Biblical To Remarry
Is it biblical to re marry? I'm very confused about this (if I ever meet someone ) my ex husband committed adultery so I have biblical reason for divorcing him, but can a Christian re marry?
Moderator - Three reasons for divorce and remarriage: adultery, abandonment and not valid marriage to start with IE same sex couples.
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---Theresa on 8/14/13
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I'm curious, then, under what circumstances you believe Matthew 5:32 would apply. Can you give an example?
(Also, note that this blog has been idle for almost 3 years, and with one exception, nobody who had commented on it comes to this site anymore.)
---StrongAxe on 10/17/17|
Now in the New Testament, Christ says the days of old are no more: It hath been said, whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement. But I say unto you, that whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery. (Matthew: 5:31-32)
Does this mean that if a spouse commits adultery it is ok to get a divorce? As much as the churches would like to believe and preach that divorce is ok if a spouse commits adultery, the study on it shows otherwise. If you look closely at this scripture it uses the word fornication not adultery. Whosever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery. Matthew: 5:32
---Dianne on 10/17/17|
You misquoted the scritpture it pretains to the unmarried... furthermore a man who committed no sexual sin in or out your actual marriage... is permitted if your wife slept with another if you marry another, because of her unfaithfulness in your marriage to her and provides an (except) clause.
however provide scripture in context for the accursed gospel you wrote because Christ continued by asserting that..." from the beginning it was not so..."
---Carla on 12/26/14|
1 Cor. 7:27-28a Do you have a wife? Dont seek a divorce. Are you divorced from your wife? Dont look for another one But if you do get married, you have not sinned.
Divorce makes martial vows void and one can remarry. My 1st wife left me for someone she met in a mental health institution and I re-married and the Lord continues to bless us.
---leej on 12/25/14|
The Christ"ian" you marry, is to find peace and not yoke your saved soul to an adulterous marrige. Your previous marriage was not a sin, you married by the law of marriage, and must as a woman through scripture leave room for reconciliation , remain single, even if your unsaved husband left you through unbelief there is no clause for remarriage.
However, will the accursed majority please provide clear evidence of second marriages through divorced from men written in the bible, share and stop shooting the messenger with sarcasm then going on to other blogs confessing Christ.
---Carla on 12/22/14|
I don't have time for the isms and schisms, philosophies that people go confuse the word with having gone to either college or Higher education. The most accursed preachers are those who mix bible with worldly ideologies. Equality is an escapism from doing the will of the Most High, he called you Man to preach the gospel, did you not read the blessed recognition of the women who followed the disciples, prophetesses and leaders, However name one who was called in that made twelve. Please read the book you were given, not my opinions, they are Biblically BIAS. I have been in church for all my life practically 45 years of great experience. I went to church with my siblings they left and I went at the age of 8 alone, morning noon and night!
---Carla on 12/21/14|
Rita and Nana,
Bless you both richly, please next time your look for recognition, ask for wisdom according to the word it's free just pray for it. WHY? becasue King Solomon ruled his kingdom by it . If you had the Holy Spirit abiding in you any at all, you would both discerned me correctly.
Truly,both your identical bubbles have been burst, and both your assessments and sarcastic remarks are absolutely INCORRECT, am I concerned by it Mmmm,Mmmm, For The Bible declares "...ye shall know them by their fruits..."
---Carla on 12/19/14|
The gospel is clear on divorce don't shoot the messenger take it up with the Master !!!!
---Carla on 12/6/14|
Carla speaks from experience as a woman who would have all women walk her own 'via dolorosa' anew. She is a woman who has suffered the short end of the stick for decades until old age beat her husband of his high horse. She is not painting God as a monster, she rather is painting herself as a hero who endured the pittance she portrays for a woman's lot.
---Nana on 11/30/14|
Carla, my GUESS is that you have never had a husband and never will have a husband.
All your answers seem to point to you being MALE.
If I am wrong then some of your answers defy belief because they seem to only be about a wife's submission to her husband.
How about how men should treat their wives? How about loving and cherishing and being loyal and perfect FOR EACH OTHER and even SUBMITTING to one another?
God is not a monster but you seem to be portraying Him as one. God wants the very best for males and females. Men will be as answerable as women will be for their wrongdoings.
---Rita_H on 11/29/14|
Carla: //we were not made equal, what you write here you will stand before the Most high for adding this concept claiming it is in fact a written fact.//
Man & woman are unequal only in physique based on the roles they have to play in regeneration.
But in spirituality, righteousness, fulfilling God given laws, they are not different.
He/She can re-marry if his/her wife/husband died.
He/She can also divorce & remarry if his/her wife/husband committed adultery.
---Adetunji on 11/29/14|
Yea right.... find the passage and prove your accursed gospel.
I'm glad there is only but a few who agree with the word without projecting a worldly concept of equality, we were not made equal, what you write here you will stand before the Most high for adding this concept claiming it is in fact a written fact.
Work your own salvation out with what ???? fear and trembling, those teeth will be ground to a plup come the judgement !!!!!
