I Kissed Another Man
This past weekend, I kissed another man. I have been with my husband for almost 6 years and married for about 14 months. I am completely distraught, he can't look at me. Can we still be the couple people envy just because I am messed up, not him.
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---Nicki on 7/5/10
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Have you gone to GOD, repented of your sin and left that sin behind? It has nothing to do with how long you are married. The fact is you're married. If he can't look at you I can understand...the repair may take a long time to heal. You violated his trust and that takes time to earn back. Your consistent behavior will speak volumes. Have you asked him to forgive you and told him you are sorry for what you did and promise not to do it again? He may need to hear that from you a number of times and that coupled with your actions may turn him back to you. Quit worrying what other people may think and be more concerned what GOD thinks. He your judge not man. This will take a lot of guts on your part...hope you are willing to do the hard work.
---Frank on 8/26/10|
Christian Marriage is a sacrifice established by God Himself.There are several epistles written by the apostle Paul that refer to marriage and how believers are to operate within the marriage relationship. One such passage is 1 Corinthians chapter 7, and another is Ephesians 5:22-33. When studied together, these two passages provide biblical principles that form a framework for a God-pleasing marriage relationship. When a believing husband and wife institute Gods principles, a biblical marriage results. A biblically based marriage is one that is in balance, with Christ as the head of the man and the wife together. The biblical concept of marriage is a oneness between two individuals that pictures the oneness of Christ with His church.
---Yohannan on 7/14/10|
I want to make clear to you why I said, what I said in my other post.
If I hear someone call someone a Liar, I ask them if they have ever lied.
When they say Yes, I ask them how they are able to call others Liar, when they themselves are a Liar.
When someone stands in Judgment of another it is because they see themselves as righteous, but if you can cause them to look into the mirror, they will only see a Hypocrite.
It is very difficult for one to stand in Judgment under those conditions.
---David on 7/9/10|
You have sinned and we can all relate to that.
Satan will tempt you again and again, until you eventually commit to said sin.
If your husband is a follower of Jesus Christ, he will recognize that he has the same problem with sin as you do.
It may not be the same sin by which he is tempted, but he still experiences the same.
Go to your husband and be open with him, relate to him that you are experiencing what Paul experienced in (Romans 7:15-20).
Ask him what sin or sins he is fighting against, then you can come together and fight this together with the power of Grace.
"For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them."
---David on 7/8/10|
Can you not tell from her question what the nature of the kiss was? No matter what spin you want to put on it, at least she admits distress no matter the nature and offers no defense for her actions. Whether or not she initiated, she received. A simple turn of the head will avert a kiss...then if forced it becomes assault. She, also, admits that she is 'messed up'.
Nicki, we all are. Get to know the real Jesus and listen to Trish, who gives good womanly advice.
If you continue to admit your culpability and not makes excuses, it is the first step to forgiveness.
---aka.joseph on 7/7/10|
\\Greek had at least four words for love philia, agape, eros & storge\\
Philia, agape, and eros are actually used interchangeably in ancient Greek literature, including that contemporary with the Bible.
Only STORGE has a limited meaning.
---Cluny on 7/7/10|
You are not the first woman to tell this story here, nikki.
God forgives weakness.
You need to forgive yourself.
And forget about what other people think of your m arriage.
Only be concerned with what God and your husband (and possibly children) think about it.
---Cluny on 7/6/10|
What you did was sin, and it needs to be confessed and it will be forgiven by God. Your main concern should be the healing of your marriage, not what other people think of your marriage.
I suggest marital therapy, so that you and your husband can work toward healing. I also think you need to get with a women's Bible study, and find a Christian mentor who can guide you in how to grow into a woman of God.
---Trish9863 on 7/6/10|
Nicki, frances gave you some great advice.
Did you ask yourself WHY you kissed another man?
Kissing is a fleshly thing. By the Spirit (of God) we are putting to death the DEEDS of the FLESH - kissing is a deed of the flesh (if you are kissing someone you are not married to).
Most likely you have some kind of lust inside of you because we wrestle NOT against flesh and blood, but against spirits and principalities.
Resist them. It's not a sin to be tempted. It's a sin to give into the temptation. Pray and repent to God and your husband. Work on gettting yourself healed (cry out to God for the healing you need). I'll be praying for you too.
---Donna5535 on 7/6/10|
Nicki, what was the nature of the kiss to you and was it of the same nature to him. Who initiated the Kiss? You, he or was a a spontaneous mutual action.
Kisses can convey different things, some kisses are sexual in nature, but some kisses just convey agape love between good friends and some kisses are betrayals as between Judas and Christ.
Did it mean the same thing to him as it did to you?
Greek had at least four words for love philia, agape, eros & storge that are badly bundled into a single English word and you can only determine the true usage meaning my context and modifiers.
---Friendly_Blogger on 7/6/10|
You need to look at what is in your heart.
Not what you WANT to be in your heart, but what is really in your heart.
Not what you THINK is in your heart but what is realLy in your heart.
Matthew 15:19 For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, ADULTERIES, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies:
---francis on 7/6/10|
Nicki, if your main concern is being "the couple of envy", then why concern yourself? You seem to be able to kiss others cake and eat yours husband's too. Is that not envious to the people of this world?
---aka.joseph on 7/6/10|
-- Nicki :
Sister, We that are Christ's have crucified the flesh of these affections and lusts...... So if you're Hopeful of living in the Spirit, then continue to walk in the Spirit and do not be desirous of vain glory or to provoke one another into envying one another. Gal.5:24-26
Grace Unto You & Peace Be Multiplied
---Shawn.M.T. on 7/5/10|