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Why Do Women Want To Work

Why do so many wives turn to feminism and want to work outside the home when God wants them to be homemakers? Why do wives have a problem with the husband taking care of them?

Moderator - How many husbands can provide for their families today without their wives working? How many wives are extremely intelligent and need to work some so that they don't go crazy?

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Trish: Your daughter is in a very bad place. My condolences to her. She needs to raise up and make this slicker get a real job with the benefits his family need. He is holding on to this piece of a job because it lets him enjoy the best of both worlds. He would not like me very much. If anyone stay home, it will be ME!!!! No doubt there!!! If he refused to find a real job, I would have the music playing for him, when he returned home from that piece of a job. Hit the road Jack would greet him at the door.
---Robyn on 7/2/11

Patty: you dont have your information straight either. I have read the entire bible and have never seen anywhere, where women should stay home and let the man work. This is not an absolute. It is an agreement between the two people, within a marriage. If I stayed home and I did.Worked if and when I wanted. I limited my wants and used the money wisely. And it was enough. We did not try to keep up with the Joneses. We did not even associate with the Joneses.Very important to understand
---Robyn on 7/2/11

My daughter works as a teacher, and her husband stays home with the kids, and works on weekends as a carpenter. My daughter would rather stay home, but her husband does not get medical benefits, because he is an independent contractor. So, daughter must work to have medical insurance so the kids can see the doctor when they get sick. Daughter has asked husband to let her stay home, and get Medical Assistance from the government, but he is too proud to get government assistance.
---Trish on 7/1/11

Poopsie, I'm all for women staying at home to raise the children etc, but I know some who cannot. In that case, the children need to be given in trust to the Lord, that He will watch over, protect, nurture them in HIM.
You said "I know it is not popular.." and I immediately thought, when it's Gods leading for a mother/wife to remain at home, often times it is not popular because it IS Gods way, and more and more of His ways are unpopular today. It may actually be a sort of confirmation that it is of the Lord. Praise God for those who seek to please God rather than man and/or self
---Christina on 6/30/11

I know it is not popular but when the wife works outside the home the family suffers for it. It may be archaic but the man should be the provider and if the wife can make a little extra out of her home then all the better but it should not be counted on.

1 Timothy 5 NIV
14 So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander.

Titus 2 NIV
4 Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.
---poopsey on 6/30/11

Women have always worked outside the home. Like the virtuous woman in Proverbs. I have not met a woman who does not want her husband to take care of her. When did GOD say he wanted wives only to work at home? That is just mans tradition.

Proverbs 31
---EnlightenedOne on 6/29/11

I agree with John. You don't know what your kids are doing if you are never home. Some married couples are like ships that pass in the night and the kids are out somewhere doing who knows what.

The public education system has no morals and letting your kids watch immoral MTV is just asking for trouble.

Kids both big and small need their mommies and grandbabies need their grammys.
---poopsey on 6/28/11

Because of Church of Liberalism and feminism have destroyed the family. When once we were a one income family, now men have been soo feminised and woman have become masculan.

And so the Religious Cult of Liberalism has once again changed the family and marriage in direct oposition to G-ds plan for families.

NOW while "mom" is away, Satan can now educate their children and Satan will teach them his Morals as they attend government schools and watch MTV etc. on the tube. Without a Moms supervision
---John on 6/27/11

Craig: "Most of the women I know consider it degrading to stay at home and take care of the house and kids."
I think that is sad. Very little in life can equal, let alone surpass the value of a God given child, and for some to think it's degrading to care, nurture, train them up, is quite indicative of the breakdown in society and family and the absence of God. Some have and "love" their children, as if an ornament, or a badge, meanwhile having little relationship, rarely crossing paths in their own big homes. Many things we can do without, but many sacrifice their own children to current idols, whether its fortune, "success", worldly pleasures etc
---christina on 6/27/11

Wives are to be keepers of the home and punching the clock and dumping your kids off so strangers can raise them is not wise. Of course there are exceptions for single parents and those divorced but the man is to provide for his family.

