Healing Of Broken Heart
How do you move on when your heart has been broken, a man that you love, dating a friend in your church and you have to see them both together during most of the church activities, every time you see them together your heart breaks all over again. What are you suppose to do? How do you move on?
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---vive on 6/22/11
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Just trust that God has someone great for you. love and pray for them. It is so hard at first but as time go on it will get easier. Often we pray for God to give us paul or steve try praying for the man God has for you! cast all your cares on the Lord.
---sauda4957 on 8/4/11|
I read something a wise woman said about love today.
She said that love and pain are closely bound up together.
Of course, vive has never told us if the other man actually loved her back.
Sometimes, what we call loving another person is merely the demand to be loved by that person on our own terms.
Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 6/26/11|
Viv, I am sorry you are hurting. God knows and will heal your heart. I too had something similar happen to me, and just stopped the church for a while and when I went back, they weren't there anymore. And, I realized that, if he left and found someone else so quickly, it was God's Will and a Blessing for me. It showed he was not the right one for me and I am so thankful that it did happen, now. You will make it. There is a song by Barlow Girl called "Porcelain Heart". Listening to that also helped me knowing that God heard my pain and put me back together, my heart included. Blessings, Shara
---shara8546 on 6/25/11|
There are 3 basic things you can do: 1: Change churches so you don't have to see them. Once your "heart" has mended, you may go back - if you want to. 2. Stay away from any activities that may cause you to see him. (As you are finding out, a broken heart will not heal as fast if you have to see them together.) 3. Move on! See if there is someone else you might love just as much or more. (It worked for me - the girl, "I couldn't live without" dumped me. The Lord provided someone else - 6 yrs. later, and we have been married 48 yrs.)
---wivv on 6/25/11|
Vive, "What are you suppose to do? How do you move on?". The best answer I know, is to turn to God, over and over if need be, cry out your heart, your tears, fears anger, whatever to Him. He is our healer and comforter, and He can lift you up. It may be difficult to see right now, but He is faithful, and loving. He can help you guard against unforgiveness and bitterness. Pray for guidance, strength and whatever else you need to deal with seeing these two together. he can make a way where there seems to be no way. God bless you.
---Christina on 6/24/11|
God is faithful and will never leave you, nor forsake you. I got through my divorce with a lot of tears, and talking to a dear Christian friend who kept reminding me of the Truth of God's love and faithfulness. I also leaned on Scriptures, like Jeremiah 29:11. Time is a great healer as well.
In order for all of this to happen, you need to physically distance yourself from your ex, and start attending a different church for a while. Also, get involved in a Bible study, with loving Christian friends for fellowship and to be reminded of God's faithfulness.
---Trish on 6/24/11|
vive, I have suffered through three major brokenhearts and I feel for you. I stood on Psalm 147, "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." And in another Psalm it says, He is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
Bring your broken heart to the Lord, cast it upon Him and pray DAILY and ask Jesus to heal your brokenness. If I were you, I'd leave the church for a while and find another one until you heal so that you don't have to see them together. My prayers are with you.
---Donna5535 on 6/23/11|
\\Maybe it'll help one day just knowing that if he first loved you, then moved on to your terrible excuse of a friend, then you are the one who's blessed by being rid of him.\\
There's also the possibility--mentioned by nobody up to this point--that God did not intend the man to be with vive, but rather with her friend.
Of course, all vive has told us is HER feelings for this man. She never mentioned if the man ever had similar feelings for her. Maybe he didn't.
Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 6/22/11|
Give yourself time to heal.it will...just be patient with yourself.forgive yourself and others too.lift your hurts to God.(psalm 147:3 says "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds".
move on by avoiding seeing them together-worship at different time.get yourself busy.accept the fact that he doesn't love.pray and pray.focus on yourself and God
---mj on 6/22/11|
---vive, It's never easy to forgive a hurt like that. But by completely forgiving them you free yourself from the hurt. Maybe it'll help one day just knowing that if he first loved you, then moved on to your terrible excuse of a friend, then you are the one who's blessed by being rid of him. NO ONE NEEDS THAT KIND OF LOVE IN THEIR LIFE. And your friend will, no doubt, find that out the hard way, like you did. Forgive them & you'll soon be able to see that his leaving you was a blessing after all.
---Reba on 6/22/11|
This is an old story, as old as two generations from Adam and Eve.
You move on by moving on.
Calling them names will NOT accomplish anything.
Even if you were engaged, engagements were made to be broken. All they mean is, "If all goes well, we shall marry."
Leslie is right, for a change. You need to forgive. Sometimes, all you can do is just make an act of will to forgive. And as I've said elsewhere, forgiveness is like an onion. You peel and peel, cry and cry--and suddenly there's another layer.
In the meantime, try not to let others steal your joy and serenity.
Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 6/22/11|
God's advice is 1st FORGIVE. If you do not do this, you will not be able to move on. 2nd Ask Jesus to touch and heal your broken heart, and He will.
---Leslie on 6/22/11|
Was this man in love with you and then broke off to go after your so called friend? If so then tell him and the so called friend that they are scum bags and that you would prefer not to see their faces.
If you can't handle it then I would go to a different service or find another church. No point rubbing salt in the wound. You need time to heal and you don't need to see their disgraceful faces.
---poopsey on 6/22/11|