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Marry Your Own Age

Is it good to marry someone your own age?

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MarkV, I also agree it is better for a woman to marry an older man if there is to be an age difference. But not because of the maturity thing. Like I said, the thing you hear about girls maturing faster than boys only applies to physical maturity, not mental maturity, and only during pre-adulthood. Somewhere, some people twisted it to mean that girls are mentally more mature than boys, and that's just a myth. My resoning for women marying older men is the difference in men and women's needs and preferences. Most women prioritize security in a man over youthful physical appeal, whereas men hold youth and sexual appeal at high importance in a woman. This would make for a better combination.
---Jed on 6/9/12

Jeb, it was only my opinion, and I did not say it was the same for every girl. I am not giving statistics. Just what I have seen with my own eyes. Of course there is some girls who don't mature faster, there is all kinds of girls. And all kinds of guys. I could give twenty cases for and you could give 100 against. I still believe it is better for a girl to marry someone older. That is my opinion.
---Mark_V. on 6/9/12

I think what bothered me the most was that atheist or agnostics had a lower divorce rate then Protestants.

From a statically inference stand point, I wish the Brama Group sample size was considerably larger closer to 50,000 but also realize involved interview sampling cost time and money. I would also like to know more about the geographic of the sampling was the sampling face to face interview or telephonically conducted and how interview members were selected.
---Blogger9211 on 6/9/12

Girls mature faster than boys, PHYSICALLY, not neccisarity mentally. And that is only the case through childhood and adolescence. Once boys and girls have completed puberty, they are pretty much on the same level. During puberty, the physical changes can have some affect upon the mental maturity so girls can be slighly more mature then boys during that brief time. But toward the end of puberty, boys quickly catch up. So it is really not true that a 20 year old woman would be more mature than a 20 year old man, neither physically nor mentally. Mental maturity depends mostly upon your upbringing and life experiences and the consequences you have been allowed to experience.
---Jed on 6/8/12


You said: Woman mature faster then man. If they are both twenty, the woman is way further then the guy.

While this may be a valid statistical observation, it is not true in every case. I have know some 14-year-old boys who had the maturity of people in their 20s, and I have also known women in their 30s and 40s who behaved like spoiled 8-year-old children. You always need to take the individual into consideration.
---StrongAxe on 6/8/12

ODE, I will put my two cents here, only my opinion. Woman mature faster then man. If they are both twenty, the woman is way further then the guy. So I believe a woman should marry someone older then her if she wants to have a family and someone who is mature then a young man. Of course this does not always work, but it would be a more stable marriage if the guy was older. Now how much older that all depends. Maybe five years or so. Not more then ten. When my daughter was going out with guys her own age, they didn't want to settle down, and have a family. Woman are more ready to settle down then guys the same age.
---Mark_V. on 6/7/12


Still, isn't it somewhat distressing that, no matter which statistics you look at, MORE than 1 in 4 marriages end in divorce - EVEN among groups like evangelicals and Catholics who, themselves, TOTALLY forbid divorce?
---StrongAxe on 6/6/12

Stoneaze, the 50% divorce statistic is a US Department of Commerce figure it has been consistent for more than 25 years with a plus or minus variance of less than one percent it use a very large sample size but presents no stratified demographic information.

The Barna Group uses a much smaller sample size but the survey was specifically designed to collect and analyze divorce demographics and provides more meaningful stratified information.

The was another divorce study of Jewish and Christians conducted in the late 1990s the resulting demographics parallel the Brana results were about 8 to 12 percent higher and I don't remember a sample size being presented in that study.
---Blogger9211 on 6/5/12

I think willie c: said it plainly and accurately.
---Jed on 6/5/12

I think regardless of age,one thing that is important is compatibility.I have heard many say,marry your bestfriend :))
---mj on 6/3/12

It is good to not be unequally yoked to the person you marry, regardless of age.
---Leon on 6/3/12

Divorce Rates:
Barna Group Sampling of 3792 Adults in 2008 who have been married.
Number following percentage represents interview segment.

All Adults 33% 3792

Evangelical Christians 26% 339
Non-evangelical born again Christians 33% 1373
Notional Christians 33% 1488
Associated with non Christian faith 38% 197
Atheist or agnostic 30% 269
All born again Christians 32% 1712
All non born again Christians 33% 2080

Protestant 34% 1997
Catholic 28% 875

Upscale 22% 450
Downscale 39% 367

White 32% 2641
African-American 36% 464
Hispanic 31% 458
Asian 20% 128

Conservative 28% 1343
Moderate 33% 1720
Liberal 37% 474
---Blogger9211 on 6/3/12


You said: Plus or minus three years is reasonable but you still have a 50% probability of the marriage failing which is not going to change.

Perhaps you misunderstand how statistics work. Half of random marriages fail, but that is not generally true for any specific marriage.

A random person has a 50% chance of being male, and 50% of being female. However, any specific person has a 100% chance of being male, or a 100% chance of being female, and 0% of being half of each. Similarly, each specific marriage's chances of success depends on people involved and other circumstances. (e.g. among all the friends I grew up with, NONE of their parents' marriages ended in divorce.)
---StrongAxe on 6/3/12

It can be good. But most important can be to be the same spiritual age.

But if you are attracted to someone twenty or thirty years older than you, do you so appreciate that person that you are looking forward to changing his or her bedpan for about five or ten years? If you are with God in your age-different marriage, you will not have much second thought about this possibility, I'm considering.

But a young person can marry someone older in order to get some thing that may matter more than the older spouse. And an older person can have lust problems, instead of being satisfied first by God's love. This would not be appropriate.
---willie_c: on 6/2/12

That's like asking if it's good to eat. It's not a yes or no question.

I would not recommend too big a difference of ages, but yet I've also heard of May/December marriages that have been exemplary.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 6/2/12

Plus or minus three years is reasonable but you still have a 50% probability of the marriage failing which is not going to change.
---Blogger9211 on 6/2/12

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