Why God Has Forsaken Me
God made Eve for Adam. God provided Job with multiple wives. I am 44 years old and have very few friends and no wife. I treat others the best that I am able. Why is God like the distant father of mine who never calls, never writes? Where is my share of his love? Why has God forsaken me?
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---Jim_Hall on 1/16/11
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Loneliness sometimes is necessary so that we can focus on the only other person needed in our life, namely, Jesus. I have been in a room where all got up and left and I was left standing there alone, and then I realized, though all the world leave me yet my Lord Jesus is right here with me. There is a popular writing that circulates among Christians titled, "Footprints" or "Footprints In The Sand", I suggest that you look this up on the net and read it, and it will reveal to you the reason why we Christians must all go through these times. A wise man once said, everyday above ground is a good day.
---Eloy on 1/19/11|
How long wilt thou forget me, O LORD? forever? how long wilt thou hide thy face from me? How long shall I take counsel in my soul, having sorrow in my heart daily? How long shall mine enemy be exalted over me? Consider & hear me, O LORD my God,Psalms 13- David felt alone & depressed at times. We all do. God is the only one you can turn to, to find the peace you're looking for. Read the whole Psalm & others as well. They can be a comfort to know we're not alone even when we feel like we are.
---Reba on 1/18/11|
\\Abandon by my parents as an newborn, thus never having any real sense of family.\\
Are you saying you had to fend for yourself while still in diapers, or were you in the foster care system, and passed from family to family?
---Cluny on 1/18/11|
God doesn't just drop our mates out of the sky. It may be His will that you remain single or it could be that your future wife or you are not ready for one another yet. Now days the success rate for marriages is less than 40%. Primarily because we want everything now even if it means sacrificing our relationship with Christ.
---Shauna on 1/18/11|
Jim I am in a similar boat and years older than yourself, although I am yet to reach middle age. Never married, no children. Abandon by my parents as an newborn, thus never having any real sense of family. A loner innately, yet I have never I viewed myself a victim. For there is one thing of which I have no doubt. Father loves me and I know the thoughts he has towards me, thoughts of good and not evil, thoughts to prosper me and to give me a desirable future. He has promised never to leave nor forsake His children, Therefore you can know, just as I do, that He is a close to you as you believe HIm to be. Do not allow what you may perceive sensually to determine your relationship with the Father, for the relationship is much deeper than that.
---Josef on 1/18/11|
Wow! This is new, "Jesus tells us how man gains the Love of God." using John 14:21.
---christan on 1/17/11
It should have read, "Gains in the Love of God."
Does God love his creation?
Does God favor some over others?
What is the end result of this favor?
They are born again, and called the Sons of God.
There are many people in your life that you Love.
Do you love then all the same, or do you love some more than you love others?
Isn't there a reason for this?
(John 14:21) is Gods reason.
---David on 1/18/11|
Forsaken is a big word. I also have few real true friends. I treat others with respect and get so little respect back. I feel that when I go threwthis God guilding me from harm and hurtful people and eventually to ones who truely care abut eachother. His love is there. You just have to have faith.
---Nicole_Hawkins on 1/17/11|
//animals are better able to love than people.//
animals can leave heaps of urine and feces on the carpet that stains forever, but a woman will divorce a man for leaving his socks on the floor.
it is any wonder why animals are better able to love than people?
---aka on 1/17/11|
For awhile Job was abandoned and alone too. My hope is that your situation is temporary like Job's. Meanwhile, here are two of my favorites...
Isaiah 30:20 The Lord may give you the bread of adversity and the water of affliction, but He who teaches you will no longer be hidden out of sight. With your own eyes you will see Him always.
Jeremiah 33:3 Call upon me the Lord, and I will answer you and show you great and wonderful things you did not know.
---Dan1724 on 1/17/11|
Have you thought instead of him going away YOU maybe went far from him? Now is your time to reconnect. Also not everyone is meant for marriage, MAYBE you have another purpose to help & now you need to seek God & find out what it is for.
---candice on 1/17/11|
It may feel like it, but believe me when I tell you that our Father has not forsaken you.
Adam and Eve's marriage wasn't the easiest. They both went astray and fell out of favor with the Father. They even produced a murderous son who was filled with jealously and they suffered the loss of another son through violence. Job's wife advised him to curse God and die, and they lost all of their children. Of course, Job was later blessed because he held onto his faith, which you must do, too.
Many women are desperate to marry, so I suspect finding one isn't the problem. You are probably discerning, which is good. Be patient, walk in faith and continue to wait.
---AlwaysOn on 1/17/11|
Jim_Hall, when Jesus feels distant, many times it is because the soul has removed themself from his presence and not that he has removed himself from the soul. When you draw near to him, then he will draw near to you. If you are seeking a companion, a woman, then specifically pray to Jesus about it and then wait and see what happens. A person whom wants friends ust show themself friendly, sometimes you have to take to lead and offer to invite the woman that you are talking to out to share s little time by having a cup of cocoa or a sundae or something.
---Eloy on 1/17/11|
Wow! This is new, "Jesus tells us how man gains the Love of God." using John 14:21.
Please cross-reference John 14:21 to 1 John 4:10 "Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us" and verse 19, "We love him, because he first loved us."