---Carla on 11/28/14|
// e.g. If a man commits adultery his wife can divorce him and remarry (but not for any reasons other than adultery) just as is biblically the case for men.
---Rita_H on 11/26/14 //
I agree because God is no respecter or cheater of persons.
---Adetunji on 11/28/14|
Thank you Samuel for your correction. I should actually have said 'most' women.
Even today in the Western world women are still kept a little lower than men in many walks of life although there has been a great improvement since I was a child.
I used to be a headmistress, 40 years ago, but just prior to my starting school as a child women in U.K. had to give up their teaching post if they married.
---Rita_H on 11/27/14|
Dear Rita your second paragraph is correct. You make a very good point. What is wrong is wrong either by men or women.
But your fist paragraph is a common misconception. The Roman and Greek world looked on women as you say.
But not so the Bible.
For I brought thee up out of the land of Egypt, and redeemed thee out of the house of servants, and I sent before thee Moses, Aaron, and Miriam.
Miriam was a prophetess as was Deborah and other women in the Bible. A women recognizes the baby Jesus. Women could own property buy and sell. They are called priceless jewels.
Wisdom is referred to as she. Proverbs 1:20
GOD overruled men in a court case for women. Numbers 27
---Samuelbb7 on 11/27/14|
In bible times women were considered of no, or little, worth. Virtually everything we read in the bible is from the man's point of view. No-one in those days would have dreamed that women would become as powerful and as important as many men.
Many will not agree with me but I believe that many things spoken of in the bible can be read and accepted with role reversals. e.g. If a man commits adultery his wife can divorce him and remarry (but not for any reasons other than adultery) just as is biblically the case for men.
---Rita_H on 11/26/14|
sin5694: //You are right that it is biblically wrong to divorce your husband and biblically wrong to marry another man after divorcing your husband.//
(1) I would like you to change your CN identity if it is possible. It is not good to be discussing with "sin".
(2) Your quotation above looks nice but it is un-biblical. It is "putting the wife away for every cause" that is not allowed Matt.19:3.
(3) If a man finds his wife not a virgin or in general cases of sexual immorality of man or woman, divorce is allowed (but not compulsory).
---Adetunji on 11/25/14|
Sin - "Matthew 19:10 says it is better not to marry and 1 Corinthians:7 says it is good for a man not to touch a woman and a widow will be happier to REMAIN a widow."
If these texts were meant to be literal, and were obeyed absolutely, none of us would exist or we'd all be illegitimate AND there would be no widows - they'd all be concubines who had lost their lovers.
---Rita_H on 11/22/14|
You are right that it is biblically wrong to divorce your husband and biblically wrong to marry another man after divorcing your husband. It would be adultery for both you and the man you marry according to the Bible. ALL SIN AND FALL FROM THE GRACE OF GOD. Jesus is a better husband than another man. Biblically, you must be OPEN to return to your husband. Divorce is better than murder and divorce is better than abuse. I am stuck in a bad marriage with an abusive wife. Not me or my children like my wife. That's why Matthew 19:10 says it is better not to marry and 1 Corinthians 7 says it is good for a man not to touch a woman and a widow will be happier to REMAIN a widow. Christian marriages are no better than non-christian.
---sin5694 on 11/21/14|
Okay...so because my ex husband commited adultery (also was abusive ) I basically don't get a second chance?seems so unfair..---Theresa on 8/15/13
Theresa, please hear me out. god said what god has put together let no man put asunder.
did god put your marriage together? or did your/ex flesh? selah
be very, very, very careful with that.
many who say god send one day will swear later that the devil is the spouse in the flesh (when actually it can be you too.)
---aka on 11/21/14|
He/She who commits adultery has decided to die by God's law. It is because of the grace through Jesus that they live today. The spouse of the adulterer can divorce & remarry. Fornication & Adultery are similar. By having carnal knowledge of a single person you don't intend to marry, you have committed adultery with a wife or husband of someone who God knows.
---Adetunji on 11/25/13|
Maybe I'm off base but why is it God forgives all sin except remarriage? Frankly I'm confused about that too, even tho I plan to never get married again. I do believe people are forgiven for ALL sin. I need to ask a person that knows way more than I do about the bible. Elder...... Where r u?
---shira4368 on 11/24/13|
Did God not divorce Israel? (Jeremiah 3:8) and then married the church (Bride of Christ)?
- No, He did not. He is still married to Israel (Jeremiah 3:14). And they will reconcile Jeremiah 31:33.
Be careful of the things you speak.
Divorce and remarriage is not permitted unless your spouse is dead. "Adultery" is not a reason for divorce- fornication according to the Jewish customs is.
---LampsWithOil on 11/24/13|
Marriage is a Law unto itself based on the 10 not 6,8,7 10 Commandments.
It is not possible to remain in the sanctity of salvation and commit adultery. If the partner leaves first without committing adultery, you both commit adultery if you both remarry.
If your spouse commits adultery, Romans says if you remarry you as a woman commits adultery because your husband is still alive.
