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Am I Christian Living Like This

My 5 year old's father, who I lived with for 14 years died suddenly, only 41. We were never married but I feel like I was his wife. I am so sad and I think about him all day long. I am not sure he was a true believer and this is killing me inside because I want us to see him again in Heaven some day.

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Shira4368 Bless the Lord - Be in touch. I am so,cold, we have had warm weather, yet I am cold. I am going get on my coat.. it' kind of funny my greatgrand mother was like that in the hot summer she all wrap up like it' cold.
Smiles, good to see you alright.

Thankyou again for being so kind to me. Love of Jesus!
---Lidia4796 on 3/11/14

Lidia, you are so welcome. Let me know when you move. You can message me at shira4368. Is it possible on CN to use someone else's pin name like shira4368?
---shira4368 on 3/11/14

Thankyou,Shira4368, good hearing from you.I am going thru alot here with my neighbor who is on drugs.
I feel bad for people,on any type of drugs.. pray that God be my protection. I am not afraid just frustrated. I am going to see my therapist,tomorrow. Thank God.
This crack cocaine,meth..all the rest is destroying peoples lives. God help these people.
My neighbors don't want me to move but,I am tired of it all.
I don't have any family here, really I know how unpredictable drug addicts are..
I have some appts. Urgent coming up, someone helping me get to appts. I can't move right away..
But, pray for me..
I am really depressed about all this.
Love of Jesus! Lidia4796
---Lidia4796 on 3/11/14

Lidia, I am happy you are getting help. trust God also because God works thru people. Take advantage of the help. You are in my prayers sis.
---shira4368 on 3/9/14

For Sis.Rita, kept waiting,yes, I am very glad.I have begun going to.a mental health clinic, they have their own a commadations for anyone participating & in good standing the clinic. They have special housing for anyone and have a special team that works with clients with Bipolar.

There are other people there elderly and with chronic diseases just like myself. I thank the Lord,because I am really not sleeping well.
Thankyou,very much Sis.Rita
May the Lord help strengthen and
Keep you.
Love of Jesus!
---Lidia4796 on 3/9/14

Lidia, I thank you so much for your love and care for me in posting your latest words. "A bridge over troubled water" is a very apt way of saying what I am at this particular time.

How wonderful it is that God knows our every need and that He sees the end before he beginning so He knows what the outcome of everyone's problems will be.

He knows all about yours also and cares for you. I pray that more help will come your way regarding your health and financial needs at this time. I feel sure that this will happen because God loves His children and wants only the best for them and that includes you Lidia.
---Rita_H on 2/23/14

Mod.Permit - thanks! Prayer for CNT FatherGod, You are the closest one to every christian heart... we love you & It'you we come to lay all our needs, daily, hourly at your feet. I ask blessing upon Darlene1 help her cut bk on sodium intake,stablize her body,

help RitaH. Be her help thru all she has to do,be her bridge o'er troubled water,
Shira4368 be her cup living water' be her protection,

For Mary & her husband be their bread of life,keep them together as God intended.

For Trish & her family keep them together uphold them in this hour as never before, Only you Lord know their needs.

For Lidia - keep me in prayer, uphold peace CNT we be a light in the mist BE LIGHT of Jesus to a dying world.
---Lidia4796 on 2/22/14

Kimm_Symens, don't be concerned with where your deceased beloved is at right now, for he has lived his life. But be concerned with living your life and the life of the father's 5 year old, you both should make sure that you are saved and born-again Christians. Then you will have peace that you are doing the right thing by living daily with and for the Lord Jesus.
---Eloy on 4/19/12

Eloy...You have a problem when anyone points out an error on your part, don't you? What Kimm and many others need to understand is that they don't need to get saved so they can see their loved ones in Heaven (if they are there at all). What they need is to accept Jesus Christ as Savior because HE IS REAL!!!!
---KarenD on 4/19/12

KarenD, Whether the deceased father had a 5 year old son or 5 year old daughter is not the subject of the blog, but the subject of the blog is the woman's grief and her not knowing whether the man was a true believer or not because she wants to join him some day in heaven.
---Eloy on 4/18/12

ISAIAH 65:17 For, behold: I create new heavens and a new earth: and the former shall not be remember, nor come into mind.

