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Should Christians Be Depressed

Is it true that a christian should never display sadness or be down in the dumps? I just had someone tell me that(she is a new Christian) she said it looks bad for Christians if they are sad or down and look it. What do you say?

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Both positive and negative moods are part of being human, Christian or not. Jesus wept. Jesus showed anger at an innocent fig tree. Jesus showed doubt at Gethsemane. And if he can be subject to these negative emotions, how can we hope to be immune?

Also, while depression is a mood, it often has physical and chemical causes. Asking if a Christian can be depressed is akin to asking if a Christian can be diabetic. As long as we are imperfect, mortal human beings, the answer is YES to both of these questions.
---StrongAxe on 9/28/11

rhonda, Please read the Holy Bible, for you post falsehood

foolish Eloy and all his babbling "falsehood"

seeing agony is an emotion as well it does not indicate depression

AGAIN depression is long-term it is the spirit of Satan

Christ NEVER had the Spirit of Satan so you are simply ignorant in your OPINION

any prolonged period of a depressed state leads one AWAY from GOD seeing its purpose is to destroy one's state of mind

depression is never short-term one is simply confused in their thinking seeing the god of this WORLD SELLS depression and pretty colored pills to make one feel better many have LOST sight of having a BRIEF spell of sadness which is normal expression of emotions
---Rhonda on 9/28/11

Rhonda: I think you define 'depressed' in a more extreme way that what I'd normally define it.

I'd take 'depressed' as in seriously saddened, not that the sadness defines ALL of a preson's thoughts.

There is a level of sadness, even long term sadness, which is acceptable for a Christian. Beyond that limit, it indicates the person is not trusting in God for help
---Peter on 9/27/11

rhonda, Please read the Holy Bible, for you post falsehood: Not only has Jesus suffered times of being depressed, but also extreme agony in the garden of gethsemane.
---Eloy on 9/27/11

Depression is a part of life. "Jesus wept."

Christ was NEVER depressed

however Christ DID EXPRESS emotions

we were given emotions to express however depression is a long-term state of mind

depression takes HOLD of one who has allowed trials and worries to consume their every waking thought and just like any other sin one can allow their state of mind to decay

True Believers are GIVEN sound mind by Gods Holy Spirit when one is truly converted there is no depression

Christ WARNED to come out of the world to live in it yet not be partakers of her sins
---Rhonda on 9/27/11

Depression is a part of life. "Jesus wept." When there is loss, tragedy or sickness, depression and tears is a normal condition that follows: and it would be abnormal and perhaps fake if a person denied that they were sad when they really were.
---Eloy on 9/27/11

My post did not make it. Too real for this fake blog anyway. The truth hurts. I know. Always will.
---Robyn on 9/26/11

christians can get depressed but I know God promised us a sound mind. I was depressed when my daughter and husband passed away. God gave me so much grace during that time. I am so thankful for God's grace. I don't think a saved person is depressed very long.
---shira3877 on 9/26/11

"When you believe in things that you don't understand,
Then you suffer,
Superstition ain't the way"

Superstition, Stevie Wonder.

James 4:3 "Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts."
Those who ask as such may become depressed while expecting to receive and not receiving.
While some may physically be missing some nuts and bolts, others suffer through lack of understanding.

Proverbs 4:7 "Wisdom is the principal thing, therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding."
"...Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things:..."
---Nana on 9/26/11

Unless you are a new christian,too. How can a new christian teach you anything?Two babies together create a lot of mess. That is religious baloney. Christians are not exempt from the troubles and plagues of this world. There are many peaks and valleys in this faithwalk. Don't be easily led astray by imposters tooting the word of God. Test the spirit by the spirit. We will sin, we will fall down, we will be in hard places that will bewilder us and test our faith. Hopefully we pass the tests. If not we will remain on the ground floor(immature) and become powerless and unfruitful christians.
---Robyn on 9/26/11

the bible gives example,yes,there were times of stress & yet,Job (I like to use him) did not sinc to "suicide" thank God, depression perhaps temporal..We are human not divine,times of temporary doubts & fears can claim "hold"...When we take our eyes off Jesus! He said nbible. I will keep thee n perfect peacewho eyes stay on Him! Fret not the work of evil doers ps.37
---ELENA on 8/19/11

Rhonda: I totally agree with your concerns about med seeking addicts who go from doctor to doctor looking for drugs the legal way.

