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I'm fifteen and was 20 minutes late after curfew. My mom told me she would use my Dad's belt on my bare bottom for each minute late. She made me bare my bottom lean over the sofa and whipped me twenty times leaving red welts. Is this abuse? She told me before what would happen if I chose to disobey.

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Family, been praying about this blogg, whem I was little 3 or 4 my mom whoop me without clothes! Yes in front of all the other kids. Never did that to Nobody but, me.At about 10 yrs.old she threw me out my own home.She jealous over her tgen boyfriend. It got bad you can imagine, I went . The doctors said she was ill mentally. Love of JESUS!
---ELENA on 12/8/12

It's assault and battery: I guess there is different laws for different folks. Some are absolutely above the law. SURE GLAD THERE IS A GOD. Hallelujah....AH JESUS+++
---pat on 11/5/12

Rita is right it is abuse - anyone who says otherwise doesn't know abuse and sure doesn't know Jesus. Condoning violence is irresponsible, immature and praying for justification just doesn't wash. If you were my child I would have taken twenty minutes off your next outing - it worked for my kids - I would rather you came home twenty minutes late safe and well than be too scared to face me and explain why you couldn't get home on time. You are on loan to your parents you are not their property - remember always you are God's child, and God's alone. Be blessed.
---tyza on 11/4/12

Had this happened in the U.K. your mother would be looking at a prison sentence now I believe.

Such treatment is physical abuse and is probably psychological abuse.

Such punishment is wrong for anyone and for someone your age it is self defeating. You have probably lost all respect for your mother now and will be one of those young women leaving home at the first opportunity.

You don't say if you reported this to anyone but your headmistress or senior mistress might be a good start and take it from there. Your mother needs anger management classes at the very least.
---Rita_H on 10/18/12

yes it is abuse. Call the police and report your mother. It is also sexual molestation. The purpose of spankings are to snap a child out of temper tantrum they are done as a corrective measure on toddlers and they are quick and swift a few swats. 20 beatings is not quick or swift your mother had to have a significant amount of rage to perform this heinous crime. Your mother needs counseling for her rage. It is hidden rage because she takes her pent up anger out on you for small infractions.
---Follower_of_Christ on 8/18/12

Consider two things:
1. Had your mother right to spank you? In this case yes, because curfew is something important , you can't be late at home. (I dont know what kind of curfew it is)
2. Could she do it bare bottom?
Yes, she is a woman and you Katie also. She did it in way not to do you any sexual harm.
Your father can not spank you this wayy, but you mother can.
---Andy on 8/17/12

Boy do I ever agree with Cluny! Besides, maybe the girl didn't mean to be late getting home, maybe she did but Cluny is sooo right on this!
---Mary on 7/9/12

\\When a mother has cleaned, looked after, faced difficult times, worked hard, provided for her children. How in Jesus name do you equate a whooping to abuse????

Perhaps all who suggested that.. need to go see a minister for serious prayer, when did she say she felt sexual abuse was committed.\\

You mean you don't think that twenty blows with a belt to the naked buttocks of a mature female is sexual abuse?

YOU are the one who needs counselling.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 7/8/12

Jed, this is a serious matter, and you have brought out a major point. Thank you. Part of bringing on maturity is respect and honor to the young one, even in disobedience. Has our Father done anything less for us? Mercy triumphs over judgment, and grace is more than just a word, it is the power of God.
---Phil on 7/8/12

As far as I have read this kid got s whooping and to be quite frank being whooped on a bare butt, was not an issue.

CLEAN UP UR MINDS good gracious me!

When a mother has cleaned, looked after, faced difficult times, worked hard, provided for her children. How in Jesus name do you equate a whooping to abuse????

Perhaps all who suggested that.. need to go see a minister for serious prayer, when did she say she felt sexual abuse was committed.