Some people assume that wives are idle if at home or not intelligent. Not true. Being a mother and wife is very time consuming and offers little if any acknowledgment by today's society.

Of course having a home business is also good if one has the inclination to do so but out there punching a clock just to help your husband buy a bigger truck or a boat? I don't think so!
---poopsey on 6/27/11

Agreed mod. Its hard to make it on one income today. Unless the man is a college graduate making over 50k a year, most likely both will have to work.

Most of the women I know consider it degrading to stay at home and take care of the house and kids. Very likely because most men dont appreciate it and praise them for the wonderful job they do.
---CraigA on 6/27/11

Many variables come into play making this decision. God's leading should be #1 IMO, but for many it's about money, having a certain lifestyle, it may be about ego. I've seen God lead women to stay at home, and also others to pursue a career. We each have a path,all are not the same. For part of my married life, my ex and I agreed that I should stay home. we would not have been better off with both of us working. Day care alone would have taken a majority of the pay difference. I felt called to raise up my children in the way they should go, and no daycare was available to raise them in the Lord. We chose at times, to do without certain things, for instance, a second car. Much in America is thought of as needed, while little of it actually is.
---christina on 6/27/11

Life is a gamble.Marriage is a gamble. Things can turn sour at anytime, in our lives. I am a witness. Men(husbands)(wives) change. People change period. Sometimes we win ,sometimes we lose. People say anything to get us to come around to their way of thinking and then in the middle of the road, they change.I would tell anyone. Just stay prepared. If a woman stays home, again from experience, keep yourself interesting and make sure you always have a little bankroll, that belongs to you..only. Money can solve many problems,if the problems arise.And they will. I'm just saying.
---Robyn on 6/27/11

Another view: Christian women, have the right as do other women, to work outside the home. Who comes up with these stupid ideas and notions that christian women can't do this or that. We are hotblooded,smart,desirable women who want to progress in the world as do other women.This is not feminism, to me.
I don' think women have a problem with the husband working,most times. They have a need to xpress themselves. To put their education to good use also.
I appreciated the fact that I had a choice. I could work or not. My husband did not care. He was a good provider. I had been to college. But I also enjoyed being at home, taking care of my family and me. Why women don't want this is their personal reasons. Each woman is different.
---Robyn on 6/27/11

Yeah, I stayed home with my kids and put a career last...My Godly husband of 25 years dumped me, stating that I was a burden he had to take care of because I refused to help him by working consistently (funny he agreed to me not working). My kids complain now that they could have had this and that but since I chose to stay home, they went without. So much for trying to be a Godly wife and mother, i should have worked and put them in day care
---Lisa on 6/27/11

I think that some women view marriage as a contract. One that says that they will never have to work again. While that might be some women's IDEAL, it isn't always the REALITY of life!

Some women feel that the marriage agreement has been "broken", and divorce is warranted, if they ever have to work again.

Several of my friends found themselves in this situation. All that the men did was: lose their jobs through layoffs. While this will cause financial hardships for anyone, I believe that wives should be more understanding and be willing to help out during hard economic times.

Especially, in the tough economic conditions of today. It might be a long time before things improve too.
---Augie on 10/31/10

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Patty, I dont know if you intended to use a blanket statement, but please define "home maker".
---AG on 10/29/10

Yes Rhonda, I have seen it first hand. It is sad when my children's friends think I am the "cool" mom and I am probably more strict than both their parents combined, lol.
I believe its because I spend time with my children..QUALITY TIME.
I see nothing wrong with a woman being successful BUT she must prioritize to do that.
God first,(if married) husband, then children, then your career.
For me, I make sure that any company I work for does NOT interfere with that. If it does, I find some place else to work. I have been truly blessed, most jobs I have had allow for this. Right now, Im unemployed and searching for what God wills. Im here for my children always.
---ginger on 10/26/10

Rhonda dear!

