I agree with brother Willie's answer. When two people split, it is because there was a problem there to begin with. And if that problem has not change then getting together again will not solve anything. Some times we feel we can change the other person, but only God can change a heart. We can try all we want, but it is impossible.
I never advice divorce, but you are already divorced. You were once one person spiritually. That has not changed. Make sure the problem is gone first.
---Mark_V. on 10/30/12|
crystle...Thanks for clarifying this situation. It appears as if you and your husband both need to get into a good church and become Christians. Then get into some serious Christian counseling with a pastor or Christian counselor.
---KarenD on 10/29/12|
Will and I wear married for 5yr and before that to gather for 6yr he is 31 I am 30 we also have three kids together we havent been in a relationship together in 4yr I left him because his family keep getting in the middle of us so much that they would try to hook him up with other women long story short he started cheating then I cheated too we both did a lot of wrong but I love him and Ill never marry another man and he hasnt remarried and I still get gifts on our anniversary we been divorce since 2008
---crystle on 10/28/12|
if u still love him and u have forgiven eachother.
---Jan_Stefansson on 10/23/12|
There is a tendency to look back and only see the good things in a relationship. What you need to do is figure out why you broke up in the first place. This may require the input from both of you. Once you have solved this problem then you may at least consider getting married again providing there is no other factors to be considered, such as adultery, etc. You need to get some qualified marriage advise too.
---wivv on 10/23/12|
I was married for 25 years until my ex went through a mid-life crisis. First I read Jim and Sally Conway's book "Women in Mid-life Crisis" and it was a real eye opener. Later I read Dr. John Kappas' book Relationship Strategies and it all came together. I highly recommend reading both books. Rev. Tom Zegan CCHt.
---Tom_Zegan_CCHt. on 10/23/12|
Was he unfaithful to you, or like wise? If the answer is yes, you may not.
---pat on 10/22/12|
And has your ex-husband broached the subject yet?
I'm sure there would be joy in heaven were you two reconciled and your marriage re-established.
HOWEVER, this should not be rushed into. Find a good counsellor and together work on your issued, both shared and individual, that lead to the break-up to start with.
Glory to JEsus Christ!
---Cluny on 10/22/12|
If you get together again, it is possible your own ways could get you into the same thing you were in, before. So, we need to get wise to our own ways, most of all . . . any wrong ways that have gotten us into wrong relationships. And, even if you were not the most abusive person, still your wrong ways could have helped to tempt him to be and go the wrong way. So, make sure you get a "divorce" from however you can still be wrong. And with being honest with God you can have His communication and guiding so you are not sneakily ignoring things you need to see.
---willie_c: on 10/22/12|
I don't like being alone much. I don't really care for most of what people are into. That leaves me with few options for company.
Remarriage, with both spouses yielding to the Potter, can be a good deal.
If it's going to amount to a rehash of old feelings and conflicts, I'd say forget it.
Lonliness can be a driving factor. The soul is never filled, and the heart can fail in matters of being true.
I hate being alone. That is why am not. God saw to it that I would not remain that way. My spouse is high caliber.
Marriage necessarily equates to suicide. Life in a marriage depends on "death" of the spouses, both seeking to serve the other in love and grace.
There is no other way.
---Phil on 10/22/12|
crystle...Before I answer this question, please clarify. How long were you married? How long have you been divorced? What was the reason for the divorce? How old are you and your husband?
---KarenD on 10/21/12|