What you mean by "intimate" may not be truly intimate. So, you need to seek God's kingdom "first". "'But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.'" (Matthew 6:33) You need a Family of Christian people to help you understand this, not isolating with your ex. Isolation is not intimacy! And certainly "reconciling" two independent spirits is not intimacy in God's love.
---Bill_willa6989 on 12/28/10|
1 CORINTHIANS 7:7:11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband, and let not the husband put away his wife.
an occasional booty call does not a reconciliation make.
to reconcile to each other, we must reconcile with God first. but, how can we put God first if the flesh is in the lead?
---aka on 12/29/10|
What do you mean by, "intimate"?
It may not be a good idea regardless of what you mean by "intimate" There was some reason why you divorced in the first place, but time can sometimes "heal" the reason. You may only be thinking of the good times, which is great, but sooner or later you may remember why you divorced in the first place and have to same problems all over again. So I would advise you to move on and forget being, "intimate" with your ex. If you do mean can you have intercourse with your ex, that would be a NO!
---wivv on 12/28/10|
According to scripture, it's ok (see Richard's reply). While the state may say you're divorced, the Father may still view you as married. This is why 2nd marriages are portrayed in scripture as adulterous...legal divorce doesn't hold the same weight with the Father as it does with man. The danger in your situation, however, is that you view yourself as divorced (because the state claims that you are). As such, I'm going to assume that you are likely living as single people do and are dating others or at least are free to see others if one of you chooses to do so. This can be hazardous to your heart, your health and your soul. I would take Pharisee's advice and renew your commitment, but it's up to you. Use your best wisdom on this one, sis!
---AlwaysOn on 12/28/10|
Not unless of course you are committed to being together...even then I'd tell you to play by the rules and wait to re-marry.
The reason it's not OK is because the sexual union between a man and woman is supposed to be sacred and not merely something that scratches your itch. In the scriptures were commanded to honor God with our bodies as the body is the temple of the Holy Spirit.
Why not try working through the problems you had in your marriage and be reconciled if you want to be with him, that's honorable.
---Pharisee on 12/28/10|
This is a fine example of what man's opinion's and actions. "IF" you and your husband have not remarried, then you are still husband and wife. If either of you have remarried, then you shouldn't be doing this. Why did you divorce, and why would you now want to "be intimate?"
---tommy3007 on 12/28/10|
No, it is NOT OK.
Only married people should be having intimate relations.
Outside of marriage, it's sinful fornication.
I'm curious about WHY you two divorced, but now want to share yourselves with each other.
---Augie on 12/28/10|
JC: God have mercy on your poor soul. You are totally confused. I hope you stay single. Please do not and I repeat: do not, mess up someone else's life with your poison.
---Robyn on 12/28/10|
does our opinion really matter? or are you just seeking permission from man?
---aka on 12/28/10|
1 CORINTHIANS 7:3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence, and likewise also the wife unto the husband
7:4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband, and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife,
7:10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband
7:11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband, and let not the husband put away his wife.
7:39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth.husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will,only in the Lord.
---RICHARD on 12/28/10|
Why did you divorce him to start with?
---Cluny on 12/28/10|