---Carla on 7/8/12

It isn't so much the spanking that made this so action so terrible for me. It was the fact that this 15 year old girl was made to pull down her pants in front of her parents. A 15 year old female is a fully mature woman physically and her nakedness is a matter of privacy at that age. No teenager should be naked in front of their parents. That's way too old and there needs to be boundaries for both the parents and teenagers.
---Jed on 7/7/12

My sixteen year old seems to think it isn't abuse, consequences being known ahead of time. I find it unusual and question how a fear tactic will produce maturity at 15. I do not see the love and nurture in it. There are other ways to chasten an older child besides corporal punishment, ways that bring on maturity without inflicting pain. Is it effective? Do you still feel loved after that? That's what matters.
---Phil on 7/7/12

Mark, you are always very gracious to me and I appreciate our friendship on here. I am extremely glad to hear about your son, that is a blessing that any Christian parent could give thanks for. Susan Wesley mother of the Wesley brothers, mother of 19. Said she had two rules that her children knew by age two, fear the rod and cry softly. If you check the contributions of her children throughout history, they are amazing. I have children in my family who need only firm words, and others who need more sometimes, but every form of discipline needs to be done in love regardless of the form.
In His grip
---Poppa_Bear on 7/7/12

Poppa Bear, I am happy you are back, you give great advice. I am not very good at answering personal questions, but I try sometimes.
I had four children, three sons and one daughter. I never had to spank them, I kept things in order with my voice. It meant power to them. I used a lot of psychology. Praise God I didn't have any trouble with my children. My only grandson just finished the Westminster seminary in Escondido Ca. and is now pastoring in Spain, and will be home to get married in August. I'm so proud of him. He has taught my wife and I so much, in the very little time we have with him. Peace brother
---Mark_V. on 7/7/12

Thanks Mark, I cant justify this parent, but I can say this as a father of 6. It is very easy to become extremely over protective and controlling with your children when you look around at the world and see all of the traps and dangerous ideas and opportunities that are waiting to take a hold of our children like a shark and devour their lives, dreams, minds and futures on a daily bases. Also, many are basing their discipline on the way they were raised, and many are trying to raise a child while having so many personal demons that they havent even dealt with. Many times their personal battle is taken out on the child and they pass a vicious cycle on in ignorance.
---Poppa_Bear on 7/6/12

Poppa Bear, that's great advice. It's best not to rebell, confront the parent, let them know how you feel. In my case, I told mom I would not let her hit me again like that, she told me, that as long as I live there, she was in control. I threathen to leave, and she told me go ahead, but you will be back, and nothing will change. I did come back as she said. And I submitted. She was both mother and father to me and she was in control. She showed me who was running the house. Sorry to say she did not listen to me. I still believe mom did what she thought was right at the moment. Years later she said she never harmed me. Yes, sure I said. I really miss her so much. She's been gone 14 years. She worked so hard, and I was rebellous as a young man.
---Mark_V. on 7/6/12

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Katie, you have a couple choices to make here, 1, you need to decide what kind of daughter you want to be to your parents and think about your responsibilities as a 15 year old young lady. Also, you need to communicate with your parents about this and tell them what you think so they know that you feel what your mom did was violating to you. Try to let her know that you felt it was beyond punishment, and it was degrading and abusive. See where your mom stands after she hears your thoughts, dont try to make her feel guilty, just tell her how you felt about it and let her know if you are genuinely sorry for disobeying her and take the next step from there.
---Poppa_Bear on 7/5/12

It is surprizing to me to see how many people here actually see nothing at all wrong with child abuse and the threat of violence to do bodily harm, and actually committing assault and battery upon their child. The woman needs to be arrested, the child needs to be removed from that environment for safety, and the woman needs psychological therapy to learn acceptable parenting and child-raising skills, anger management, and/or treatment for substance abuse if this is a contributing factor for her breaking law.
---Eloy on 7/5/12

One lick for every minute does sound a bit harsh and you are at a borderline age for bare-bottom spanking (because it can be considered degrading in a way) but this is not criminal. Welts? Abuse? No! Bleeding or bruised? That is a different story!