Death completes the Law so that if you do remarry but your husband is dead, you can remarry.
to ask you to live by faith is what you do, it is your heavenly father that provides not your adulterous mind and spirit to remarry.
---Carla on 8/20/13|
Scott - on - 8/15/13 - God did not join you together,
Even if you don't believe in God, and go down to the court house to get marry - God up holds that wedding vow - Romans 13:1 - because god has put in place governing authorities - with Laws - which are to be obey,
Malachi 2:14 - Yet ye say, Wherefore? because the Lord has witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou has dealt treacherously, yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant,
( And if you take a vow, weather you believe God or not - God is a witness )
---RICHARDC on 8/19/13|
Theresa, Jesus said in Matthew 9 I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery. I don't believe this to be one sided and believe that the words apply equally to women with adulterous husbands. Others might disagree of course.
The bible rarely mentions anything from the point of view of the woman because women appear to be virtually insignificant and under the rule of men. Women were stoned to death for adultery but men were not it would seem.
I worship a God of love and believe that if your husband has committed adultery HE is the guilty one and will still be guilty if He remarries. God will NOT see YOU as the guilty one if you decide to remarry.
---Rita_H on 8/18/13|
Jasheradan, you've taken the sanctity of marriage and divorce way off context by using 1 Corinthians 7:15 to justify remarriage. Scripture NEVER teaches a divorce person to remarry. Paul wrote:
"And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife." 1 Corinthians 7:10,11
As for verses 12-15, Paul's reference was to an "unbeliever" in the marriage. In fact verse 13 says, "And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him."
---christan on 8/15/13|
Most people dont understand what marriage is. If you dont believe me ask someone what act is it that solidifies or consummates a marriage or makes a man and woman married. 90% of people I deal with about marriage give the wrong answer. They think it is a physical act.
The marriage is 100% totally complete when someone with the legal authority pronounces the couple married. They are married because they entered into a covenantal agreement. When that contract is broken according to Scriptural or legal abuse then the State/law can void that contract.
It is simple, a divorce ends a marriage. It is over. The people are released from their legal contract.
Adultry releases the innocent party from the spiritual side.
---Elder on 8/16/13|
The Moderator's comments are correct. I agree.
---Adetunji on 8/15/13|
The restriction to not remarry is placed on the party that sinned within the marriage.
A divorce ends a marriage. It is like death. The restriction you have is that you can not remarry the one you divorced. Why would you want to?
Matt 5:27-32, we see Jesus is speaking about things that offend, eyes, hands and mates. You can divorce your mate for commiting adultery. Adultery comes in many forms, one way is lust of the eyes.
A person who has been divorced because they committed adultery does not have the freedom to remarry. The innocent party does.
I Cor 7:1-15 if the unbelieving depart (in sin) there is no bondage to the other party.
Don't let someone confuse you and keep you in bondage.
---Elder on 8/15/13|
I basically don't get a second chance?
NO NO NO we all get a second chance. Go and get re married.
---Scott1 on 8/15/13|
You CAN remarry since your husband broke the vows by adultery, a sin punishable by death under the old covenant as the Moderator has shown. Your spouse is just simply no longer killed under the New Covenant.
Its one of the justifiable reasons for divorce according to Christ (Matt 5:32)
Paul also said:
if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace (1 Cor 7:15)
---Jasheradan on 8/15/13|
Yes, you can remarry if your husband committed adultery. In the Old Testament, the person who committed adultery was stoned IE dead for those that want to complete the Old Testament thought until death do us part.
Take the Bible Quiz attached to your question.
---Moderator on 8/15/13|
Okay...so because my ex husband commited adultery (also was abusive ) I basically don't get a second chance?seems so unfair because I didn't commit adultery nor did I ask to be abused :( ..never mind if God says I can't then so be it,thankyou to all who took the time to reply,God bless Theresa x
---Theresa on 8/15/13|
Once again, problems with reading what is plainly written....
Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
Take out the exception and read it again.
Whosoever shall put away his wife and shall marry another committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
It is only adultery to marry a woman if the reason she was put away was UNjustified.
Your husband was unfaithful. He broke the covenant before God. (1 Cor 7:15)
God has called you to peace.
Did God not divorce Israel? (Jeremiah 3:8) and then married the church (Bride of Christ)?
---LindaH on 8/15/13|
Mark 10:9 "What therefore God has joined together let not man separate." However, GOD did not join you together, because man separated it. therefore it does not apply. So yes you are free to marry. This does not mean that you may not have other issues that caused the divorce but yes you are free to re-marry. "For God said i will merciful toward their iniquities and I will remember their sins no more." It helped my friend after his divorce.
---Scott1 on 8/15/13|
The only reason I can find for remarriage is if your husband is dead. (You can get divorced for adultery, but I can not find anywhere that states you can remarry except if your husband dies.)
---wivv on 8/14/13|
"He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery." Matthew 19:8,9
The answer is NO for anyone who divorces. According to the teaching by Christ above, neither are permitted to remarry and if they do so, they are deemed to be committing adultery. Yes, both parties and whoever they're with.
---christan on 8/14/13|