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How Do I Trust My Husband
  
Sometimes it is not wise to trust. Your post doesn't say what your husband has done in the past two or three or more years to rebuild the trust that he has broken. It takes times to rebuild trust, and it is the responsibility of the one who has broken the trust to rebuild it. See next post.


Husband On Cellphone
  
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In the mean time, pray that God will give you wisdom (James 1:5) and prepare you for whatever He reveals.


Husband On Cellphone
  
There is not enough information here for anyone to say for certain. However, if a person believes their spouse is having an affair, the best thing to do to pray for God to reveal the truth in his time and in his way. The Bible says, "Be sure your sins will find you out." Trust that this will be true of the adultery, if it is so.


Does God Forgive Adultery
  
All sin can be forgiven by God. As others have noted, true repentance is necessary to receive forgiveness. Even the strange woman in Proverbs can be forgiven if she will through herself at Christ's mercy. Remember the adulterous woman whom the Pharisees wanted to stone. Christ told her "Go and sin no more."


How Do I Trust My Husband
  
The difference between God and us, as it relates to reconciliation, is that God can instantly see if repentance is genuine, whereas we can only determine this over time based upon the evidence of someone's life. (The Bible calls it fruit.) Our choice to forgive can be instantaneous, but not our decision to reconcile. When the offense is serious and potentially destructive, steps taken toward reconcilation need to be carefully measured according to the evidence we see in the life of the offender.


How Do I Trust My Husband
  
The purpose of marriage is to bring glory to God. All of our decisions in our marital relationships should be to that aim. Which means we must imitate God in our responses to one another. God offers forgiveness for all sin. He is always willing to reconcile. However, he will not be mocked. He will only reconcile with a repentant believer. Repentance in Scripture is marked by a godly sorrow, a turning from the way of self to the way of God, and a renewal of the mind.


How Do I Trust My Husband
  
Don't confuse the issues of love, grace, and reconciliation. God's love was extended unto us while we were yet sinners. That is unconditional love. He extends this same love of and offer of forgiveness to us no matter the sin. This is grace. However, he requires repentance and a full yeilding of ourselves to him for relational intimacy with him. That is reconciliation. Since marriage is to be a picture of the relationship of Christ and the church, this is the pattern for Christian marriage as well.


How Do I Trust My Husband
  
Lisa, I hope my sideline with Phar. hasn't offended you. May God grant you wisdom. Sue has asked valid questions. Bottome line, if he was untrustworthy for the 1st 10 years, but has taken consistent, sincere steps to rebuild for the last 6, then my opinion is that you need to grow in trust. Conversely, if his untrustworthiness is more recent or pervasive, you need to be reluctant to trust. Either way, trusting God will be the real challenge. Jack is right, a Christian counselor is a good idea.


How Do I Trust My Husband
  
Pharisee, quote correctly. It is the responsibility of the offending spouse to nurture trust back into the relationship. You are jumping to conclusions. I never said that reconciliation is a one-way street. Of course it is a two way street. But if one is going to rebuild, one must do so wisely. We don't offer unconditional trust to someone who has proved themselves untrustworthy. That would be the opposite of love, because it would encourage the untrustworthy person to continue in his or her sin.


How Do I Trust My Husband
  
Pharisee,
It is the responsibility of the person who has a pattern of wrong-doing to rebuild, or you take biblical steps of confrontation and consequences. Do not try to convince yourself to trust a person who has proved they areuntrustworthy. Consequences are Biblical. Free, unconditional trust is not Biblical, nor is it loving. Real love does not give trust away freely. If you love someone, you want him to have character. Otherwise, he will destroy his life.


Are Abortions Ever Right
  
Your question is worded in an interesting manner. "Should Christians approve. . ." Christians should grieve, for the girl, the stepfather (whose soul is in mortal danger), and the baby. But if you are asking if the abortion is OK, it is important to remember that abortion not only victimizes the unborn child, but the abortive mother as well. It causes physical, emotional, and spiritual trauma. It does not solve the problem we presume that it solves. It does not make life OK again for the girl.


How Do I Trust My Husband
  
In the book The Dance of Restoration, on p. 113, it says, "Betrayal robs the spouse of trust, love, and affection toward the one who cheated. . .It is not the task of the injured spouse to re-create these feelings, but the task of the betrayer to nurture them back to life in the spouse."


How Do I Trust My Husband
  
Sometimes it is not wise to trust. Your post doesn't say what your husband has done in the past two or three or more years to rebuild the trust that he has broken. It takes times to rebuild trust, and it is the responsibility of the one who has broken the trust to rebuild it. See next post.


Can't Stop My Affair
  
The right thing is what God says is right, not what feels right. But it can be difficult to do what God says when we our feelings fight against us. The question is, do we believe God? Eventually we find our feelings have deceived us, and things feel worse than ever before. Read The Dance of Restoration: Rebuilding Marriage After Infidelity. Chapter 2 discusses ending an affair.


How To Have An Affair
  
Stop the affair. You can't find the peace God wants you to have if you are looking for it in the wrong places. Look for your fulfillment in your creator. Read The Dance of Restoration: Rebuilding Marriage After Infidelity.


How To Accept Jesus At 3
  
I would tell her that's OK. Jesus will help her feel him when she's ready to feel him. You are probably far more concerned about this than she. Praise God that she is asking questions and responding to what she understands for now. Keep praying that she will respond fully when she is old enough to grasp commitment. God honors the simplest of prayers.


Ministry Or Family First In Life
  
Is God First? Our lives get unbalanced if we serve because we like to be needed, successful, or anxiety-free. Our families get lost in the wake of our self-centered lives that are disguised as ministries. Set an example by treating your wife they way Christ would. Stay connected to Christ as the highest priority of your life. Don't be so busy doing stuff for God that you forget to spend time with God. This ensures that your schedule stays in submission to him. <>--Happy Pastor's Wife, 13Years



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