Jed, there's a difference between private parts and SEXUAL parts. Your underarms are private! Do you go around showing them to everone? NO. Your butt (like your underarms) while private, is not SEXUAL! It was never intended to be that way by God.That is unnatural and UNCLEAN! Maybe you should really think about who is the true pervert here if you consider the butt a sexual organ.
---CraigA on 7/4/12

"...She made me bare my bottom..."-Katie_King on 6/30/12
"...Stripping a teenage girl naked and exposing her private parts and appying pain to that area..."-Jed on 7/4/12
I think it is you, Jed, that are perverting the details of this event to justify condemning someone else.
There is an obvious distinction here of what is abuse as you elaborate on its details and what happened according to the account above.
It seems quite wrong to sensationalize things just to get your point across.
Maybe you should reconsider, at least, the way you are going about presenting your arguement.
---micha9344 on 7/4/12

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CraigA, you can defend it all you want. Stripping a teenage girl naked and exposing her private parts and appying pain to that area is sexual abuse. End of story. The fact that you're trying to justify this behavior proves the extent of your perversion. And you trying to use the Bible to justify sexual assult is disgusting and blasphemous. I hope parents don't let their kids within your sight for a second! You need to seek professional help if you think this is acceptable behavior for a grown adult to take a teenagers pants of and beat them.
---Jed on 7/4/12

Eloy: I caught you in a sin. You added a word in your quote of Matthew 7:12: " So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets." I checked about 7 different versions of this verse, the Golden Rule, and NONE of them have the word "exactly." Scripture says that we are not to add to the Word. You just sinned. You are not perfect. So........,

Eloy, you need to repent of your sins, confess them to the Lord, and be born again. Until you are born again, you will continue to post blasphemy.

---Trish on 7/4/12

Steveng, your blasphemy is boring.
---Eloy on 7/4/12

Katie, If what you said is true, I believe your mom was completely wrong. There is a way of disciplining children and teenagers. And no matter how hard a parent is with a child, it does not change what kind of person that child will become. You can have a perfect child and when they grow up, they can be monsters. No one knows but God. My mom whipped me with a clothes hanger. When I went to school, I had bruses all over my arms and legs. I believe she was wrong in what she did, but she did, what she thought at the moment was right. We don't have to do those things to anyone. Sometimes the parents lose their cool and go overboard. So I believe your mom was very wrong.
---Mark_V. on 7/4/12

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//Bible says it is better to tie a mill-stone around your neck and cast yourself into the sea than to harm a child//---Jed

I surely hope youre not talking about Luke 17:2.... thats not about little CHILDREN, its about the least or smallest people in the faith, meaning their spiritual growth!

//Verses with "rod" don't count//---Cluny

Of course Proverbs 23:13,14 doesnt "count"! Because it proves you wrong! Noted that I can only use scripture in the future that doesnt prove you wrong.

The Bible also doesn't give directions for taking away the video game system or making them face the corner either. Is it child abandonment or neglect when make your child go to their room? This is just ridiculous
---CraigA on 7/4/12

It seems some people get a perverse thrill from labelling others as perverts.
---Catholicus on 7/3/12

True, this girl may have chosen to disobey but that in no way excuses her mother's vicious cruelty.
---Mary on 7/3/12

Craig, please give ONE VERSE from the Bible that approves of a parent beating the bare bottom of a 15 year old female (who in Bible times would have been married off) with a belt or other leather strap.