It is the love of God that saves a sinner, and His love will overcome the sinner causing him to love God for the great and miraculous salvation He has given the sinner in Jesus Christ. And if God doesn't love you first, the love you claim you have for God is an act of faithlessness.
---christan on 1/17/11|
//I treat others the best that I am able.//
chances are that maybe you are and would be an excellent husband. however, this life is temporal, and maybe it is not willed for right now, but it is willed.
cluny, is right. marriage is not for everyone in this lifetime. i am 46. i wish that i would have realized my calling first over my desire to be married.
---aka on 1/17/11|
Hi, Jim . . . you're like me. I have a few good friends, but they are busy with their families and jobs and church leadership. And I help people however I can. But no one seems to want to stay around me. So-o-o, I am very appreciative of when I get to spend some time with someone and in a church gathering. It's quality, not quantity. I can appreciate having a moment to say hi while opening the post office door for someone (c: instead of taking this for granted (c:
---Bill_willa6989 on 1/17/11|
In (Isaiah 59:2) we learn that sin separates us from God.
In (1John 1:9) we learn that if we confess sin, God will forgive that sin, and the sin that caused the separation is removed, with this one exception,
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. if you have not forgiven others God will not forgive you.
In (John 14:21) Jesus tells us how man gains the Love of God.
"Whoever has my commands and keeps them is the one who loves me. The one who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will love them and show myself to them."
---David on 1/17/11|
I am 43, have been married in my youth, have no kids, have lived alone for well over a decade & find animals are better able to love than people. Chronic pain & health problems had limited my life, activities, & friends in the past. I know EXACTLY where you are coming from & even feel like a freak sometimes myself. People not relating to us can offer useless, critical advice wrongly condemning us & making us feel worse about ourselves & God. I have started to connect with others online here(Hope5979)to make some new friends & realize I now need to more actively seek out others.
---HOPE on 1/17/11|
Drawing closer to God through prayer & Bible reading only helps so much due to the fact that humans were created with the need to be loved. I remember a sermon years ago about Bible examples of how God took several years to teach & equip men to serve Him. Also, I have also heard some say that those who have truly been hurt & severely tried in life can better encourage people hurting than those sheltered people who have never had such experiences. Maybe God has been equiping you for something special. Maybe you just need to reach out to others more, something I have not done enough of, myself.
---Hope on 1/17/11|
God's thoughts are not our thoughts and God's ways are not our ways. Be still and know that I am God. God meant for man to have a help mate. You are no different. God loves you the same as everyone else. Pray and focus on God. When He sends someone your way, you will be totally marveled.
---shira3877 on 1/17/11|
Jim are you sure you arent overlooking the things that God is tryin to bless you with?
---CraigA on 1/16/11|
My advise is to stop sulking and start seeking, we all have all of God that we desire to have.
James 4:7 Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.8 Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners, and purify your hearts, ye double minded.
We can achieve a relationship with Christ as deep as we desire to dive or as shallow as we desire to skim, I would that we would all dive in over our heads and let God trim us.
God Bless, Paul
---paul on 1/16/11|
Your perception of God is off because you have your focus on yourself instead of Him. The best adivce I can give is what was told to me after my divorce. Get into a Men's Bible, and seek out an older, mature, Godly man to guide you in revamping your thinking, and how to make God your One and Only.
---Trish9863 on 1/16/11|
Why is God like the distant father of mine who never calls, never writes?
Jim...I imagine that God asks the same question of His children. Sometimes we ask, and having received, move on. (Some, not all.) As KarenD implied, God has a plan for you. Consult with Him at every opportunity. Make sure that you are walking in His Will. Give Praise to His Holy Name for the things you have. The words spoken to Joshua after the death of Moses still prevail as a promise to us all. "I will never leave you nor forsake you." (Reiterated in Hebrews.) Maintain your faith and trust in God and in His Will for your life.
---CalicoHawk on 1/16/11|
The Bible says God will never leave you nor forsake you. The Bible also says that our testing in the fire is from God, so we can get the dirt out of us and reflect Christ (Psalm 66:10-12).
---Leslie on 1/16/11|
Jim, how much time do you spend with God in reading His word, prayer, or even fasting? We are so quick to say where is God when we need Him but when all is going well we don't bother to even talk to Him much less spend any time reading His word trying to learn how He wants us to live. Put your focus on God's plan for your life instead of what you want & you'll find that you're much more content & satisfied with your life. And who knows He may have a lady waiting for you & just waiting for YOU to love Him.
---Reba on 1/16/11|
God gave his son to die for you,how much love does he gotta give?you know God led abraham out into the wilkderness and at one time didb,t speak to him for I believe over 25 years.
---tom2 on 1/16/11|
Maybe God wants you all to Himself.
I'm not being flippant. I do understand how you are feeling. When I was your age, I felt much the same way.
And trust me, there are many, many worse things than not being married.
Most of them are being married to the wrong person. Haven't you noticed how many of the postings here are from people (mostly women) complaining about their spouses?
---Cluny on 1/16/11|
Jim_Hall...God has not forsaken you. It's just that HE has not brought the right woman into your life yet. HE knows who she is and when you meet her, you will know why God made you wait.
---KarenD on 1/16/11|