READ THE POST FIRST BEFORE you jump on* posters please!!*

perhaps you would like to do the same. I said I have done that, worn the T- Shirt love. However crushed your myth that type of busy schedule does not equate to one wanting to be more successful than hubby!

and further more you think belting out what you believe to be women making out to be workaholics a bus ride down the local town for the fun of it.

You have actually got a life so cut out for yourself you haven't a clue about what works for different people for necessity sake rather than plain old power and money.

Move on to subject you can actually identify positively with!!!
---Carla on 10/25/10

Every person's motivations and situations are unique. Some women feel a tremendous amount of guilt and anxiety when it comes to balancing family and work. As a Christian site, it's certainly good to discuss these topics, but I think we should be more gentle in our personal judgments of things that don't concern us. Having an opinion is human, but let's be careful to stick to what scripture has to say on the topic and not get too deep with labeling things we don't fully understand or agree with. I would hate for a working mother to come here seeking refuge only to be met with harsh opinions about her choice with no scriptural support for these opinions offered.
---AlwaysOn on 10/25/10

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Amen Ginger you proved my point exactly and to be a single mom doing this is exceptional

...imagine how distressing it must be for children who are sick to spend an entire day in the Nurses office because their parents are unreachable all because their mom's want to appear to be super-woman with a fast-track successful career often treating their children like baggage - who should be the biggest successes of their lives
---Rhonda on 10/25/10

What about the children? Stop spending so much money. Mothers stay at home and care for your children. Let some of these lazy husbands work. It's their duty. And woman's duty is to stay home, put your feet up and smile at all the lovely children that you bore. Balance the check-book....Babysitters are expensive might harm child....Latch-key children, a no, no.
---catherine on 10/25/10

I tell you, I have been a single mother for a very long time. I don't mind working.
BUT I believe me being a single mother is not an excuse for being a bad mother.
My Job does NOT take a position over my children. My children always come before my job. If they need me, I will leave work. I have on several occasions left work because my daughter needed me at her school. Conferences and all. I even had her principle tell me that he wished more parents had this mind set. He told me that many times he would call the parent at work trying to reach them because their child needed them only to get a voice mail and never be able to speak to them. This is very sad that we live in a society where parents put working over raising their children.
---ginger on 10/25/10


"adult funding"?

you are sadly deceived believing your children are not suffering by not having you around a mother I watch many of my childrens friends after school whose parents do what you do ...MOTHERS BOAST about success in work and career leaving their children without them

mothers who are work-a-holics marrying men who refuse to take the lead and provide

failing to see working more hours proves nothing if living by the Word of God in Proverbs 31 - husband first then children THEN income says nothing about being a successful career women bread-winner as world believes live a lie believing you "do it all" ...a mother cannot be in two places at once
---Rhonda on 10/24/10

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That's funny I worked double the hours my husband did and in cases where we had weddings and a personal log of weaves and plaits to do tripled the hours he did, got home from work cooked, cleaned house the windows and wash the car. That's not being successful or even trying to be, that's being what a mother has to do when you have a busy schedule.

Thank the Lord I am a stay at home mother only the governments plan to stop adult funding means I may possible have to go back to a menial job working for pittance trapped in the benefits lark if we both don't earn above 50k in order to survive without help for childcare especially with four children under 10.
---Carla on 10/24/10

It's called greed, the more some people have is the more they want. There are situations where a lot of husbands work a very decent salary and in retrospect their wives don't need to work, The point is the society that we live is live according to their own selfish needs and it's gone too far to dictate to all women Gods plan.

No one is going to listen. But as your opinion suits you then as long as you are not working and your husband is thus fulfilling your ideology you( personally) don't have a problem. The problem is when you dictate to others!
---Carla on 10/24/10

Okay, next time one of you guys has a life or limb saved by a female doctor or paramedic (just as a for-instance), then complain about "feminism" to me!
---Mary on 10/23/10

\\She cooks, she cleans, she babysits, she works, hard. She never receives proper payment for all that she does. NOT FAIR. \\

And should her husband charge her for rent, food, clothing, and her medical care that he provides?