Verses with "rod" don't count.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 7/3/12

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Eloy: "The Golden Rule is: Do and say to others exactly that that you want others to do and say to you. Parent, do you want your pants pulled down and to be belted 20 times leaving welts? "

Wow, talking about twisting scripture.
---Steveng on 7/3/12

CraigA, you're not a pervert because you correct your children. You're a pervert for defending an action of sexual abuse on a teenage girl. I'm glad to hear that you don't pull your kids' pants down when you spank them. But endorsing someone who does makes you a pervert for thinking it is okay. God's guidlines say nothing about exposing your child's private parts and beating them with a belt. How dare you for suggesting God would have you do that. The bible says it is better to tie a mill-stone around your neck and cast yourself into the sea than to harm a child. So I don't think God endorses child abuse when he says you should kill yourself rather than hurt a child.
---Jed on 7/3/12

\\Yeah great. I'm now a "pervert" because I correct my children. Are you sure you're bringing "glory to Jesus Christ" by calling those who follow Gods guidelines perverts? \\

These are NOT God's guidelines, and you give no glory by your perversions.

Quit trying to justify them.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 7/3/12

blogger8770, Whether the adult forewarned the child of the crime or not, it is still a crime. If any person says for every minute you are late I will beat your bare bottom, that is a threat to do bodily harm, and the child should have picked should have called the police at that time. Then the parent would have been arrested. When a person is threatened with bodily harm that is illegal and the law does not have to wait until the actual act takes place before they arrest the person. So if her transportation got a flat tire and she had to walk home and was over an hour late, the adult thinks they can beat the child over 60 times? The mother needs arrested and needs to stand trial and go to child abuse therapy before having access to any children.
---Eloy on 7/3/12

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The only reason I agree with the discipline *in this case* is because she was warned ahead of time. She knew, by her own admission,the manner of correction if she were late. What we do not know here is if this was the first offense or if there had been several. When i was that age, getting to go anywhere without my parents was a privilege that held responsibilities on my part. Irresponsibility was my loss, not my parent's pleasure.
---blogger8770 on 7/3/12

CraigA....Would you make your daughter pull her pants down and beat her with a belt 20 times? Would you???? I didn't think so.
---KarenD on 7/3/12

Yeah great. I'm now a "pervert" because I correct my children. Are you sure you're bringing "glory to Jesus Christ" by calling those who follow Gods guidelines perverts?

Its amazing how quickly people here hurl false claims when someone disagrees with them. Only a handful of people here show the love of God and from what Ive seen of your posts, Cluny, you certainly are not one of them.

Ive spanked each of my children 3 times in their life, each time with clothes on. Neither or them is terrified of me and they completely trust me.

The accuser of the brethren...
I just lost a lot of respect for you.
---CraigA on 7/3/12

There were better ways of punishing you, and while I agree with a stiff sharp Clap now and again where ever the clap reaches on ur flesh.. apart from face or head, Your mother is your mother and out of this instead of looking for a reason to go argue or fight ova what happened..

Look at life this way, underneath everything, life is so down right hard and a difficult place to be right now and as a parent correction is what is lacking in most children lives.

So give [GOD] thanks your not on the streets and YOU KNOW What don't come home late again that's all...

Forget the Creflo Dollar Scenario LOL
---Carla on 7/3/12

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Cluny, I agree about the cycle thing. Although I believe the cycle can be broken, though it is rare. I was abused in this manner as a child and now I have grown up to despise my abusers and I would never do this to my children.

CraigA, This goes far beyond just a few swats to the rear end with a paddle. When the pants and underwear are taken off it does become sexual. And when a belt is used with 20 Whippings, it is abuse. Were you stripped naked when you were beaten? If so, I feel very sorry for you. If not, then your beatings were on a totally different level. Not that yours were acceptable either. But exposing your child's nakedness to inflict pain and humiliation is a totally different level than a spanking with clothes on.
---Jed on 7/3/12

CraigA, you've been turned into a prevert and are just looking for a chance to do unto others as you've been done unto.

That's why physical and sexual abuse of children is cyclical: those who were abused as children will abuse their own later.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 7/3/12

I was spanked at age 14 with a belt in a similar manner. I do not feel sexually abused. I knew it was to correct me, not so my dad could get his kicks from touching my behind with a belt. The belt simply hurts worse with the pants down. THAT is the purpose of pulling them down. If ANYTHING is sick, its thinking that when your parents spank you they somehow get sexually aroused by it. That is a delusion from the devil!