I am opposed to family docs prescribing psych meds for people experiencing depressive episodes rather than referring these patients to the appropriate mental health professionals for evaluation and therapy.

The flip side is when people with serious mental illness self-medicate and end up not only with a mental illness but a serious drug or alcohol addiction. Many times, that begins in the teen years when the young person is most troubled, but not evaluated for a variety of reasons.

Thanks for clarifying. I think we agree more often that not.
---Trish9863 on 7/25/11

Trish ...first I apologize for my first remark to you I do have a very high regard for the medical profession and understand many people are gripped with severe mental anguish that is paralyzing ...however I have seen the flip side ...people without mental issues exchanging meds to experience different "mellow, zoned out and highs" helping each other with the buzz word of symptoms to make sure they GET these meds ...even doctor hopping until they do ...bragging how they are legally high on the job

as a parent what concerns me are how many of my childrens friends and their parents are using these meds almost seems as if society has reached a level where coping is almost an impossibility unless there are meds
---Rhonda on 7/25/11

Rhonda: I totally agree that we all should be able to experience the full range of life's emotions without fear of judgement. The Lord wept. David went through an emotional wringer as described in the Psalms.

My reaction was based on the title of the blog using the word "Depressed," and my personal and career experience with the clinically depressed.

I do not advocate denying people the experience of life on life's terms and the full range of emotions that go with that. If someone I care about is struggling from situational depression, and is stuck for an extended period of time, I encourage talk therapy first. Then, I leave it to that therapist to evaluate if further treatment with a psychiatrist is indicated.
---Trish9863 on 7/25/11

she said it looks bad for Christians if they are sad or down and look it. What do you say?

SAD is an emotion

HAPPY fear disgust anger anticipation are ALL EMOTIONS

emotions can be intense at times and not so strong at other times

our society has really lost it if people attribute EVERY emotion to a medical disorder - TRULY sad and utterly wicked!!!

is it "bad" to look sad? not at all that is LIFE sometimes people express themselves in ways that the THINK-TANK can't handle ...and AGAIN very ABSURD to be so artificial with need to PLEASE everyone around you - looking a certain way

when ONE has to look a certain way to claim or profess christianity they serve others NOT GOD
---Rhonda on 7/24/11

Yes you are so right ... but Trish was talking about clinical depression.

EXCEPT I WASN'T didn't even make a reference to it!!!

POSTER ASKED about friends comment "looks bad to be sad"

I was answering POSTER not providing or alluding to a medical diagnosis ...however some seem to be bent on defending the medical profession and its endless feast of mental disorders to prove some point and take the topic away from what the POSTER asked

there is a VERY BIG difference between people who have a mental disorder VERSES people who are "sad and look it"

it appears you have read far to much into the posters SIMPLE post and my answers to determine something all together DIFFERENT
---Rhonda on 7/24/11

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Rhonda "the term depression is an over-used catch-all phrase for anyone who is not bouncy happy"

Yes you are so right ... but Trish was talking about clinical depression. This is a real illness of the brain part of the body.

If you don't know that, you should not really be commenting.

I have been there ... and can assure you that it is nothing like just feeling bouncy happy
---alan8566_of_uk on 7/24/11

Stick to what you are qualified to do.

Trish this is a BLOG NOT a place to preach or practice ANYTHING - get over yourself please!

MOST within medical community agree VAST majority who take the pretty colored pills do not need them and agree drugs are over-prescribed

I NEVER talked about ANY illness or diagnosis in my post ...there are people who like attention and will use acting depressed as a means to get that attention ...the term depression is an over-used catch-all phrase for anyone who is not bouncy happy is a very sad society we live in today when people cannot be sad without having someone in the medical community attach a mental-state-of-mind-label and make it a problem requiring drugs
---Rhonda on 7/24/11

Rhonda: .

I know of too many people who successfully completed suicide attempts due to clinical depression. I also know of a lot of believers who were shamed into going off their meds because of well meaning believers telling them they don't need meds, just Jesus. Then they end up patients in my hospital after an unsuccessful suicide attempt. I can't count the number of patients who have told me they were told they didn't need meds by well meaning Christian friends or family.

It is dangerous when people who are NOT mental health professionals play doctor with this subject.

