So happy to hear from you. I think about you everyday! I often think about you.hey ,1 time mom wouldn't answer days.Worried. went over / she got mad ran out! big gun in hand! somebody call' the police
( they told me get off her.property!) my reply "mom I'm worried".) She said" I don't want to see her, I'm watching my soaps!" Police: "we believe she' your mother but you must leave." I had to find God in my life. I believe when she found out my grandmother taught me about God she really hated me more.
---ELENA on 12/19/12|
Oh my gosh Elena! That's horrible what your mother did--and then being "out" for 20 minutes?! She was awful, so glad you're not being abused now, wish I could cure your cancer though, if God gave me the gift of healing, I would. Love and hugs, Mary
---Mary on 12/18/12|
// she was a female, .put you across the desk, uses a cane..//
..My Lord , she sound like my late mother. She was the one who raise me/ not my birth mom.
Mom was just like that exactly! She beat me with a broom, I was out cold on the floor 'bout 20 min. She got real quiet. Later she told my family "she got scared thought she had killed me". Needless, to say that was the last beating.Soon as I could I finnish school, got married - get away from her. God been good to me always! Can't make it with out Him, halleluya!
---ELENA on 12/18/12|
Fred, I believe that most of us who were born in the 40's and 50's have experience a different kind of discipline that those of later years. Notice that most of the killings in the mall's, movies, schools are done by kids who are in their late teens and early twenties. What I see most of all is there is no respect for parents or adults anymore. I fear for my grand children. The kind of lives they will live. We need to get back to discipline. I guess parents are too busy working so much, their kids are on their own most of the time.
---Mark_V. on 12/15/12|
but God allowed me to get in a big hole to later take me out and teach me His ways---Mark_V. on 12/12/12
1Ti 1:16 Howbeit for this cause I obtained mercy, that in me first Jesus Christ might shew forth all longsuffering, for a pattern to them which should hereafter believe on him to life everlasting.
Paul, like you and I, showed forth a pattern designed by God. To obtain vessels so far removed from Him, that a Damascus Road experience would have to precede being saved.
I find those who have not been called according to this pattern do not apprehend the things of God very easily.
I resisted strenuously. But when the Shepherd smites, it is hard and well placed.
---Phil on 12/12/12|
Phil, it's great that you admit how you did things with family, I too admit I missed out on so many things my kids did in school and on plays. I was too busy with my own gratifications spending time with my friends since I got married so young at 18. No one taught me how to be a father, I just did what all my friends did. I didn't know God at the time. So I paid for the consequences. If I could go back I would change everything, but God allowed me to get in a big hole to later take me out and teach me His ways. Praise be to God.
---Mark_V. on 12/12/12|
Mark. i once tried that ! I got it on the bare buttocks !
---Fred on 12/12/12|
Bro. Willie, I read your answer, it reminded me of my life as a child. My mom was mom and dad to my sister and I. My father left us when I was born. My mom use to hit me with a clothes wire hanger. Let me say, it really hurt and left marks especially on my arms as I tried to protect myself. If I ran, my mom would tell me, "you will have to come back and I'm not forgetting." And she never did. When I look back, I love my mom for how she handled me. As I grew up to be a man, I always respected her no matter if she was wrong, she was right. I'm glad my mom disciplined me. Not with the hanger, but that seem right to her at the time.
When mom's have to be mom's and dad's, it is difficult for them, still no excuse for harming someone.
---Mark_V. on 12/5/12|
I remember those "paddling" days in school . Since i got it pretty often i usually went to school with 6 pairs of underpants for padding ! The disciplinarian was a female ! She put you well over her desk & she used a cane !!
---mark on 12/4/12|
Hi Phil, glad God has blessed you. :) Hugs, Mary
---Mary on 11/21/12|
---Mary on 11/19/12
Why am I turning red?
I am humbled Mary. Thank you for your comment.
I wish all daughters and wives were like my own. They are not to be compared to any in their characters and uniquenesses.
I regret it took too long to know this in my heart. It is difficult to not regret the years of self-gratification and arrogance that made no room in my heart for those who loved me unconditionally.
---Phil on 11/20/12|
Phil, you sound like a wonderful father, every child should be so blessed to have a father like you. :) God bless, Mary
---Mary on 11/19/12|
God is SICK ??
Withhold not correction from the child: for if you beat him with the rod, he shall not die. (Proverbs 23:13)
Spanking should be used cautiously, determined partly by the strength of the child's will.
The most submissive, and the most defiant children benefit least from spanking.
The most submissive child can be crushed by spanking, feeling demeaned. This child learns better through offense-related consequences or reflection time
The most defiant child will likely become more defiant, and will dare you to beat him harder. You will go insane trying to beat his will into submission
---James_L on 11/19/12|
As a father, I despised my father for his using it, I vowed I would not do the same.
When our child's strong will and disobedience with her mother became unbearable at age 8, I sought God for weeks for an answer.
When it was the right time, I took a bad situation and turned it into the worst possible experience for her, responding directly to her defiance. It was strong and forceful, without implements, only my hand.
I wept and wept, and she wept and wept, and we both consoled each other, understanding each other very well why it happened.
That was the last issue, and 8 years later she is 4.0 GPA, baptized, and relating to God on her own.
I do not condone discipline stemming from anger, not even verbally.
---Phil on 11/18/12|
It is SICK. Jesus respected children when He was walking here in the flesh among us, and He wants us to do the same. I blame a lot of this not respecting humans on this sicko theory EVOLUTUON. Treating humans worse than animals. Talking to them worse than you would an animal. Men who holds power in their hands, are guilty the most.
---pat on 11/18/12|
Hello,RitaH. How wonderfull to talk to someone from U.K. wow! Love get some those.recipes" ha" ha! Smile. Sorry, here the kids have no one home, most parents be working alot truth known they doing too,doped up.
These problems worldwide.
---ELENA on 11/18/12|
To Elena and Cliff.
I agree that we must discipline children and I am NOT against physical punishment. It just seems that there are extremes in both directions. In U.S. you seem to still have very cruel punishments which are outlawed in U.K. but we have moved far too far from the cruelty and, now, parents are afraid to discipline children in any other way except, perhaps, cancel the trip to the cinema or say "no sweets for a week". Some of these children then go out and beat up an old person and steal their money. They don't even understand that what they did HURT the other person because they've never been hurt physically by another person.
---Rita_H on 11/18/12|
It can train how you act. My mother used the hairbrush just once. That was enough. But my parents were good to us, so that a spanking or "brushing" lololololololol was especially scary and a major change from how we could be having a good time. So, it could be very effective, since we weren't getting a diet of being yelled at and smacked, all the time.
But - - - it didn't change my character, but only taught me to be more careful not to do my bad stuff while my parents were around. I did pretty much every kind of evil, while a kid, and they hardly knew the difference.
---willie_c: on 11/18/12|
Hello, sis.RitaH. when I was a child my mother let me have it with big huge belts doubled and wet and get this even in Spanish, "It hurts me worse. Than it hurts you!" Ha! Ha!
In school huge leather strapps...all this illegal now. Spoil the child and spare the rod? Is for today.
---ELENA on 11/17/12|
I doubt that spanking is "peculiar" to any culture.Most have some form of discipline.
When I went to school corporal punishment (the strap) was the norm,and we learned respect for those in authority.
Today it's called assault and as a result we have a generation of disrespectful punks!
There's a difference between disipline and abuse!
---1st_cliff on 11/17/12|