BOTH are working, in different ways, to support the family.

NEITHER of the couple are working to support only himself or herself.
---Cluny on 10/23/10

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They usually end up hurt and disillusioned, at some point. Women have pushed this point so much until the men have bought into it.

Yes it is called equal rights or feminism or any other label that women want to LIVE like a man, or be the head of household ...many believe making more money then husband having more responsibilities at work they can rule their home too

Although sad these women are not following God they are following the world and its ways

A Proverbs 31 women cares for her husband children home contributing financially however not all-consuming job making her unavailable for husband children and home ...LIE is they can work same amount of hours as men - haven't found any successful at this yet
---Rhonda on 10/22/10

Another view: Some women have gone to school and want to put their training to use. They usually try to be "superwomen". They have a set of beliefs that women can have it all at any cost. They have bought into a lot of lies(fairy tales) and try to build their lives on these lies.They usually end up hurt and disillusioned, at some point. Women have pushed this point so much until the men have bought into it. Once the man buys this bunk, he does not want to work or support his family. He is willing to let the woman work and bring home the bacon. This is the beginning of the end for the marriage,sometimes.
---Robyn on 10/22/10

I agree 100% with the moderator and also in many professions like for example nursing (I'm a retired nurse) you can find few men willing to work.
---shirley on 10/21/10

I agree Shirley... I also work as a nursing instructor (clinical) at a local LPN school. Of the 80 or so students, there is only 3 men.

Shame, nursing needs more men.
---NurseRobert on 10/21/10

Catherine, you posted "Man don't appreciate woman. She never receives proper payment for all that she does. NOT FAIR." This sounds like you've had this personal experience. I am not disputing your words, I am only stating that women do the exact same things to men. We men are equally treated wrongly by women, that is a proven fact.
---Eloy on 10/21/10

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I agree 100% with the moderator and also in many professions like for example nursing (I'm a retired nurse) you can find few men willing to work.
---shirley on 10/21/10

If woman should choose not to work, this is the only way to go: Stop trying to keep-up with the Jone's. Cut back, sit back, relax.

relax? the slothful take care of me attitude - like a child? and no wonder so many women today are upside down

relax by the worlds way sure for women who choose not to work

earning income is NOT about keeping up with the Jones no matter how hard one tries to imply

per Holy Scripture a Proverbs 31 women is taking care of her family ...she is cooking, cleaning, preparing ...AND she is EARNING income

look for work that is rewarding productive and serving ...not work that is all consuming
---Rhonda on 10/21/10

Eloy, will you please don't do me like so many are doing God, today, reading more into something, that's not there. Thank you+ Hallelujah, thank You, Jesus.
---catherine on 10/21/10

Catherine, I see. I had a bad woman whom treated me equally wrong as you were treated by a bad man. So this maltreatment happens from both genders. God also loves man, and he made him first after his shape and afterward he also created a woman to be man's helpermate, that is expressed love from God for his man. I will not highlight the horrible injustices done to me and to the children. Let me just say that one sinner, no matter if it is a man or a woman, destroys much good.
---Eloy on 10/21/10

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Right on, Catherine! :)
---Mary on 10/21/10

Alright, here is what I meant, Eloy: WOMAN is not a slave to her man. She needs some help. Man don't appreciate woman. Hallelujah.....She cooks, she cleans, she babysits, she works, hard. She never receives proper payment for all that she does. NOT FAIR. If woman should choose not to work, this is the only way to go: Stop trying to keep-up with the Jone's. Cut back, sit back, relax. A good woman is precious in the sight of God, so treat her well...God LOVES women.
---catherine on 10/21/10

Catherine, I just re-read your posting. And I do understand what you say, excpet for this part: "If a woman wants to stay home, then stay out of Walmart, or find some help while you work." So does this mean that in the past you used to spend a lot of time at Walmart, rather than staying at home?
---Eloy on 10/21/10