Leave the psychiatric treatment to those better qualified than you to do it. Stick to what you are qualified to do.
---Trish9863 on 7/23/11

True Christians are to be of good cheer practicing temperance in ALL THINGS

If one neglects themselves by eating junk food, over-working, or indulging in social activities never taking time for themselves the creates STRESS for the world and the cares of this world will create stress

to say one can never have the emotion of being sad is foolish

there is a difference between ACTING depressed and having a depressed state of mind

any morally practicing Doctor will tell you that 80% of all patients on "depression" meds do not belong on them

YET popping pretty colored pills is a LOT easier to create a better mood than taking care of oneself to keep that good mood
---Rhonda on 7/23/11

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For a short period of time, i think a Christian can feel down & it shows on the face, but not for a prolonged period. Because after a Christian discusses and hands over his/her problem to God, temperament normally changes (Check 1 Sam.1:18).
---Adetunji on 7/22/11


Many neurological disorders are merely exaggeraged and out-of-control versions of natural mechanisms that we all experience normally.

Paranoia is a exaggerated natural fear of hidden enemies. Phobias are exaggerated natural fears of dangerous things or places. Bipolar disorder is an exaggerated version of normal mood swings.

The brain, like an engine, is an incredibly complicated thing, and has many complicated things going on in it. It is common for some of those things to go slightly out of whack. But when some things go sufficiently out of whack to start to severely impair its ability to function normally, then we need to take active steps to correct them.
---StrongAxe on 7/17/11

StrongAxe, Thanks for your post, interesting that you brought up it being a natural survival or defense mechanism under normal circumstances. Understanding it's purpose helps to also understand a bit of what's happening when one has clinical depression. It's often not enough to try to deal with the symptoms only, which has limited success. Still much unknown
---Christina on 7/16/11

The human being can display many emotions, but there is only one (a 'sentiment'...SORROW...true love) that makes a person human being. When a person is able to feel that sentiment, water will come out their eyes. This is not regular water, it is "LIVING water".

God said that those who truly love Him AND His ways of goodness and true love, out of their heart "shall flow rivers of LIVING water". God wants us to have a "heart of flesh" instead of a heart of stone (THIS is the meaning of "GODLINESS", not rules, commandments, or laws).
---more_excellent_way on 7/16/11

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Depression appears to be a natural survival mechanism that serves a useful function - it cripples our ability to act at times when our minds must re-process many things after stressful changes, and prevents us from making important decisions based on incorrect information. Several antidepressant drugs have the side effect of increasing risk of suicide - because they remove the natural inhibitions that depression was designed for.

Under normal circumstances, depression is temporary, and goes away when the stress has been processed (e.g. grief after death). But when the mechanism breaks down (i.e. persists long after it is needed), it is clinical depression and needs treatment, just like a malfunction of any of our regulating systems does.
---StrongAxe on 7/16/11

\\That night can be long and go on for years if we are suffering from a brokenheart due to barrenness or death of a loved one\\

Loss of a parent, even when expected, takes about a year to 18 months to get over.

Lose of a spouse usually takes at least two years.

Don't forget, the Father Himself knows how it feels to see His Son die.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 7/16/11


Yes, I was replying to the original question, not to your post.

Whenever I reply to a response post (or to a blog topic), I use the mouse to copy/paste the nickname of the poster, to make sure I spell it correctly. I also do the same to copy text to quote, to make sure I don't make mistakes in quoting someone.
---StrongAxe on 7/15/11

emotions are normal human response.if we try to suppress our emotions-this is unhealthy.there are ways we can handle our emotions positively by changing our thoughts and perspective.we Christians are called by God to be an over-comer.Jesus also shows emotions in many instances in the bible but these are not charge against Him.
---mj on 7/15/11

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I agree with all of you who said it's okay to show our emotions and to even be sad or down for a while. I suffered through 3 brokenhearts, how in the world could I "act happy?" I couldn't.

I love all of your responses. It's nice to get each persons perspective on here. Thank you.

P.S. The Joy of the Lord is our strength, but sometimes, sorrow does take over like it did with Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane and on the Cross. He most likely never lost his Joy but we are human and sometimes I do. Weeping may endureth for a night, but Joy comes in the morning. That night can be long and go on for years if we are suffering from a brokenheart due to barrenness or death of a loved one. Amen?
---Donna5535 on 7/15/11

You do know there are two Donnas, right?. I think you were responding to me, Donna66.

