentrated on her relationship with her husband.
---KarenD on 5/27/10

Good advice from friendly blogger. Tasha there are many things to consider but remember that nothing is impossible with God.

Father God I ask You to lead Tasha in the way that you would have her go. I ask You to mend her broken heart and allow her to hear freely from You for she can do nothing without You(John 15:5). God we know that you are a God of mercy & grace. I ask you to fill Tasha's marriage with the same. In the name of Jesus. Amen.
---fay on 5/28/10

In situations like this is usually problem with both parties. Something is not happening at home that made him want to go elsewhere.

So the question is what do you want to do from this point. There are some critical questions to be answered.

1 Are children involved in the marriage,

2. Do you really want him back.

3. Does he really want you back.

Counseling can possibly but only if you both want to try. I do not recommend pastoral counseling as there is a high probability of your situation being used as a unfaltering sermon illustration in your congregation. So the general rule for Christian marital counseling is choose some on academically qualified at least 30 miles from the church you currently attend.
---Friendly_Blogger on 5/27/10

Tasha, ask yourself if a woman who has committed adultery can change, and you've answered your question about men.
---Cluny on 5/27/10

Yes if they truly mean it they can. My ex has changed & remained faithful to his second wife. I think when he was cheating on me during our divorce proceedings he was 20 yrs old & didn't know better, but that was 10 yrs ago. People can change.
---canda on 5/27/10

Tasha, it depends upon the man. Adultery is a choice. Adultery can become addictive and those demons of lust, if your husband hasn't gotten rid of them, can come back and torment him again into sinning again.

Your husband needs deliverance. He needs those demons of lust casted out of him..what else would make him cheat on his wife? (sorry to put it that way, but it's the truth).

ONLY GOD can "TRULY" change a man. Man can't change himself even though he wants to. Your husband has to REPENT, BE BAPTIZED in the name of Jesus Christ, for the forgivenss of His sins and He shall receive the Holy Spirit. Plain and simple.
---Donna5535 on 5/27/10

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