Eloy...How about rereading my post again, especially the last sentence. Then respond. I would suggest, you reread the whole thing.
---catherine on 10/20/10

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Catherine, "stay out of Walmart?" Do you mean don't shop too much? I think if a wife wants to work, she should. A marriage is made up of two active participants, not one: and if one spouse gets injured and is not able to work, then the other spouse can help. But a single person, when we fall, or get sick, or injured, we do not have the luxury of a spouse to help us. I think the best marriages are those where both partners actively contribute and invest into the marriage, whether it is just a homemaker who works keeping the house maintained, or else working outside the house at a job she enjoys to do. Life should not be all work and suffering, with little enjoyment, though it can seem like this most of the time.
---Eloy on 10/20/10

when a married couple make a home they take care of each other, do you have a problem with this if so then marriage is probably not for you.

LOL very happily married for more than 20 years thank you

however the QUESTION is about working

taking care of one another emotionally spiritually and creating a home together is very different than being TAKEN CARE OF which would fit the post of someone who is complaining about women working outside the home

READ THE POST FIRST BEFORE you jump on posters please!!
---Rhonda on 10/19/10

Rhonda were you referring to me when you made this comment?
what is this idea of "being taken care of" in modern speak ...sitting around gossiping all day ...idle with no cares?

when a married couple make a home they take care of each other, do you have a problem with this if so then marriage is probably not for you.
---Lea on 10/17/10

Well, the Moderator made a good point. On the other hand, I've been there. Trying to hold down a full-time job, raise a child, keep a home and do it all perfect, I felled in most of it. And it was killing me. I was always tired never knew what it felt to be rested. Satan had a real field day with me. A tired body produces a tired mind and a playground for Satan, only I didn't know that it was the devil. No one cared enough or knew enough, until God came along 30 years later. If a woman wants to stay home, then stay out of Walmart, or find you a some help while you work. Hallelujah. Thank You Jesus.
---catherine on 10/17/10

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does God want women to be homemakers? what is a homemaker - chores around the house?

what is this idea of "being taken care of" in modern speak ...sitting around gossiping all day ...idle with no cares?

READ Proverbs 31

women are NOT meant to be slothful ...a Proverbs women makes money

sadly the world and ITS ways introduced the idea of equality and feminism demanded long working hours

I have yet to meet a "taken care of women" who is NOT bored and discontent ...there is only so long one can remain a prisoner of idleness
---Rhonda on 10/16/10

i agree with you Donna, i would love to stay home but i too have to work and probably will till Jesus calls us out of here but im also believing him for the husband he has promised that will be financially secure in taking care of us, but until them im happy and blessed each day for my heavenly father is my husband for now till he brings my earthly husband as God says be happy in whatever state you are in !
---Lea on 10/16/10

StevenG: I taught Asian and Latin American students, and almost all of them had working Moms, and Dads, if both parents were in the home. A lot of my Latin American students had single mothers, who of course had to work, and live in poverty,.
---Trish on 10/15/10

Why is it that asians and hispanic families are able to live on a one income earner but amercian/european families are convinced that they can't?
---Steveng on 10/15/10

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I was unable to find in the Bible where God or Jesus has ever stated that they want women to be homemakers, exluding all other types of work. If anyone finds where it specifically states that all women should be homemakers, to the exclusion of any other type of profession, please let me know!

I do know that the Bibles states that what ever you choose to do, do it with all of your heart. I also know that God has given each of us (men & women) our very own talents that should be used to exhault, honor and praise God. Who is to say that every woman on earth should have to do this in the exact same manner?

Maybe that is why there are women that would prefer to work outside of the home.
---Kimberley on 10/14/10

StevenG "It is still possible to have a one income family"

Of course it is! ....Provided the wage earner earns enough. However, to suggest that it is possible for every family is to ignore the harsh economic realties of the times we live in. Surely that is not what you meant?
---Bruce5656 on 10/14/10

I do NOT want to work, but I have no choice, I have to work.