We see the results of the Christian "facade" when people recognize it, and turn their backs on Christianity...then come here to spill out their bitterness against "Christians".

Those who think they should never display "sadness" must become weary and disillusioned in time, themselves. Always trying to be something we're not, generally fools few people and it forces us into an unhealthy denial.
---Donna66 on 7/15/11

Strongaxe--- OOOOPS! you were responding to the Donna who asked the question! So sorry.

I thought you were echoing my thoughts from the previous post since yours directly followed it. Well, at least we agree on this one, I guess.
---Donna66 on 7/15/11

What is being stated is not accurate. There are states of depression that are hormonal, (for example, Post Partum Blues), which a person has very little control over, psychological, other problems, (such a being Bi-Polar and various types of medicine can cause depression. A Christian is spiritual being housed in a human body, and because of this can experience the same the same emotions as any other human. (For example: if you have a loved one who dies un-saved the Christian loved one is usually sad.)
If they aren't, something is wrong.
---wivv on 7/15/11

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There is a season and a time to every purpose
under Heaven!

A time to be born, a time to die
" to plant, a time to reap
" to kill, a time to heal
" to laugh, a time to weep

A time to build up,a time to break down
" to dance, a time to mourn
" to cast away stones, a time to gather stones together

A time of love, a time of hate
" of war, a time of peace
" you may embrace, a time to refrain from embracing

A time to gain, a time to lose
" to rend, a time to sew
" for love, a time for hate
" for peace, I swear it's not too late
---TheSeg on 7/15/11


If the primary reason to decide whether to be sad or not is "because it might make Christians look bad", one is concerned with appearance over substance. This is he hypocrisy of what Jesus condemned the pharisees of - they were all nice and white on the outside, but inside were like dead men's tombs.

Ecclesiastes says there is a time to weep, laugh, mourn, and dance (3:4). Being cheery around someone who is sad is like torture (Proverbs 25:10). Jesus wept when Lazarus died.

People can see through facades. If you try to always be cheery even when you are hurting inside, people will notice. If you do it all the time, they will realize you aren't being sincere.
---StrongAxe on 7/15/11

I would tell her that Christ was displeased by pretense, particularly religious pretense. The Pharisees angered Him because they wanted to appear more righteous than all others.
But Jesus rejoiced when he saw Nathaniel Jn. 1:47 Behold an Israelite indeed, in whom is no guile! i.e. no deceit.

That doesn't mean you have to wear your feelings on your sleeve...we don't want to bring others down. As Christians (Rom. 8:37) all these things we are more than conquerors through Him that loved us. "
But we are still human.

Who do you admire more...the person is always above it all...or the one who admits their weaknesses and talks about trying to overcome them?
---Donna66 on 7/14/11

Lot was "sorely vexed" because his pure heart was sensitive to the many things that he found "grievous".

Yes, the spirit of a pure hearted person can be grieved about all the WRONG THINGS of this world whether they are 'EVIL EVIL destuctive' (like war, etc., disgusting and repulsive) or that simply prevent peace and harmony 'happiness' (such as the ridicule of others, etc.).

God favored Lot. God also made sure that the story about Lot ended up in scripture so that we could learn this example of what God really admires/wants ('wills' of us), but we should also realize that the book of Job was not about FAITH, it was a LOVE STORY (the ULTIMATE addition to the example of Lot).
---more_excellent_way on 7/14/11

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\\When David and his men lost their families to the enemy > 1 Samuel 30 > they "lifted up their voices and wept, until they had no more power to weep." And what did that do to get their families back?\\

God intended us to express our emotions. Since the fall, grief is one of them.

And as Queen Elizabeth so wisely said, grief is the price we pay for love.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 7/14/11

I say hogwash, but she's new to the faith. Correct her in love if you can. But take it with a grain of salt. She'll figure out soon enough that though God lives in us we still battle with flesh on a daily basis.
---katie on 7/14/11

Well, if I am down because I have been wrong and it has caught up with me, I need to not go on like that. But get right with God and do better, never mind if I should show it, get rid of it.

When David and his men lost their families to the enemy > 1 Samuel 30 > they "lifted up their voices and wept, until they had no more power to weep." And what did that do to get their families back?