I'm thankful that my dad had enough guts and love for me to do what was necessary to keep me in line! I praise God for him all the time!

As is typical with children... they tend to exaggerate juuuuuust a little bit. Maybe its not fair to judge the parent without hearing THEIR side also.
---CraigA on 7/2/12

The Golden Rule is: Do and say to others exactly that that you want others to do and say to you. Parent, do you want your pants pulled down and to be belted 20 times leaving welts? The measure that you give, will be the measure that you get. If you want respect, Give it: but if you want abuse, as you have given, then you will get abuse. I wish to God that I was there to recue you teenager, and to make a citizens arrest aginst your mom. Your mother needs to be arrested for assault and battery. If you give me your address, I can send you some help.
---Eloy on 7/2/12

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Consider this, Craig:

Blows to the naked buttocks would be considered cruel and unusual punishment

Nah.. that would be the punch to the face that Eloy is describing.
---CraigA on 7/3/12

CraigA, it's distrubing that people like you don't see the problem with making a 15 YEAR OLD GIRL STRIP HER PANTS OFF and then beating her with a belt 20 TIMES! You don't see the problem with that? You don't see what is sexually abusive about humiliating a teenage girl by exposing her nakedness to inflict pain? You're sick man!
---Jed on 7/2/12

Pro 29:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left [to himself] bringeth his mother to shame.
Pro 26:3 A whip for the horse, a bridle for the ass, and a rod for the fool's back.
Pro 22:15 Foolishness [is] bound in the heart of a child, [but] the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.
Pro 13:24 He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.
Pro 10:13 In the lips of him that hath understanding wisdom is found: but a rod [is] for the back of him that is void of understanding.
Pro 19:18 Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.
Rev 3:19 As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent.
Heb 12
---micha9344 on 7/2/12

Consider this, Craig:

Blows to the naked buttocks would be considered cruel and unusual punishment--and therefore unconstitutional--if imposed by a lower criminal court.

Why should this be visited on a teen-ager who had committed NO crime by a parent?

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 7/2/12

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Spare the rod and spoil the child.

No, this phrase is not exactly the way it is written in the bible, but the implication is there. Jesus and the apostles paraphrased many sayings from the OT.

Only a demented mind would consider spanking a child who was disobedient as a sexual thing. Modern thinking has made it sexual. The bare bottom has worked for thousands of years andd only now it's sexual abuse?

If the "Rod" clearly means to set standards and limits, not to hit has not read the bible at all. Do an online KJV bible search for the words "rod" and "discipline".
---Steveng on 7/2/12

Craig, Children should not grow up afraid of their parents, that is a red flag that the child is being beaten. When I was an adult and went to visit my earthly father, he made a fist and was going to punch me in the face. At that time I was older, so I raised my hand to stop his fist and I grabbed hold of his fist and threw it back to him, and I scolded him sharply and said, I am not one of your little boys anymore, and if you want something to hit you're going to have to find somebody else. Disgusted and betrayed by him I got up and I left. Unfortunately he ended up drinking his life away into an early grave. No one deserves to be abused! physically, authoritatively, psychologically, sexually, or any other way. No one!
---Eloy on 7/2/12

CraigA...I was beaten often by my father and forced to pull my underwear down to my ankles. This exposed my privates and was very humilitiating as well as painful. Any woman or man who beats their child in such a manner is sick.
---KarenD on 7/2/12

\\You people are actually calling whooping a child butt sexual abuse?

Striking the BARE buttocks IS sexual.

How would you feel were it done to you? Are you saying this would not be sexual abuse in your case?

Then why is it not for a 15 year old girl?

You obviously are enjoying fantasizing about this scenario too much. You need help.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 7/2/12

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I cant believe my eyes here. You people are actually calling whooping a child butt sexual abuse?