All I wanted in life was to be a stay-at-home mom.

---Donna5535 on 10/14/10

The typical American "nuclear family", with father working 40 hours a week away from home and stay-at-home mother just doing housework is fairly modern.

I am not saying that being a stay-at-home housewife is wrong in any way, but it's NOT the only "biblical way".
---StrongAxe on 10/14/10

My married friends fit your posts well.

Some husbands, and/or wives, WANT to work, some DON'T.

The same goes for staying home with the children.

Some people WANT kids, othes DON'T.

Life involves making SACRIFICES!
---Sag on 10/14/10

I do NOT want to work, but I have no choice, I have to work. I support myself.

All I wanted in life was to be a stay-at-home mom.

I was married, and my husband didn't have a job nor an education beyond high school. So he went to a 2 yr college, got a degree in computers and I continued to work because his salary was veryyyy low.

I am divorced now (reason: Domestic Violence) and I solely support myself. I have no children (husband couldn't give me any) and my heart is broken because I wanted to be a stay at home mom at least for the first 5 years of my children's lives, but I'm not a mom and I totally support myself financially....I have no one to support me so I work full-time.
---Donna5535 on 10/14/10

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The typical American "nuclear family", with father working 40 hours a week away from home and stay-at-home mother just doing housework is fairly modern. Division of labor is different in faily businesses like farms, restaurants, etc. I am not saying that being a stay-at-home housewife is wrong in any way, but it's NOT the only "biblical way".

Proverbs 31:10-31 describes a virtuous woman:

She brings in food, feeds the household, buys real estate, plants vineyards, buys merchandise, buys finds fabrics and makes clothing and tapestries, sells them, helps the poor, speaks wisdom, raises children.

This is not a mere stay-at-home housewife, but someone who actually runs several home businesses as well.
---StrongAxe on 10/14/10

It depends on each family. My sister in law works & has worked before being married & after. I on the other hand am a stay at home mother ,because my husband & I made that choice. Also health reasons for me play into me being at home. We are strugling ,but God is providing the basics, food,shelter,clothing. everything else is optional i.e. cable, internet, phone (which i pay for internet/phone out of my childsupport) but I would give all up just to help my family out. People thin kwe must live the good life. Well to me the good life is when your basic needs are met, everything else is a choice in life. Women that are married do not have to work unless they choose to unlike single parents.
---candice on 10/13/10

So Truth!!! I agree that wives need to work, and help out financially, because the husbands can't do it along today. We are living in a different time, that allow wives to take on the responsibility of holding job, so that the husband doesn't have the total load on him. She's help mate! I don't think it's feminism for the wife to work, it's Survival. In all labor there is profit, but idle chatter leads only to proverty. Proverbs 14:23
---Kimbe7395 on 10/14/10

I've visited several churches where the Pastors just didn't earn much money. I'm sure that they ALL worked hard.

Some churches have small numbers of congregants. Others have people who may not be able to contribute much money. For one reason or another, some churches have large expenses, missions obligations, etc. And so, many churches can't afford to pay their Pastors much money.

In situations like these, Pastor's wives often HAVE to work. It's not "feminism" at all. I believe that it all comes down to:

Making the BEST use of the resources that GOD has provided you. And HIS church too. Sometimes that means you need to SACRIFICE.
---Sag on 10/14/10

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I know for me, I am a single parent so I don't have a choice in the matter.