Then David did what did work (c: He got strong with God and encouraged, then made sure with God about what to do.
---Bill_willa6989 on 7/14/11

hopelessness. no answer to life's questions and christianity will add more problems like lack of faith or sin with the hopelessness & unresolved problems. the people in the bible faced real issues that DID NOT or WERE NOT about chemical imbalances in the brain.
---mike on 7/14/11

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Scott, true. I'd add Elijah to the list. Compare 1 Kings 18 and 1Kings 19
---Christina on 7/14/11

Augie's brought up a good point.

As long as we live in this present world, we will live in change, and not all changes are pleasant.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 7/14/11

Just look at Job or David when his infant son died, or being chased by Saul. These great men of God had very big bouts of depression. But they remained true to God and followed him and remained in his hope.

Has far as looking bad to others. Christians need to be real and not just a happy clown face. non-christians can smell lies and hypocrites very well. Also having a clown face when depressed just comes off as arrogant.
---Scott on 7/14/11

Anyone who has been through a divorce will suffer through hard times. I know firsthand because I'm divorced.

Spouses can forgive each other for what they did wrong. Children can forgive their parents for splitting. Yet, some degree of hurt remains. As with other sins, GOD forgives us, but we live with the results.

One of those results is depression. Even among christians. Laws often make tough situations worse. Divorce is one of those. If not one thing, the legal system goes for another.

Studies have shown that children of divorced parents suffer depression a lot too.
---Augie on 7/14/11

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Pt 2:

3. Clinical depression--this is a PHYSICAL disease in itself and is usually amenable to proper medication.

Reactive depression usually goes away with time and support. Medical depression usually disappears with proper treatment of the underlying cause. Clinical depression needs to be treated in and of itself.

Your newbie friend's idea is right out of the pits of hell. It is a lie that has kept God's innocent children in bondage.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 7/13/11

Jesus wept. Does that look bad?

I went to church tonight feeling depressed, spent 2 hours in worship,depression is gone.
God inhabits the praises of His people and in His presence is fullness of joy.

God refreshes.

Psalm 46:4"There is a river whose streams shall make glad the city of God,"
---christina on 7/13/11

I would tell them we are all human and still subject to many physical or emotional ups and downs. God gave us one another to pray and lift the other up in prayer and by using Bible verses to comfort them. To deny ones feelings and put on a big front as if nothing is wrong is so foolish. God knows what we are going through and we are told in his Word pray for one another and so fulfill the law of love. I would tell her others do love her and care about her well being,then I would ask if I could pray with her.
---Darlene_1 on 7/13/11

i have read stories like that. just because they are sad they are accused of lack of faith or sin. where is the compassion & understanding.
---mike on 7/13/11

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To a pure heart, this world is 'not all it's cracked up to be' (with all it's corruption, hatred/resentment, deception/trickery, etc.). Yes, to a pure heart, this world will be uncomfortable and depressing (that person will become POOR OF "SPIRIT" because all of those things are "grievous" to them).

Ecclesiastes 2:17 "because what is done under the sun was grievous to me".

Matthew 5:3
"Blessed are the poor in spirit for theirs is the kingdom...".....WITHIN.

Jesus began the 'AGE OF ETERNITY'. The person with a pure heart need only await the afterlife "city of God" heaven,...."heaven" STARTS on earth inside the hearts and minds of those with a pure heart.
---more_excellent_way on 7/13/11

Pt. 1.

Your friend is exactly why the Bible says that teaching and church leadership should NOT be entrusted to a new believer. "Not a novice, lest being puffed up, he fall into the condemnation of the devil."

Jesus Christ Himself said, "My soul is exceedingly sorrowful, even unto death." That doesn't sound like He was up on the mount of feel good, does it?

As I've said elsewhere, there are generally three kinds of depression.

1. Reactive depression--what you feel when something depressing has happened, such as loss of a spouse, a job, et al.

2. Medical depression--some physical conditions have depression as a side symptom, such as diabetes or PPD.
---Cluny on 7/13/11

Christian's are human & deal with the worlds crappy stuff like everyone else, so yes, there will be bad days. & there are hormone issues that cause sadness & depression. Don't think that Christian's are immune to the world's problems. As long as we're human we'll be exposed to problems.
---Reba on 7/13/11

when jesus looked over jerusalem, he did cartwheels.

just give her a few weeks.
---aka on 7/13/11

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