Just what is SEXUAL about that!??

If she beat her on the back of the leg, would you call it an attempt to cripple her child?

If you dont want to spank your child, dont! But when they grow up spoiled rotten, having NO FEAR of the consequences of their actions, you will have noone to blame but yourself. Try telling that child about Gods comin wrath. They will laugh in your face!
---CraigA on 7/2/12

No doubt if someone else had forced this 15 year old girl to strip her pants off and spanked her, her parents would have called the police on them. And 20 times?! For crying out loud! Even if you fully support spanking, you cannot in your right mind justify 20 whippings on the bare skin! Absolutely nothing short of sexual abuse. I'm not totally against spanking. But making someone pull down their pants is sexual abuse.
---Jed on 7/2/12

Cluny, A-men. I was abused by my earthly father when growing up. I never called the police back then because he made me feel fearful and as though I deserved the abuse. Sometimes in the middle of the night I was dragged out of my bed and belted, and while on the floor he would stomp on me as though trying to kill and insect. Sometimes I would wear two pair of pants to try to protect myself, but his belting even went through that. I had to sit next to him at the table, and I never knew when his hand would come up and hit me, I would flinch every time he lifted his hand. The thing is, my gym teacher at school seen the welts and did not report it either. Back in the 60s and 70s it was not addressed as today.
---Eloy on 7/2/12

\\Does the Lord not chastise his own children? The father who doesnt chastise his own child, does not love his own child!
---CraigA on 7/2/12\\

What father sexually abuses his own child?

Such men are usually imprisoned.

Whipping a 15 year old with a belt on the bare buttocks is sexual abuse, and trying to justify it with misapplying Bible verses is blasphemy.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 7/2/12

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//To Craig: YES it is abuse!//

To Cluny: NO it's not abuse! However it might be considered abuse to someone who is already spoiled.

//NOWHERE does the Bible say "Spare the rod and spoil the child."//

Proverbs 23:13,14

Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.

Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell

Does the Lord not chastise his own children? The father who doesnt chastise his own child, does not love his own child!
---CraigA on 7/2/12

\\The Jews surely know...\\

You don't actually think it included sexual abuse, did you?

NOWHERE does the Bible say "Spare the rod and spoil the child."

It does say, "Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it from him."

But this does NOT mean to beat the child.

Psalm 23 doesn't say, "Thy rod and thy staff, they beat me."

Nor did Revelation tell John to take a rod and beat the Temple.

"Rod" clearly means to set standards and limits, not to hit.

Finally, in Bible times a 15 year old girl was a woman, and already married, if not at least betrothed.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 7/2/12

Steveng: No, we are not nuts. Beating a teenage girl on a bare bottom twenty times with a belt is child abuse. It is a crime. It needs to be reported for the child's protection.

You are twisting Scripture if you dare to try to say that this child's beating was Biblical discipline. That is a lie straight from Hell.

The question is are YOU a Christian and are YOU nuts?
---Trish on 7/2/12

\\To the OP... NO its not abuse!\\

To Craig: YES it is abuse!

If this were done by a teacher, it would be called child sexual abuse.

if this were done by a man to his wife or paramour, it would be called sexual abuse and domestic violence.

If it were done by a man to a strange woman (or vice versa) it would be called sexual assault and battery.

Why is it improved when done by a mother to a 15 year old daughter?

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 7/2/12

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To the OP... NO its not abuse!

Its called disciplining you child because you love them. God does it to us as well because he loves us.

I had similar beatings as a child. It caused no permanent damage. It did however give me a deeper love for my parents because they cared enough to beat my stubborn butt when I needed it!

You will see that one day.
---CraigA on 7/1/12

Call the police? Are you christians nuts?

Go ahead, call the police. Take the mother to jail for a few months. Then you surely have another broken family who will blame each other and hate each other.