I have searched for a man that will allow me to stay home and be a mom to my children and raise them in the fear and admonition of the Lord the way my mom did all five of hers. But it seems that most men these days don't want that (not blaming men at all).
They just don't make men the way they used to. Finding a Godly man these days is like finding a needle in a haystack, lol.
I blame society as a whole for this.
I thank God that he is in my son's life so that when he grows up and he gets a wife, she can stay at home if she wants to.
I pray that my daughter will find a great man to marry one day that will allow that option for her also.
---ginger on 10/14/10

Yes Sag i may be from the old school but i do believe God is bringing people back to the basics and more are praying for our nation, if most on here would pray for our country and the lost souls than jibber jabbering on here, God would be a lot more pleased and also more souls would be saved.What has happened to our country has been coming for many years its just excalating now to where we all need to really agree and pray for every government official. and i do believe moms need to stay home and care for the children and the husbands go to work and bring home the bacon, kids were more secure then. If parents don't raise their children in the church and pray for them and with them then the devil will surely destroy them.
---Lea on 10/13/10

People today are highly selfish.

Before the 1950s, family were content to have a roof over thier heads, food on the table, and clothes to wear.

Now-a-days, people covet more than the basic necessities.

It is still possible to have a one income family.
---Steveng on 10/13/10

the American people need to get back to basic's......God first in all things !
---Lea on 10/13/10

AMEN to that. Your post was great too. It's good to know that I wasn't the only kid that came from a family that had to "sacrifice".

I believe that many Americans have been "spoiled". They have let advertisements define their values, when GOD's word, the Bible, should be the source of people's values.

I believe that GOD isn't too happy with American's values becoming less-and-less based on HIM, and HIM alone.

It is sad that the USA is slipping away from GOD. I pray that we will "See The Light" and get back to GOD's "Basics". Before it is too late!
---Sag on 10/13/10

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the reason why both parents work today is because they think they have to have so much to live on.When i was growing up mom stayed home and daddy worked i am 1 of 10 kids only 7 living now. We weren't rich and we sure wasn't poor. Why do most people think they have to have two cars cable with every channel,new furniture all the time, frozen food from the frig to the microwave, we had no such food when i was growing up, most of it came out of the garden we canned, values and morals have changed, people cannot live without charge cards and most are maxed out buying homes they cannot afford, the American people need to get back to basic's......God first in all things !
---Lea on 10/13/10

The problem with today's couples is that they cannot sacrifice to have the mother at home.
---KarenD on 10/13/10

Many of my childhood neighbors had: cabins, boats, several cars, several color TVs, expensive vacations, etc. The mothers all worked.

My mom did't work, but our family couldn't afford more than the basics:
1 car, 1 black-and-white TV, NO boats or cabins or vacations.

I still feel bad for complaining to my parents that our family just didn't have enough things. GOD has forgiven me. Amen.

Hebrews 13:5 --

"Let your conversation be without covetousness, and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee."
---Sag on 10/13/10

The reason that I HATED Protestant churches was the constant "bashing" I received about attending a Public college, instead of a Christian one.

I've tried -- until I was BLUE in the face -- to explain that GOD didn't provide the $$$ for me to go to college anywhere else.

Like I mentioned in an earlier post, the Bible says in Hebrews 13:5 "Be CONTENT with what we have". Even if that means going to a PUBLIC colllege, instead of a CHRISTIAN one.

I think that because of the "Prosperity Movement", there is a lot of pressure for: Women to work, Everyone to attend an expensive Christian college, etc.

I eventually got tired of all the "bashing" and returned to the Catholic church.
---Sag on 10/13/10

\\Mary Pride describes this in BEYOND FEMINISM, BACK TO REALITY.
---Cluny on 10/13/1\\

Forgive me. I didn't give the full correct title.

Pride's book is: THE WAY HOME: Beyond Feminism, back to reality.
---Cluny on 10/13/10

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Feminism has nothing to do with women working. It has to do with survival financially, and being skilled to be in the workforce if and when needed. My husband insisted that I get a degree and work, because we had three children and bills to pay. Thank God he did, because when our marriage ended years later, I was financially prepared to support myself.

