Marriage Ended In Divorce
My marriage ended in divorce after 7 years of marriage. We have 3 beautiful children. I believe God wants to restore our marriage, however, he is now seeing another woman with a child of her own and both have claimed to me that God placed them together. Help? How can this be?
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---Believing_for_a_Miracle on 11/30/12
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There is no way God can be blamed for this. To answer your question, it can't be God who placed them to gather.
Matthew 19:6 (NASB77)
"Consequently they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate."
It looks like they are trying to justify their sin. It's a twist of the saying, "The devil made me do it", except in this case they are saying, "God made me do it."
---wivv on 1/2/13|
God hates divorce. (Mal. 2:16) - Leon
Mal 2:16 "For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the LORD, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the LORD of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless."
Jer_3:8 And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce...
reconcile that. from scripture...not the man on the pulpit that keeps saying what is not written.
---aka on 12/13/12|
I was married for 15 years and just got a divorce last year. We have 2 beautiful kids which are our lives. He is seeing someone else, me still single. Things happen for a reason and we may not know what that reason may be. There was a reason as to y u and ur x hubby got a divorce. If it is meant to be for you and ur x to be together then God will make that way.
---Becky on 12/12/12|
Donna, first, I'm glad you got out of both marriages. Second, not every man is the same. I believe when you got married the first time, one of you was not a Christian. Or maybe both of you. The Second time, you should have had a clue about him before you got married. Many meet and right away they get married, to later find out they knew nothing about the person they were marrying. Some get married right away because of some need, either sexual or financial support. Other times they believe they can change the other person. We make choices in life, and many times the wrong choices. Christians should only marry other Christians, none Christians marry none Christians. Never should a Christian marry a none Christian. Things never work out.
---Mark_V. on 12/11/12|
I was married for 17 years, my husband controled me by manipulation and fear. He dumped me for another woman and I was kicked to the curb!! He confessed to me later that he cheated on me the whole time we were married. My 2nd husband, I had met in church and got married and moved to Calif. he was a lier, thief and a crack head!! He went to prison for 3 years....We were in church every Sunday...I will never get married again...
---Donna_Davis on 12/10/12|
God hates divorce. (Mal. 2:16) Are you born again Christians? It seems like your X has made up his mind in the matter.
2 Cor. 6:14 -- "Don't team up [marry] with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness?"
---Leon on 12/9/12|
Believing, why do you feel God wants to restore you marriage after you have already divorced? Is it because you know God doesn't like divorce? It already happened. God permitted it to happen. He could have stopped it, but didn't. There is a reason why He permitted it. you don't know the reason, only God knows it. Example: lets say God wants to use you and your children for some kind of work in the future, and if you had stayed together, and one day your husband got mad at you and killed all of you. People survive deaths because of God, we just don't know it. What if he stayed with you and lighted a candle and one night that candle caused a big fire. you and your children survive but he does not. There is always a reason for everything.
---Mark_V. on 12/5/12|
Believing_for_a_Miracle: Amos 3:3 >> Can two walk together, except they be agreed? Please try and read also Philippians 4:6-7.Cast your burden on the Lord.
---Adetunji on 12/5/12|
Ask them to give you chapter and verse in the Bible that states God approves of this union! It appears they are using God as a means of trying to justify their action!
---wivv on 12/4/12|
May the lord bless you ,followerofchrist' it sounds very good and may she be appreciative of your advice. You are correct. It may be hard maybe for her to digest at a glance, but.if and when she take time ( which I hope she will) she will know it is good what you have left post here.Love of JESUS! ELENA
---ELENA on 12/1/12|
Too many rush into marriage and too many more rush out of marriage. It is nice you believe God wants to restore your marriage however God didn't want it to end in the first place so how do you know you are hearing God now, seeing you ignored him during your divorce? Many sincerely deceived people believe God has placed them together and then years later God seems to be placing them with someone else which contradicts God, because people claiming they hear God are really only hearing their own desires. This man is not your husband instead of falling into idolatry over a man who fathered your children and has moved on in his life you should focus on being a good mother and learning to live the next phase of your life.
---Follow_of_Christ on 12/1/12|
I love what you just said Cluny, sometimes "godly" men make me feel inferior to the male species but I'm not--thanks :)
---Mary on 11/30/12|
\\ And you need to be his helpmate, \\
There is no such word as "helpmate," nor is it the modern form of the archaic non-word "helpmeet."
"Help meet" are TWO SEPARATE WORDS in Genesis. "Meet" is an adjective meaning "proper or suitable."
Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 11/30/12|
I perfectly understand. I have no Idea why other people don't realize that I know God's will for them.
Seriously, you can have faith only for yourself and what you believe that God's will for yourself is. You can't expect that your ex husband will believe what YOU think is God's will for his life. It's totally unreasonable.
While it would be a great grace for God to restore your marriage, I don't pretend to know what God's will for you, your ex, or his current girl friend is.
However, should you and your husband decide to re-establish your marriage, get counseling FIRST to see what led to the break-up. It's seldom all one partner's fault.
Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 11/30/12|
"Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife." (1 Corinthians 7:10-11)
I would say this is for a couple who are capable of obeying the LORD. And you need to be his helpmate, so you can help him not to argue, etc. This takes quality of character and love. But if you have been controlling with him > "nor as being lords over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock." (1 Peter 5:3, also see 1 Peter 3:1-4)
Yes, God can do this (c:
---willie_c: on 11/30/12|