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Husband Seeing Old Girlfriend

My husband wants a divorce because he has gotten back together with a woman he was with when he was 18 and she was 15. They hadn't seen each other in 20 years. She looked for him and found him and she divorced her husband to be with him. Do I just let it be and grant divorce even though I still love him?

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 ---Kim on 7/21/11
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Do your best to help your husband overcome this temptation. I can compare what is happening to him to Mother Eve looking at the forbidden-fruit. Do not grant him divorce against your wish unless you are convinced he can no longer come back to you.
---Adetunji on 7/25/11

what if the husband contacts his ex-girlfriend through e-mail. Does that count as cheating in God's terms? Would it be counted as lusting through his heart/flesh? Can you divorce him, then?
---Betty on 7/23/11

You may have grounds for divorce, according to the Bible, but I'd suggest you take a "wait and see attitude". They are probably both thinking of how it may have been when they were 18 & 15 without factoring in the bad moments or how things are now. It reads like she had a bad marriage, and thinks that things are going to like they were in the, "ol' days" if she marries him. If the opportunity presents it self, have have him write down all the reasons he married you. This may wake him up to reality.
---wivv on 7/22/11

Yes, grant him a divorce. Don't be a fool for him. He has abandoned you and committed adultery so you are in your rights to divorce.

I am sure that God understands your pain and there will be a man out there for you whom you can trust and who would not betray you like this.

I would consider it your husband's loss and chances are his old flame relationship won't last anyways so too bad for him.

He should have appreciated what he had and now he lost it.
---poopsey on 7/23/11

I would stick up for the marriage, however if he is unwilling to work it out it is in his error & I would divorce him though it would be hard to do because he is already commiting adultry in his heart.
---Cadice on 7/22/11

are they simply living the excitement of what once was? ...or self-absorbed people destroying relationships around them pursuing whatever gratifies their lusts

Paul is correct your husband exercising his free will and to stand in the way demanding he respect his marriage, family, his vows, and his wife (YOU) and himself would all be in vain

despite all of that I would NOT just grant him a divorce ...demand counseling ...if he refuses than you will understand your marriage was hollow and empty the worst deception wishes to finding peace and restoring your life
---Rhonda on 7/22/11


You have no choice, he is exercising his free will.

For those who believe God is the architect of everything, you think this is God's will?

And that this is how He does things.

Id say he was drawn away and enticed of his own lust or will.

---paul on 7/21/11

Matthew 19:6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together,let not man put asunder.

1 Corinthians 7:10 And to the married I command,yet not I,but the Lord, let not the wife depart from her husband:

1 Corinthians 7:11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconcilied to her husband:and let not the husband put away his wife.
---RICHARDC on 7/21/11

kim...This happened with a friend of ours. His wife hooked up with her "first love" at a class reunion. We began praying for the marriage to be restored and it was. It took a couple of years before it happened. Just leave this to the Lord. See what the Lord will do!
---KarenD on 7/21/11

You should make it clear to him that if he does that, his actions are not Christian.

If he accepts that, then let him go
---peter on 7/21/11

I'm sure they will be as true to each other as they were to the spouses they left.

Tell your husband that.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 7/21/11

Kim, my heart breaks for you, that must be so hurtful and I'm so very sorry. What an erratic thing to do, find an old flame and go hunting him down even though he's married and then she divorces her husband assuming they'll be together? Both of them need around the clock prayer.

As for you Kim, I would say seek the Lord on this. Ask Father God, "Lord what should I do?" I would go to a marriage counsellor if I were you and work this out with her. This is going to be a very painful process for you to go through and you shouldn't have to go through it me here at Donna5535 and then I'll give you my home email address. We can talk away from this site. (((hugggss)))))
---Donna5535 on 7/21/11

Your husband has already made up his mind and you are likely not to change it. You need to get a good attorney to get the best settlement possible you did not say if you have any children or not if you do custody, visitation, child support well be among your issues. Other considerations are you in a community property state, did you have a prenuptial agreement Regrettably there is little scripture that is going to help you in a legal brick fight.
---Blogger9211 on 7/21/11

Kim, **do I just let it be and grant divorce?**
It looks like it's out of your hands, and you are not a factor in this situation!
Unfortunately this is happening all too often,the die is cast before you become aware!
---1st_cliff on 7/21/11

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