My daughter must work to pay for medical benefits because her husband's job does not have any benefits. She works part time as a teacher, while her husband stays home with the kids while she works. Then, he goes to work at his contracting job.
---Trish on 10/13/10

Women are strange creatures. So are men, for that matter. But I was privileged to stay at home with my small kids.I worked if and when I wanted to. Staying home has good points and negative points. Too numerous to list here. It can get complicated if wifey stays home all day. But the details can be worked out and everybody can be happy. If more women saw the value in being a wife and mother. I think they would jump at the chance to stay home and shine. I am glad I did. I let people know I value marriage and motherhood. Let no one put you down for what you have chosen to do. Blessings
---Robyn on 10/13/10

Women can still stay at home and be a full-time wife and mother. Even "extremely intelligent" wives can do that because being a full-time wife and mother does not mean that she is not intelligent. The problem with today's couples is that they cannot sacrifice to have the mother at home.
---KarenD on 10/13/10

Patty - Where in the Bible does it say that women are to stay home and be homemakers? According to the Bible it says NOTHING about this. In fact it says the opposite - Proverbs 31:13-27 (women work and provide for family), 2 Thessalonians 3:10 (no work, no eat) - this applies to women too because God is no respecter of persons. Please go by the Bible ONLY, NOT your personal opinion.
---Leslie on 10/13/10

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Hi, Patty (c: Because each woman is different, I'd say it is good to hear what each one has to say her reasons are, and pray for what is good for each one.

When a woman is wrong, to insist she has to get out of the house, maybe this is because she is not satisfied with being with and loving her family. This can be because of an *independence* idol. In the United States, there has been a culture of worshiping independence, so people are not really melting together with one another and being deeply satisfied to enjoy one another in God's warmth of love. So, they are restless. But Jesus gives us "rest for your souls," (Matthew 11:29) so we can become "content with such things as you have" (in Hebrews 13:5) in loving.
---Bill on 10/13/10

\\ If you will read Proverbs 31:10-31 a virtuous woman,\\

Did you notice that this virtuous woman can do almost all these things without having to leave the family property?

However, it's a shame that economic necessity and social custom (to a great extent) force married women to help support the family. In a just world, this would not be necessary.

Until about the late 40's, early 50's. women worked just as hard AT home as the husbands did away from it.

Mary Pride describes this in BEYOND FEMINISM, BACK TO REALITY.
---Cluny on 10/13/10

Most families now would not be able to live unless the wife had a job of some sort.
---alan8566_of_uk on 10/13/10

Patty,my Sister-in-law once said "A man may make a living but if they ever want to have anything the woman has to work too",that makes a lot of sense to me. It is getting harder all the time for a man to pay for everything a family needs and a man is blessed to have a wife who works and helps him. If you will read Proverbs 31:10-31 a virtuous woman,she feeds her staff and family,then she works with wool and flax,brings food from afar,sees a field and buys it and plants a vineyard,she helps the poor and needy,she makes fine linen and sells it and delievers girdles to the merchand. This woman isn't "just a housewife and mother" she is in business too.
---Darlene_1 on 10/13/10

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It is a shame that some women must work outside the home. I am thankful I had a husband that supported me and is still supporting me even tho he passed 3 years ago. I also supported him in his job, military and retirement. I am thankful for what God gave me.
---shira3877 on 10/13/10

My ex-wife divorced me because of work issues. I was the only one working to support the family.

Not too long ago, a family could be supported by only the husband working. Today, after years of inflation, population increases, technology improvements, etc. that often isn't possible. Like the Moderator clearly stated.

I wouldn't say that the issue of "working women" is necessarily because of feminism. Sometimes, but not always. Most often, women are working OUT OF NECESSITY or THEY JUST HAVE TO.

Today, my ex-wife has to work even MORE than I ever did. She HAS to work to support herself and the kids. That's often the way "the ball bounces" after a divorce. Single Mothers are left HAVING to work.
---Augie on 10/13/10

They want the self-esteem that comes from working a job they're good at. Would you rather see no female doctors or paramedics or lawyers or any other type of job--just because they're women?
---Mary on 10/13/10

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