ECCLESIASTES 2:16 For there is no remembrance of the wise more of the fool for ever: Seeing that which now is in days to come shall all be forgotten. And how dieth the wise man? as the fool.
---RICHARDC on 4/18/12

Eloy, I agree, for it is written!
By their fruits ye shall know them.

He came to it, and found nothing thereon, but leaves only, and said unto it.
Let no fruit grow on thee henceforward forever. And presently the fig tree withered away.

After all!
Every tree that bringeth not forth good fruit is hewn down, and cast into the fire.

But, he said, if ye have faith, and doubt not!
Not only do this which is done to the fig tree!

But also, if ye shall say unto this mountain!
Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea.
It shall be done!

Kimm, believe this!
And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive.
Keep the faith!
---TheSeg on 4/18/12

Eloy...Isn't it funny how we assume so much? She didn't mention if the child is a boy or girl. I do agree that we should be able to know by a person's fruit if they are saved.
---KarenD on 4/18/12

Seg, My words should not leave you speechless. I truly want to know why Kimm whom was living intimately with her son's father and whom feels like she was his wife, would not know whether or not he was saved. You can know whether or not a person is saved and has Jesus in their life by the fruits that they bear.
---Eloy on 4/18/12

Why are you not sure?
Eloy on 4/17/12

You know Eloy, sometimes you say things, that leave me speechless.
I would think a good answer would be what Trish said.
There is no way to know for sure your partner's spiritual status at the time of his death!
Accept for the, if you are His child!

Trish, forgive me, but I started laughing when I read that last part.
But only because, I cant see someone who is not a child of God, asking.
Someone who believes they are not of God wouldnt ask.
They would know, for sure!

Things like this, reminds me of peter.
When, he asks Christ to go out on the water.
Christ said bring it!
Now Im laughing again.
---TheSeg on 4/18/12

Hi Kim,

I am so sorry for your loss, however you do not state whether either of you are "Born Again".

As Karen D stated you are now unable to do anything about his spiritual status - but you (and your child) still have a life to live and be right with the Lord. Please find a godly friend or local church and make your peace with the Lord and with yourself.

Even though you are feeling sad - let me reassure you that Jesus loves you.

May you find Jesus and peace - Amen
---The_Believer on 4/18/12

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Kimm...I am sorry for your loss. However, it is too late to think about his spiritual status. It is time to think about your own and your child's future. Feeling like you are someone's wife does not make it happen if you were not married. The Bible also says there will be no marriage in Heaven. It is time for you to get yourself in a good church which preaches the Bible. You need that right now.
---KarenD on 4/17/12

A few questions:

1. What do you mean by "true believer"?

2. What makes you think your common-law husband was NOT "a true believer"?

3. What make you think that YOU ARE a "true believer"?

Maybe if we got these questions answered first, we could deal with your real issues.

Christ is risen!
---Cluny on 4/17/12

Kim, as Trish said, I too am so sorry for your loss. It always hurts when we lose a love one. But there is no way you can know who is going to heaven and who is not. You can only make your own salvation sure. Not anyone else's. No one knows what the other person goes through and if they ever made a true committment to God or not. They could be dying and making a true committment to God without anyone knowing. When we stand before God we answer for our own actions. We all think about our loves ones for a long time. It never goes away. The pain decreases in time, but the loss is still in our minds. Thank God he was put in your life, and that you are still here able to work for the Lord. Make Him the Lord of your everyday life.
---Mark_V. on 4/17/12

Hello,Sister may the Lord be your help this difficult time,my sincere thoughts 'n prayers go out for you! Trish is a wonderfull friend here onChristiaNet God bless you Trish!thankyou for give her such kind advice...this is ELENAComfort yourself with these verses & do keep 'n mind like Trish says find a good church,don't stay away God loves you 'n we here do, too! Jn14:1Let not your heart be troubled:ye believe in God,believe also in me.vs.6Jesus saith unto him,I am the way,the truth,and the life:no man cometh unto the father,but by me.
---ELENA on 4/17/12

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Why are you not sure?
---Eloy on 4/17/12

I am sorry for your loss. In some states you would be considered married by common law, but not all.

You do need to get involved in a good Christian church to help you raise your child to know Jesus.

There is no way to know for sure your partner's spiritual status at the time of his death, so try to comfort yourself in the knowledge that the Lord is with you, if you are His child.
---Trish on 4/16/12

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