Apparently most of you do not understooding child discipline according to the bible. What about taking your case to the elders of a church. If they don't have a church, a Jewish synagogue. The Jews surely know how to handle this and have been using the same discipline for over 6,000 years.

Three things to consider: one, we only know one side of the story, two, kids get bruised just playing so she might be making a mountain over a molehill and, three, kids today are smart and send their parents to jail just to get their way.
---Steveng on 7/1/12

Yes this is abosolutely nothing short of sexual abuse. You need to contact the police immediately.
---Jed on 7/1/12

Cluny: Katie never said she was out on a date.

Plus, if Katie is being constantly abused by her mother, she will not fight back. Abused children don't fight back. They're too afraid to.
---Trish on 7/1/12

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The question, Katie_King, is why did you let your mother do this to you.

When I was 14 and my mother tried to beat me with a belt, I merely grabbed it from her and would not let her hit me.

And if you were out on a date, it was your escort's fault, not yours, that you were late.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 7/1/12

Report her for sexual abuse of a child.

This is INAPPROPRIATE punishment, as I have said here every time this question is asked.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 6/30/12

No teen should be spanked, period. There are too many other ways to discipline a teen other than spanking. The only person who benefits from this form of punishment is the parent who thinks they have done right. It is a form of abuse! (This doesn't mean I'm against spanking, but not a teen.) The Bible states in Ephesians 6:4 (NASB77) "And, fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord." Spanking is NOT discipline but punishment. By the way, while the verse states, "fathers", don't think it hurts the context any to use the same verse for mothers.
---wivv on 6/30/12

Call your local police or state child protection services. Have our bags packed you will be leaving home for an extended period living in group home or foster care.
---Blogger9211 on 6/30/12

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Unless you have been forced to pull your pants and underwear down and be beaten with a belt, you don't have a clue what this girl is feeling. Katie, report this to the police immediately. It is abuse and is sexual abuse also due to the exposure.
---KarenD on 6/30/12

Getting spanked when you're 15 may be wrong, but you sound like a spoiled brat of a child.

You chose to disobey your parent.

Since you appear to think your old enough to make your own decisions, its time for you to find a job, find a new place to live, pack your bags and get out.
---NurseRobert on 6/30/12

Yes, Call the police, and show them the proof of the assault and battery. She may be imprisoned, but you need to be separated from her because it is not safe for you to be subjected to any further harm. I do not know the statistics, but there are reports of parents not only leaving welts and bruises on their children, but also scratching and tearing and bloody contusions and burns and broken bones, and even some parents killing their children while beating them in violent rages. "Belting" is not the samething as "disciplining or teaching" wrong for right.
---Eloy on 6/30/12

Call 1-800-4-A-CHILD.

That is the national child abuse hotline. Yes, it is abuse. Report it to that number.
---Trish on 6/30/12

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Katie my Mom never spanked bare bottom but when I was growing up and did something wrong that needed it,she did swat me a few times on the legs with a switch,even made me get the switch. I remembered and learned from those times and when I got your age I didn't need to be corrected in that manner since I knew my Mom's rules. It was already established by your Mom what she would do if you disobey and you did it anyway so who's fault is that? Abuse,in my growing up days it was just punishment to correct wrong behavior and I knew my Mom loves me and it was for my good to not do things which could hurt me or get me in trouble. If we do things which get us in trouble and punished then that's not being very smart of us,is it? Your Mom loves you.
---Darlene_1 on 6/30/12

Hi, Katie (c: You are a young lady. You say, "if I chose to disobey." So, did you make that choice? And you knew you would or could get whipped? And still you made that choice? Yes, I am concerned about what she did, but . . . I am concerned about what your parties are like and if they are good for you. And if you value them more than obeying, you are a young lady, Katie. Maturity includes being able to do things we are told to do, especially if they can be good for us. You can make obeying good for you, even if you do not always agree with what you are told to do. Maturity includes making good use of things that are questionable. So, God bless you and Mom.
---willie_c: on 6/30/12

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